TES IN PERSON – From Nervous Newbie to Intentional Sub: What I’m Actually Learning
2026-02-26 19:30 - 22:00 (America/New_York) | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Ever wonder what happens when curiosity meets kink and nerves turn into nuance? Join a senior submissive member of the community as he dishes the real lessons from his journey—from anxious newbie to confident, intentional sub. Expect laughs, insight, and ah-ha moments as we explore how mindful service transforms “Am I doing this right?” into “This is exactly where I belong.
Bios:
KoolWise (he/him) began exploring kink back in the 90s—though his journey took a few unconventional turns before truly taking shape. It wasn’t until 2016, when he began visiting a professional Domme, that his curiosity deepened into active discovery. In 2023, meeting his current Domme opened the door to the broader organized kink and BDSM community, where he’s found connection, purpose, and growth.
A former schoolteacher, KoolWise brings a natural gift for reflection and storytelling to his kink journey. He’s passionate about sharing his experiences to help others navigate their own paths with openness, respect, and a little bit of wisdom earned from his years of exploration.

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:
Members: $10
Non-Members: $25
Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration

On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.
You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

TES Online – Understanding Power Exchange: D/s For Everyone
2026-03-17 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Power exchange is often touted as the pinnacle of BDSM experiences: elusive, alluring, and hard to get right. It can seem impossible to get started with D/s. How do you know what style or level of power exchange is right for you? How can you find and vet an appropriate partner? How do you navigate negotiations, collars, protocols, contracts, and punishments? We’ll cover all those topics and beyond, giving you a solid foundation on which to build your relationship(s). This class is intended for both those who are brand-new to D/s and those who are already on their power exchange journey.
Class Objectives:

Be able to define what power exchange, D/s, and M/s dynamics are
Gain familiarity with your preferred power exchange style and level
Learn what to look for in potential partners and what may be red flag behavior
Understand various popular consent models and how they apply to D/s
Learn how to negotiate a power exchange relationship
Understand the truth about collars and alternative marks of ownership
Discover how to identify feelings of submission and Dominance in your body
Combat stereotypes about what really makes a “good” D/s partner
Figure out if punishment/reward dynamics will work for you, and what to do if they don’t
Understand the role that rules and protocol can play in a dynamic
Find out how to construct a beginner-friendly relationship contract you can build on

Bio:
Evie Lupine is a full-time kink & polyamory educator. She began her journey in 2015, and since that time has been a 24/7 submissive, sadistic bottom, bondage lover, and sensation-seeker. Her compassionate, emotion-focused approach to BDSM has helped thousands of individuals and couples find the play and relationship dynamics they have always wanted.

To register:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

Refresh
Clear cache
Try a different browser**

The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

TES IN PERSON – Brat Lab: Approaching Brats for Play
2026-03-26 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Are you a bottom who likes to push your top’s buttons (consensually) but is trying to understand the potential risks in play? Are you a top who wants to provide ‘funishment’ during your scenes without crossing boundaries? Are you a switch that can’t turn your ‘top brain’ off in play? Come to this discussion-based class with peers and find ways to incorporate approaches that work with your play style.
Material will be provided as a launchpad, but feel free to bring your questions/concerns, and we’ll solve them together in class.
Bio: Lubegirl (she/her) is a Queer White appearing POC Switch and the current facilitator of the NYC chapter of Hitchin’ Bitches. Bubbly, personable, and passionate about principles of accessibility, decentralized education, and community building on both sides of the slash since Summer 2015, she uses her platform to encourage kinksters who identify as women to learn the basics of rope while facilitating a safe space for bottoms of all orientations, sizes, and identities.

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:
Members: $10
Non-Members: $25
Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration

On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.
You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

TES IN PERSON – Bootblacking 101: Leather Care & Connection
2026-04-09 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
A beginner-friendly dive into the how and why of bootblacking. We’ll cover a bit of history, break down common materials and tools, and demonstrate techniques that keep leather looking (and feeling) delicious. We’ll also discuss consent, service dynamics, and the flirty magic that can spark over a pair of boots. Designed for the leather-curious, nervous newbies, and anyone who’s ever wondered what really happens at a bootblack stand. No experience required—just curiosity and a love for leather.
Bio:
Vikan (she/they) is a queer masochist, photographer, and bootblack who’s been active in the NYC kink scene since 2011. A chaos-loving weirdo who is somehow both extremely outgoing and painfully shy, she runs on snacks, aerial arts, and an incurable fascination with leather. She loves the care, history, and intimacy of well-loved boots—and yes, she absolutely wants to touch yours… if you’ll let her.

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:
Members: $10
Non-Members: $25
Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration

On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.
You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

TES IN PERSON – Power Plays: Kinky Wrestling 101
2026-04-16 19:30 - 22:00 | Dawn Studio, 38 West 32nd Street, 14 Fl - Suite 1406, Nwe Yok,, NY, 10001, United States
Wrestling is sporty, fun, sexy, and the ultimate “BDSM on a buck.” It plays perfectly with power dynamics, bondage, primal play, foot fetishes, and various other kinks. This workshop is excellent for those looking to try fetish wrestling for the first time or for those who want to brush up on basics to use at wrestling parties or in the bedroom. This session will provide the tools to start playing with your newest kinky skill and help you move organically in a safer way.
Bio:
Katarina “The Domme Kat” Pierce is a Dominatrix, wrestler, kink educator, and adult entertainer in NYC. She co-founded Sex Work Survival Guide with Tiana GlittersaurusRex, a sex-worker-run organization offering free education for SWs and allies. When she’s not putting people in headlocks, Katarina produces kinky, queer-inclusive events and hosts Surrender, a wrestling and fetish party. She is a dynamic educator, teaching everything from BDSM 101 and consent to wrestling, smothering, choking, foot Domination, face sitting, scissorholds, primal play, pegging, wax play, and impact. Known for her sensual Domination and eloquent trash talk, she can be found at https://linktr.ee/theDommeKat

Location:
Dawn Studio
38 West 32nd Street
NY, NY 10001
Cost:
Members: $10
Non-Members: $25
Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration

On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.
You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

TES IN PERSON – Erotic Hypnosis 101
2026-04-23 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Erotic hypnosis is often described as “the chocolate sauce of kink” — delicious on its own, and great in combination with just about anything else. You can use it to tighten up your bondage, sharpen your knife play, add a little punch to your impact scenes, or just all on its own for good old-fashioned pleasure and power play. Join us for Erotic Hypnosis 101, an introduction to what hypnosis is (and isn’t), how it does (and doesn’t) work, and how to continue exploring on your own.
Bio:
Sex-Obsessed Lesbian is a kinkster, kink educator, and content creator based in the Eastern US; she has been doing hypnosis since just after college, nerding out about sex since high school, and making bad puns since approximately forever. Hypnosis turned her on before she even knew what it meant to get turned on, and the wonderful world of Tumblr taught her that it was an actual thing. Since then, she’s been romping around the countryside thinking and talking about consent, creativity, and ways to do silly and sexy things with people’s brains.
Find her online: https://linktr.ee/sexobsessedlesbian

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:
Members: $10
Non-Members: $25
Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration

On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.
You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

TES Online – I Got You This…!": Aftercare & Neurodivergent Love Languages
2026-04-28 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Not all aftercare looks like cuddles and snackies—and for neurodivergent folks, traditional ideas of care can feel confusing, overwhelming, or just not quite right. This class explores how neurodivergence can shape our aftercare needs, expressions of affection, and recovery from intense scenes. This class will reframe aftercare as a customizable language of support, one that honors sensory profiles, communication styles, executive function challenges, and the beautifully diverse ways neurodivergent people love and connect. Whether your ideal aftercare is space and silence, a hyper-specific snack, a meme sent three hours later, or a highly curated “I saw this and thought of you” object—this class says: Yes. That counts. Do the thing.
Bio:
Reed [they/them] has been a local and traveling queer & poly kink educator since 2021. They have taught at Charmed! 2024 & 2025, TES Fest 2024, CTUmind, and many more events/dungeons in the Tri-State Area. Additionally, they are ConCom for Charmed!, the hypnosis convention; they run the dungeon, and have been a DM since 2021. They are a service dog, switch, heavy masochist, and all-around chaotic cryptid kinkster. They are always looking to expand their skills, specializing in supporting neurodivergence in kink.

TO REGISTER:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

Refresh
Clear cache
Try a different browser**

The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

TES Online - Summer Fling Energy: Temporary Kink Connections Without Shame
2026-05-05 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Power exchange is often touted as the pinnacle of BDSM experiences: elusive, alluring, and hard to get right. It can seem impossible to get started with D/s. How do you know what style or level of power exchange is right for you? How can you find and vet an appropriate partner? How do you navigate negotiations, collars, protocols, contracts, and punishments? We’ll cover all those topics and beyond, giving you a solid foundation on which to build your relationship(s). This class is intended for both those who are brand-new to D/s and those who are already on their power exchange journey.
Class Objectives:

Be able to define what power exchange, D/s, and M/s dynamics are
Gain familiarity with your preferred power exchange style and level
Learn what to look for in potential partners and what may be red flag behavior
Understand various popular consent models and how they apply to D/s
Learn how to negotiate a power exchange relationship
Understand the truth about collars and alternative marks of ownership
Discover how to identify feelings of submission and Dominance in your body
Combat stereotypes about what really makes a “good” D/s partner
Figure out if punishment/reward dynamics will work for you, and what to do if they don’t
Understand the role that rules and protocol can play in a dynamic
Find out how to construct a beginner-friendly relationship contract you can build on

Bio:
Sarai311 (she/her) is a BIPOC kink educator, poet, and event organizer with a decade of experience across classroom and community learning spaces. She brings eight years of formal teaching and three years of active kink engagement into her work, blending curriculum design, emotionally grounded facilitation, and embodied pedagogy. A doctoral candidate, her research on identity development and culturally responsive pedagogy directly informs her kink education practice.
Within the kink community, she has served as a Dungeon Monitor, demo bottom, and board member for Whippersnappers TNG, and is the founder and lead organizer of BIPOC at Frolicon. She presents across the Southeast at events including Frolicon, ConNooga, and Kink Down South, and has been published twice in Black Leather in Color Magazine. Sarai311 is also the author of What We Could Never Be and Unholy Attachments, and is known for creating spaces where kink, identity, and intentional self-exploration can safely coexist.

TO REGISTER
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

Refresh
Clear cache
Try a different browser**

The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though they are being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

TES In-Person - Community Organizing: Building Inclusive and Sustainable Practices
2026-05-14 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Whether you’re a munch organizer, an event planner, someone interested in starting something, or someone who attends and is curious about what happens behind the scenes–come learn and discuss: what is community organizing and how can we sustainably create and maintain spaces that welcome, include, and highlight marginalized voices?
Bio:
xin (they/them) is an Asian queer, trans genderqueer, polyamorous, neurodivergent, Dom, rope top, and primal sensualist. They are passionate about community building and organizing BIPOC spaces. They have been involved in their local scenes since 2021.

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:

Members: $10
Non-Members: $25

Registration in advance is mandatory.
Note: Each attendee must have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

There is No On-Site Registration

Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

TES Online – Sweet Talk & Mean Whispers: A Masterclass in Verbal Contrast
2026-05-19 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
They say talk is cheap, but in the bedroom or the dungeon, the right words can be priceless. The most powerful tool in your kit isn’t necessarily a toy or a restraint; it’s your mind, and it’s your voice. Whether you’re looking to deepen emotional intimacy or command a room with a single sentence, this class is designed to help you find and refine your erotic voice.
This workshop explores the “Verbal Contrast,” the dynamic interplay between sweetness and severity. Strip away the “script” and learn to build a vocabulary that feels natural to you… and electrifying to your partner.
Bonus: These techniques work great in person OR at a distance and can be a great way to maintain your desire when your relationship is virtual or long-distance.
We’ll Cover:

The Verbal Contract: Navigating safety and consent, including how to negotiate verbal triggers, hard limits, and linguistic aftercare.
Overcoming the “Giggle Factor”: Practical exercises to move past the initial awkwardness or “cringe” of dirty talk and find your authentic flow
The Anatomy of “The Three Ts”: How to use tone, tempo, and timber to shift the energy in the room before you even touch your partner.
Verbal Archetypes: Identifying your natural style… whether you are a poetic romantic, a commanding authority, or a playful teaser
The Power of Contrast: Learning how to jump between “Sweet Talk” (validation, adoration, vulnerability) and “Mean Whispers” (commands, assertive language, “trash talk”) to create maximum tension.

Bio:
xoxoDIVA is a creative, unique and insatiable Domme whose deep passion for kink is matched only by her dedication to teaching it. While embodying authority and command, Diva maintains a friendly and approachable demeanor, and loves doing “mean things” with a smile on her face. She finds joy in the nuanced interplay of being both kind and mean simultaneously — a dynamic she loves to explore in her classes.
A dedicated kink educator and seasoned community leader, Diva is driven to share her knowledge. Drawing on her experience, including roles as a Black Rose Emeritus Board Member and Studio 58 staff, she works to empower curious learners to explore their desires and find their authentic selves. Being part of someone’s first steps toward realizing their fantasies is sacred to her, and she takes that obligation very seriously.
This commitment is grounded in open communication and a pledge to creating safe, yet growth-focused, spaces where boundaries can be pushed and new depths of intimacy discovered. She is particularly drawn to students who are confident, committed, and eager to learn. Diva offers highly technical and methodical, yet always entertaining, lessons in a wide variety of scene topics.
Ethics
As a professional kink educator, Diva embraces and upholds the ethical and responsible practices as outlined in the Kink Education Code of Conduct. She has adopted the Kink Education Minimum Standards (KEMS) code of conduct and has nothing to disclose.

TO REGISTER:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

Refresh
Clear cache
Try a different browser**

The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

TES In-Person - Sensual Capture
2026-05-28 19:30 - 22:00 | Upon Confirmation, In Your Confirmation, New York, NY, 10001, United States
Sensual Capture is a trauma-informed workshop that will give players the framework and tools to safely engage in abduction in play scenes. Players are asked to reflect on what draws them to abduction play, and how to navigate the many risks and sites of both trauma and desire before engaging in play. Players will leave with the key concepts needed to compose a scene. A condensed demonstration of a basic, beginner-level abduction scene will be performed, demonstrating safe, low-impact methods of physiological and physical control.
Bio:
Lady Dahlia Trieu is a transfemme prodomme and kink educator of Vietnamese heritage. Her career in the sex industry began in queer porn, performing with AORTA Films, and later, Colorblock Films. She has been an organizer for Please Daddy, a BIPOC and transfemme centered play party, Commodity Fetish, an annual kinkshare, among other LGBT BDSM events. In her past lives, she has been an educator, combat soldier, and poet—all of which have been surprisingly useful in her practice as a dominatrix. She is based in Brooklyn with her two feline familiars.

Location Given in Confirmation
Cost: $10 Members/ $25 Non-Members
Registration in advance is mandatory.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.

There is no on-site registration.

Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

IN-PERSON - DM Training for TES Fest 2026
2026-06-11 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Youngscientist and Werin, our TESfest 2025 Chairs of Safety, will be training all volunteers who signed up to be Dungeon Monitors for TES Fest 2026. If you’re interested in learning for future TES events but didn’t sign up, please register anyway—education is knowledge capital for our community.
As a Dungeon Monitor, you’ll learn how to:

Develop skills to facilitate a safe dungeon environment
Work effectively with a team
Communicate respectfully and clearly
Identify possible safety risks
Understand the dos and don’ts of the role
Devise solutions and alternative approaches
To review best practices on skill-based play, and boundaries of consent in a dungeon environment

Bios:
Youngscientist has been active in many facets of the scene for over 15 years. He’s volunteered and worked on staff for at least a dozen organizations throughout that time, including being one of the few Pro-DM’s in the NYC area. Knowledge has been one of his main driving forces, which led him to start teaching early on. He’s probably most well known for teaching Wrestling/Grappling classes and hosting Jello and Lube Wrestling events.
Werin is a longtime member of the NYC/NJ kink community with over 15 years in the scene and as a TES member. She has volunteered across TES and TES Fest in multiple roles, including serving as DM Captain at TES Fest 2025, and regularly DMs at TES events and queer-centered parties like The Rabbit Hole and Transgression.
As Vice Chair of Safety for TES Fest 2026, Werin brings a warm, attentive, and quietly watchful presence. She is committed to creating spaces where people feel safe, seen, and genuinely cared for while exploring.
A submissive-leaning switch, she values trust, connection, and the emotional depth of power exchange. She is the partner of Lady Dee and a longtime friend within the community.
Werin is also a transgender woman, nearly four years into her transition and on HRT for over two years. She serves as a trans mentor and is deeply committed to supporting and uplifting trans youths, especially those who may be questioning their place or struggling to feel seen in today’s world.
If you see her around, don’t be shy. She’s approachable, a little playful, and always happy to help. And if she’s off duty and taking a break, she might be open to some soft, cuddly connection… just say hi first.
She tends to notice the quiet things others miss, and she cares more than she lets on.

Cost: Members/Non-Members Free
Registration in advance is mandatory.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.

There is no on-site registration.

ONLINE - DM Training for TES Fest 2026
2026-06-16 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Youngscientist and Werin, our TESfest 2025 Chairs of Safety, will be training all volunteers who signed up to be Dungeon Monitors for TES Fest 2026. If you’re interested in learning for future TES events but didn’t sign up, please register anyway—education is knowledge capital for our community.
As a Dungeon Monitor, you’ll learn how to:

Develop skills to facilitate a safe dungeon environment
Work effectively with a team
Communicate respectfully and clearly
Identify possible safety risks
Understand the dos and don’ts of the role
Devise solutions and alternative approaches
To review best practices on skill based play, and boundaries of consent in a dungeon environment

Bios:
Youngscientist has been active in many facets of the scene for over 15 years. He’s volunteered and worked on staff for at least a dozen organizations throughout that time, including being one of the few Pro-DM’s in the NYC area. Knowledge has been one of his main driving forces, which led him to start teaching early on. He’s probably most well known for teaching Wrestling/Grappling classes, and hosting Jello and Lube Wrestling events.
Werin is a longtime member of the NYC/NJ kink community with over 15 years in the scene and as a TES member. She has volunteered across TES and TES Fest in multiple roles, including serving as DM Captain at TES Fest 2025, and regularly DMs at TES events and queer-centered parties like The Rabbit Hole and Transgression.
As Vice Chair of Safety for TES Fest 2026, Werin brings a warm, attentive, and quietly watchful presence. She is committed to creating spaces where people feel safe, seen, and genuinely cared for while exploring.
A submissive-leaning switch, she values trust, connection, and the emotional depth of power exchange. She is the partner of Lady Dee and a longtime friend within the community.
Werin is also a transgender woman, nearly four years into her transition and on HRT for over two years. She serves as a trans mentor and is deeply committed to supporting and uplifting trans youths, especially those who may be questioning their place or struggling to feel seen in today’s world.
If you see her around, don’t be shy. She’s approachable, a little playful, and always happy to help. And if she’s off duty and taking a break, she might be open to some soft, cuddly connection… just say hi first.
She tends to notice the quiet things others miss, and she cares more than she lets on.

MEMBERS/NON-MEMBERS: FREE
Please note that classes will not be recorded. If you are unable to attend, no recording will be available afterward.
Click here to register for this class.

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions.

REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

Refresh
Clear cache
Try a different browser**

The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though they are being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

IN-PERSON - Gift of the Gab: Verbalization for Better Bottoming
2026-06-25 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Beyond “talking dirty”, verbalization is the skill of using your words to process pain and sensation, using your words to increase the connection to your top, using your words for proactive consent, and using your words to help you flow in and out of headspace. This class will include drills to help decrease creative inhibition, accurately describe sensation on the fly, and start verbalizing in your own kink practice. This class will be taught from the bottom POV, but there will be a ton for tops to learn and do as they help their bottoms vocalize. Please bring a journal, especially if coming to this class solo.
Bio:
b01hazard (Louis) is a polyamorous, queer trans man, a sadomasochist, and a proud switch. He’s been in the public BDSM scene since 2011. He’s been a (head) DM, a volunteer, and an organizer at parties in NYC and beyond. He’s brought kink education to folks all over the East Coast. Outside of kink, he’s a witch, a lover of spreadsheets, a writer of smut, and plays a ton of Dungeons and Dragons.

Location:
LGBT Community Center
208 West 13th Street
New York, NY 10011
Cost: $10 Members/ $25 Non-Members
Registration in advance is mandatory.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.

There is no on-site registration.

Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

Online – Boldly Bottoming Discussion Group
2026-08-04 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Boldly Bottoming follows a discussion-based format where those who identify as bottoms can come together to discuss the various topics we face. Our discussions look to foster community, share knowledge, and promote safety in the community. Discussions are centered around experiences and learnings from those who choose to participate. Knowledge sharing does occur, but from a personal perspective. This space is for bottoms, submissives, slaves, switches, or anyone who sometimes identifies on the right side of the slash some or all of the time.
Bio:
My name is Kathy, and I’m a white, queer, polyamorous woman who identifies as a service-oriented bottom within the kink community. My presentation style is rooted in service and a deep devotion to leaving a positive impact on the world by creating spaces where others can explore their own authenticity. I am a systemic sex therapist, live in Philadelphia with my angelic cat, Jojo, and have been active in my local kink community since November 2022. In addition to hosting Boldly Bottoming, I also teach on topics such as service, rope, bottoming, and negotiation in my local scene.
To register:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

Refresh
Clear cache
Try a different browser**

The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

In-Person: Mindfucking 101
2026-08-13 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Ever wondered how to deceive someone so convincingly they struggle to distinguish between reality and fantasy? And what is the difference between lying and deception? If you have asked these or similar questions, Master Apex’s “Mindfucking 101” workshop is for you. Through their signature lens of psychological domination, Master Apex provides an educational experience in which participants are taught and empowered to safely, consensually, and creatively develop mindfucking scenes. Workshop attendees can expect to learn core mindfucking concepts and skills; brainstorm their own mindfucking ideas based on concepts learned; and witness an audience-inspired mindfucking demonstration. Join Master Apex as they bring you into their world of mindplay and show you how to bring mischievous mindfucking scenes to life.

Bio:
Since 2021, Master Apex (all pronouns) has been a part of the kink community and has proudly been an NYC-based professional døminatrix for the past 3 years. Known for their iconic buzzed haircut and evil grin, Master Apex identifies as a gender-bending, neurodivergent, sadistic dominant, specializing in psychological domination, mind play, sharps/blood play, fire play, impact, wrestling. In other words, all forms of sadism. Master Apex is sensual, devious, and mischievous, known by many for crafting thoughtful, layered, and original scenes. Their passion for domination is just as powerful as their passion for community. They are invested in teaching workshops, skill sharing, and meeting fellow kinksters and professionals at events and conferences across the country. A travel fanatic, Master Apex plans domestic tours seasonally in the hopes of meeting more kinksters, building upon their skills, and gaining more experience. Outside of being a sinister mastermind, Master Apex loves fitness, vegan food, cooking for friends, watching films, and attending concerts. You can find Master Apex cracking a whip, fire flogging, or making a meal for folks somewhere in the world. To learn more about Master Apex, visit their website at callmeapex.com.

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011

Cost:

Members: $10
Non-Members: $25

Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.

Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your Member Portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration is NOT available.

Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

In-Person: The First Year: A Newbie Roundtable
2026-08-27 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
New journeys often come with new obstacles. How can we build an arrival kit for those starting this new adventure?
Please join us for a roundtable discussion where community members will share their first-year experiences. The good, the bad, and the ugly are all grist for the mill. Through these shared stories, we will explore topics such as managing the initial frenzy, munch etiquette, reading the room, vetting play partners and other newbie challenges.
This session is open to everyone, regardless of experience level.
Panelists:
JaceMax
Jace (he/him) has been in the scene for over 2 years. He is currently volunteering with the TES Promotions Committee. Jace loves being pampered by friends, giving detailed feedback, and eating his way through the world.

Lexlively
Lex Lively (she/her) is a relatively new face in the NYC scene, but she’s spent the last few years learning and exploring, discovering new things that excite her almost daily. She is currently volunteering on the TES Promotions Committee, helping to keep FetLife followers in the loop of all upcoming TES events. Lex Lively lives up to her name, meeting each moment with energy and enthusiasm, always looking forward to the next adventure.

OneStar-
OneStar (he/they) is no stranger to kink, as it’s been a part of their whole life, but is now enjoying the local scenes of NYC for over 2 years and recently CT for the past few months. They’ve taken a slower burn approach, but they’re eager to make friends. OneStar is a submissive-Switch who aims to experience and learn as much as possible; In the long run, there is a goal of giving back to the communities that have created the space for OneStar to embrace themselves fully.

SMSal
SM Sal (he/they) has been active in the NYC BDSM Community since June 2021. Since becoming active, he has explored a wide variety of different kinks and developed a particular fondness for impact play, rope bondage, and medical play among others. In August 2025, he became a co-host of the Queens Kinksters Munch, held in Astoria. Additionally, he has been volunteering with TES since the fall of 2024 and served as the Vice Chair of Vending for TESFest 2026.

Yuca_Why
Yuca (she/they) is an Asian American cis female that started exploring the NYC kink scene around June 2025. I am an introvert that has been forced to do extrovert things for the sake of new kinky experiences. Rope is my first love but pain seems to be my mistress. Vanilla-wise I am a bookworm, foodie, crafter of scarves/keyboards, and gamer.

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:

Members: $10
Non-Members: $25

Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.

Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your Member Portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration is NOT available.

Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
