ONLINE - Art of the Scene: Crafting the Moment
2025-11-18 19:00 - 22:00 (America/New_York) | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
A well-crafted scene is more than just a sequence of actions—it’s a dance of intention, sensation, and connection. This class explores the art of designing and executing compelling scenes with purpose, creativity, and mindfulness. Whether spontaneous or meticulously planned, a great scene balances structure with fluidity, intensity with care, and precision with artistry.

What You’ll Learn:

The Flow of a Scene – Understanding the beginning (preparation & meditation), middle (sensory engagement, intensity building, and surprises), and end (closure & aftercare).
Art of Scene Writing – Moving beyond spur-of-the-moment play to create structured, intentional experiences.
Key Elements of a Scene:

Scene summary and defining cast roles
Timeline and pacing
Props and environmental setup
Risk identification and mitigation
Understanding limits—medical, physical, and emotional
Choreographing movement and interaction
The power of music and playlist selection as a timekeeper
The importance of aftercare and reintegration

The class will include discussions, practical insights, and a case study of a complex scene involving all the items above.
Bios:
Knight of Xanadu and TheGirl_Star are the founders of Xanadu KINK Academy, where they teach High Protocol, etiquette, and intentional power exchange. Married for over 22 years and living a 24/7 dynamic, they blend lived experience with immersive education. Knight_of_Xanadu brings calm authority and structure as a seasoned Dominant, while TheGirl_Star, a Certified Etiquette Consultant, and a proud member of the International Association of Professional Etiquette Consultants adds sparkle, grace, and hands-on teaching. Together, they guide others in creating elegant, respectful, and deeply connected dynamics through classes, mentorship, and ritual
TES classes include instruction, Q&A, and TES Circle; class length varies.

To register:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

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ONLINE - TES Board Meeting
2025-12-15 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-01-26 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-03-16 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-04-20 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-06-15 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Are you a current TES member? You’re invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization.
This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only.
How to Join
All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn’t receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org.
We Have Board Vacancies!
Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you’re interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself.
Not a Member Yet?
If you’re interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We’d love to have you!

Virtual Year-End Circle/Munch
2025-12-16 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
You are warmly invited to join us on the TES Discord for a special online munch and year-in-review TES Circle. This virtual meeting will be a wonderful opportunity to reflect on our accomplishments and challenges from the past year, and to look ahead and set goals for the next year.
We will discuss our personal kink journeys and goals in a supportive and engaging environment. Then, if the mood takes us, we could play some party games!
So grab dinner or a snack, pour your favorite festive drink, get cozy, and log on. We look forward to seeing you there!
To register:
MEMBERS – FREE

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, return to this event page, click on this link, and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – FREE
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ONLINE: Becoming a Dungeon Monitor with Youngscientist
2026-01-13 19:30 - 22:00 | Virtual
Do you want to start volunteering as a DM in the scene? Are you a staff member for an organization and need to brush up on safety knowledge in play spaces? Maybe you just really like wearing neon vests at parties?
This class will primarily teach community members how to bridge their own scene knowledge, life skills, and critical thinking to facilitate safe play spaces and deal with various situations that may arise as a representative of a BDSM organization. Some subjects that will be covered include, but aren’t limited to, maintaining party rules and etiquette, advanced play and scene limitations, equipment and dungeon safety, methods of communication, risk management, professionalism, consent and negotiation breakdowns, scene intervention, conflict resolution and de-escalation, and critical first aid.
All experience levels are welcome to attend, but please note that this class will cover many subjects that are above the novice level.
Bio:
Youngscientist has been active in many facets of the scene for over 15 years. He’s volunteered and worked staff for at least a dozen organizations throughout that time, including being one of the few Pro-DMs in the NYC area. Knowledge has been one of his main driving forces, which led him to start teaching early on. He’s probably most well known for teaching Wrestling/Grappling classes and hosting Jello and Lube Wrestling events.

TO REGISTER:
MEMBERS – $5

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NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

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ONLINE: Tips & Tricks for Tentative Tops
2026-01-27 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
A class focusing on the skills needed to overcome anxiety and embrace your inner sadist. Do you find yourself struggling with impostor syndrome or unsure how hard to play with your partner? Don’t know where to start to gain the skills you need to participate in the BDSM lifestyle you crave? Start here, as we explore anxiety, insecurity, and other pitfalls that come with starting your journey as a Top.
Skills needed: Basic knowledge of consent and the BDSM lifestyle.
CW: Talk of consensual impact play, consensual power exchange, sex/sexy play, talk of CNC, impact toys, personal accountability, general discomforts regarding anxious headspaces, and some consent violation discussion.
Bio: Briska (she/her) is a bisexual, polyamorous switch that has been in the scene since 2006. She briefly modeled for several kink sites such as Hard Tied, Infernal Restraints, and Kink.com. Since retiring from modeling in 2010, she has been focusing on tying and creating dynamic scenes for her and her play partners at various events around the country, as well as studying as many aspects of BDSM as she can. During the pandemic, the well-timed purchase of a suspension rig for her home allowed her to fine-tune certain rope skills and dive deeper into personal 24/7 D/s relationships. She runs a large Discord for all NJ Kinksters and recently started her own small leather house, The Moth House, dedicated to Queer joy, community & education.

TO REGISTER
MEMBERS – $5

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NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

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TES Online - Discovering Dominance: A Guide to the Dominant Beginner
2026-02-10 19:00 - 22:00 | Online
Many and varied are the guides and resources for those who are new to the submissive lifestyle, but those who are new to the Dominant side appear to have limited avenues to explore. Are the expectations for the Dominant in relationships higher? Should they be? What types of skills are essential? Are they physical skills, like flogging, using the single tail whip, or rope bondage? Is there something deeper, more complicated than that? Sir Guy will discuss the physical, spiritual, and psychological dimensions of Dominance, as well as share his personal journey, mistakes, and all. Topics include the attributes of leadership, command presence, and other poignant aspects using military, religious, and business sources and models to explore and develop Dominance for the beginner.
Bio:
Sir Guy (He/Him) is a covered Master, Dominant Leatherman, educator, author, and activist. He heads the House of the Black Panther and leads the group, The Dark Lair: a BDSM Education and Support group for People of Color.
Sir Guy has been in the lifestyle for 20+ years, has held several organizational leadership roles, and has also held a title. He has judged relationship-based Leather titles, given several keynote addresses, and won awards, including the Master Jack McGeorge Excellence in Education Award, the MAsT International People’s Choice Presenter of the Year Award, and the Sir Leon Strange Memorial Award, among others.
In addition, He has written several chapters in prominent lifestyle-related books and has spoken at Columbia and Hofstra Universities.
Sir Guy is a uniform enthusiast, former police officer, EMS supervisor, and Ground Zero first responder.

To register:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

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If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
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ONLINE - TES Board Meeting
2026-02-23 19:00 - 22:00 | Online

TES Online – Are Long Distance Relationships Viable?
2026-02-24 19:00 - 22:00 | Online
What happens when you encounter someone who meets most of your requirements – and the attraction and chemistry are palpable – but they live in another country or state? Consider a Long-Distance Relationship, especially if you don’t want to miss out on friendship (at the very least) or possibly building a viable connection with a potential partner.
Bio:
Master Lala is a sadistic, yet sensual, dominant with 18 years of Lifestyle experience. She craves control and fully embraces the accompanying responsibility. Master Lala has interacted in person and virtually with men and women who identify as subs or slaves.
A certified hypnotist, she harnesses the power of her words and voice (via therapeutic and erotic hypnosis) to empower and train those who serve her.
Master Lala serves the BDSM community by volunteering and speaking at conferences, and presenting for various groups.

To register:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

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If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
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TES Online – Understanding Power Exchange: D/s For Everyone
2026-02-25 00:00
Power exchange is often touted as the pinnacle of BDSM experiences: elusive, alluring, and hard to get right. It can seem impossible to get started with D/s. How do you know what style or level of power exchange is right for you? How can you find and vet an appropriate partner? How do you navigate negotiations, collars, protocols, contracts, and punishments? We’ll cover all those topics and beyond, giving you a solid foundation on which to build your relationship(s). This class is intended for both those who are brand-new to D/s and those who are already on their power exchange journey.
Class Objectives:

Be able to define what power exchange, D/s, and M/s dynamics are
Gain familiarity with your preferred power exchange style and level
Learn what to look for in potential partners and what may be red flag behavior
Understand various popular consent models and how they apply to D/s
Learn how to negotiate a power exchange relationship
Understand the truth about collars and alternative marks of ownership
Discover how to identify feelings of submission and Dominance in your body
Combat stereotypes about what really makes a “good” D/s partner
Figure out if punishment/reward dynamics will work for you, and what to do if they don’t
Understand the role that rules and protocol can play in a dynamic
Find out how to construct a beginner-friendly relationship contract you can build on

Bio:
Evie Lupine is a full-time kink & polyamory educator. She began her journey in 2015, and since that time has been a 24/7 submissive, sadistic bottom, bondage lover, and sensation-seeker. Her compassionate, emotion-focused approach to BDSM has helped thousands of individuals and couples find the play and relationship dynamics they have always wanted.

To register:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
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TES Online – Understanding Power Exchange: D/s For Everyone
2026-03-17 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual

ONLINE - Spring 2026 TES Membership Meeting
2026-04-07 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
The TES Semiannual Meeting is your opportunity to take part in official organizational business and help shape the future of our community. Held twice each year, this meeting gives all members in good standing a direct voice in how TES operates.
The attendee link will be included in your April issue of The Eulenspiegel Mirror. If you’re a current member who hasn’t received it by then, please email secretary@tes.org for assistance.
We’re also seeking new board members! If you’re passionate about the TES mission and interested in contributing to our leadership team, please review the requirements and consider nominating yourself here.
Not yet a member or need to renew your membership? Click here to join or renew.
Technical Details:
No downloads or software installations are required. The meeting platform works on most browsers. If you experience technical issues, try switching browsers, as some settings may interfere with access. The provided link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
Your Comfort and Privacy:
You’re welcome to participate at whatever level feels right for you. All cameras and microphones are off by default. You may simply observe or interact via text chat. While TES takes privacy seriously and enforces our Online Meeting Terms of Service, please remember that no online platform is completely secure. We recommend treating all online events as though a third party might record them. For additional safety tips, review our Online Privacy Guide.

TES Online – I Got You This…!": Aftercare & Neurodivergent Love Languages
2026-04-28 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Not all aftercare looks like cuddles and snackies—and for neurodivergent folks, traditional ideas of care can feel confusing, overwhelming, or just not quite right. This class explores how neurodivergence can shape our aftercare needs, expressions of affection, and recovery from intense scenes. This class will reframe aftercare as a customizable language of support, one that honors sensory profiles, communication styles, executive function challenges, and the beautifully diverse ways neurodivergent people love and connect. Whether your ideal aftercare is space and silence, a hyper-specific snack, a meme sent three hours later, or a highly curated “I saw this and thought of you” object—this class says: Yes. That counts. Do the thing.
Bio:
Reed [they/them] has been a local and traveling queer & poly kink educator since 2021. They have taught at Charmed! 2024 & 2025, TES Fest 2024, CTUmind, and many more events/dungeons in the Tri-State Area. Additionally, they are ConCom for Charmed!, the hypnosis convention; they run the dungeon, and have been a DM since 2021. They are a service dog, switch, heavy masochist, and all-around chaotic cryptid kinkster. They are always looking to expand their skills, specializing in supporting neurodivergence in kink.

TO REGISTER:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
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TES Online - Summer Fling Energy: Temporary Kink Connections Without Shame
2026-05-05 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Power exchange is often touted as the pinnacle of BDSM experiences: elusive, alluring, and hard to get right. It can seem impossible to get started with D/s. How do you know what style or level of power exchange is right for you? How can you find and vet an appropriate partner? How do you navigate negotiations, collars, protocols, contracts, and punishments? We’ll cover all those topics and beyond, giving you a solid foundation on which to build your relationship(s). This class is intended for both those who are brand-new to D/s and those who are already on their power exchange journey.
Class Objectives:

Be able to define what power exchange, D/s, and M/s dynamics are
Gain familiarity with your preferred power exchange style and level
Learn what to look for in potential partners and what may be red flag behavior
Understand various popular consent models and how they apply to D/s
Learn how to negotiate a power exchange relationship
Understand the truth about collars and alternative marks of ownership
Discover how to identify feelings of submission and Dominance in your body
Combat stereotypes about what really makes a “good” D/s partner
Figure out if punishment/reward dynamics will work for you, and what to do if they don’t
Understand the role that rules and protocol can play in a dynamic
Find out how to construct a beginner-friendly relationship contract you can build on

Bio:
Sarai311 (she/her) is a BIPOC kink educator, poet, and event organizer with a decade of experience across classroom and community learning spaces. She brings eight years of formal teaching and three years of active kink engagement into her work, blending curriculum design, emotionally grounded facilitation, and embodied pedagogy. A doctoral candidate, her research on identity development and culturally responsive pedagogy directly informs her kink education practice.
Within the kink community, she has served as a Dungeon Monitor, demo bottom, and board member for Whippersnappers TNG, and is the founder and lead organizer of BIPOC at Frolicon. She presents across the Southeast at events including Frolicon, ConNooga, and Kink Down South, and has been published twice in Black Leather in Color Magazine. Sarai311 is also the author of What We Could Never Be and Unholy Attachments, and is known for creating spaces where kink, identity, and intentional self-exploration can safely coexist.

TO REGISTER
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
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You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though they are being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

TES Online - TES Board Meeting
2026-05-18 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual

TES Online – Sweet Talk & Mean Whispers: A Masterclass in Verbal Contrast
2026-05-19 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
They say talk is cheap, but in the bedroom or the dungeon, the right words can be priceless. The most powerful tool in your kit isn’t necessarily a toy or a restraint; it’s your mind, and it’s your voice. Whether you’re looking to deepen emotional intimacy or command a room with a single sentence, this class is designed to help you find and refine your erotic voice.
This workshop explores the “Verbal Contrast,” the dynamic interplay between sweetness and severity. Strip away the “script” and learn to build a vocabulary that feels natural to you… and electrifying to your partner.
Bonus: These techniques work great in person OR at a distance and can be a great way to maintain your desire when your relationship is virtual or long-distance.
We’ll Cover:

The Verbal Contract: Navigating safety and consent, including how to negotiate verbal triggers, hard limits, and linguistic aftercare.
Overcoming the “Giggle Factor”: Practical exercises to move past the initial awkwardness or “cringe” of dirty talk and find your authentic flow
The Anatomy of “The Three Ts”: How to use tone, tempo, and timber to shift the energy in the room before you even touch your partner.
Verbal Archetypes: Identifying your natural style… whether you are a poetic romantic, a commanding authority, or a playful teaser
The Power of Contrast: Learning how to jump between “Sweet Talk” (validation, adoration, vulnerability) and “Mean Whispers” (commands, assertive language, “trash talk”) to create maximum tension.

Bio:
xoxoDIVA is a creative, unique and insatiable Domme whose deep passion for kink is matched only by her dedication to teaching it. While embodying authority and command, Diva maintains a friendly and approachable demeanor, and loves doing “mean things” with a smile on her face. She finds joy in the nuanced interplay of being both kind and mean simultaneously — a dynamic she loves to explore in her classes.
A dedicated kink educator and seasoned community leader, Diva is driven to share her knowledge. Drawing on her experience, including roles as a Black Rose Emeritus Board Member and Studio 58 staff, she works to empower curious learners to explore their desires and find their authentic selves. Being part of someone’s first steps toward realizing their fantasies is sacred to her, and she takes that obligation very seriously.
This commitment is grounded in open communication and a pledge to creating safe, yet growth-focused, spaces where boundaries can be pushed and new depths of intimacy discovered. She is particularly drawn to students who are confident, committed, and eager to learn. Diva offers highly technical and methodical, yet always entertaining, lessons in a wide variety of scene topics.
Ethics
As a professional kink educator, Diva embraces and upholds the ethical and responsible practices as outlined in the Kink Education Code of Conduct. She has adopted the Kink Education Minimum Standards (KEMS) code of conduct and has nothing to disclose.

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MEMBERS – $5

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NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

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ONLINE - DM Training for TES Fest 2026
2026-06-16 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Youngscientist and Werin, our TESfest 2025 Chairs of Safety, will be training all volunteers who signed up to be Dungeon Monitors for TES Fest 2026. If you’re interested in learning for future TES events but didn’t sign up, please register anyway—education is knowledge capital for our community.
As a Dungeon Monitor, you’ll learn how to:

Develop skills to facilitate a safe dungeon environment
Work effectively with a team
Communicate respectfully and clearly
Identify possible safety risks
Understand the dos and don’ts of the role
Devise solutions and alternative approaches
To review best practices on skill based play, and boundaries of consent in a dungeon environment

Bios:
Youngscientist has been active in many facets of the scene for over 15 years. He’s volunteered and worked on staff for at least a dozen organizations throughout that time, including being one of the few Pro-DM’s in the NYC area. Knowledge has been one of his main driving forces, which led him to start teaching early on. He’s probably most well known for teaching Wrestling/Grappling classes, and hosting Jello and Lube Wrestling events.
Werin is a longtime member of the NYC/NJ kink community with over 15 years in the scene and as a TES member. She has volunteered across TES and TES Fest in multiple roles, including serving as DM Captain at TES Fest 2025, and regularly DMs at TES events and queer-centered parties like The Rabbit Hole and Transgression.
As Vice Chair of Safety for TES Fest 2026, Werin brings a warm, attentive, and quietly watchful presence. She is committed to creating spaces where people feel safe, seen, and genuinely cared for while exploring.
A submissive-leaning switch, she values trust, connection, and the emotional depth of power exchange. She is the partner of Lady Dee and a longtime friend within the community.
Werin is also a transgender woman, nearly four years into her transition and on HRT for over two years. She serves as a trans mentor and is deeply committed to supporting and uplifting trans youths, especially those who may be questioning their place or struggling to feel seen in today’s world.
If you see her around, don’t be shy. She’s approachable, a little playful, and always happy to help. And if she’s off duty and taking a break, she might be open to some soft, cuddly connection… just say hi first.
She tends to notice the quiet things others miss, and she cares more than she lets on.

MEMBERS/NON-MEMBERS: FREE
Please note that classes will not be recorded. If you are unable to attend, no recording will be available afterward.
Click here to register for this class.

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REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
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You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though they are being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
