Massage for Pain (or Pleasure) with Tower
2025-11-13 19:30 - 22:00 (America/New_York) | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Massage is the quintessential topping. Traditional massage techniques teach how to manipulate, maneuver, stroke, and strike a body to get the desired results. While for the most part this result is pleasurable, the same techniques can be used to cause intense, controlled pain. Fundamentals of massage will be covered, so even those who only intend to use these skills for less than nefarious purposes will benefit. The class is a combination of presentation and hands-on practice as time and space allows.
Bios:
Tower (fka Joshua HighTower) has been involved in New York’s BDSM scene for most of his life, having presented dozens of times for The Eulenspiegel Society, Long Island Leather and Roses, and Conversio Virium as well as at events including TES Fest, IMsL, Black Rose, Fusion, Fet Fest, Winter Wickedness, and Leather Leadership Conference. In addition to being cofounder of TES-TNG, he was involved in the initial conceptualization and proliferation of the TNG movement. Nothing makes him happier than seeing what makes people tick and seeing folks use what he taught them. Well, okay, maybe there are a couple of things…
Demo bottom:
Lex Lively realized that she might be into impact play when she would look for any excuse to be paddled while in a sorority during her time in college. While fairly new to the public scene, she has spent the last few years learning and exploring, discovering new things that excite her almost constantly. She lives up to her name, meeting each moment with energy and enthusiasm, always looking forward to the next adventure.
Location and Cost
Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:

Members: $10
Non-Members: $25

Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Online Registration:
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration:
On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.

You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above.
Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

ONLINE - TES Board Meeting
2025-11-17 19:00 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Are you a current TES member? Come to our monthly board meeting and help shape the future of our organization! This is a great opportunity to connect with other members and get a firsthand look at what we’re working on.
This meeting is hybrid, so you can join us in person or online.
This meeting is for current TES members only.
How to Join
All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn’t receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org.
We Have Board Vacancies!
Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you’re interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself.
Not a Member Yet?
If you’re interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We’d love to have you!

ONLINE - Art of the Scene: Crafting the Moment
2025-11-18 19:00 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
A well-crafted scene is more than just a sequence of actions—it’s a dance of intention, sensation, and connection. This class explores the art of designing and executing compelling scenes with purpose, creativity, and mindfulness. Whether spontaneous or meticulously planned, a great scene balances structure with fluidity, intensity with care, and precision with artistry.

What You’ll Learn:

The Flow of a Scene – Understanding the beginning (preparation & meditation), middle (sensory engagement, intensity building, and surprises), and end (closure & aftercare).
Art of Scene Writing – Moving beyond spur-of-the-moment play to create structured, intentional experiences.
Key Elements of a Scene:

Scene summary and defining cast roles
Timeline and pacing
Props and environmental setup
Risk identification and mitigation
Understanding limits—medical, physical, and emotional
Choreographing movement and interaction
The power of music and playlist selection as a timekeeper
The importance of aftercare and reintegration

The class will include discussions, practical insights, and a case study of a complex scene involving all the items above.
Bios:
Knight of Xanadu and TheGirl_Star are the founders of Xanadu KINK Academy, where they teach High Protocol, etiquette, and intentional power exchange. Married for over 22 years and living a 24/7 dynamic, they blend lived experience with immersive education. Knight_of_Xanadu brings calm authority and structure as a seasoned Dominant, while TheGirl_Star, a Certified Etiquette Consultant, and a proud member of the International Association of Professional Etiquette Consultants adds sparkle, grace, and hands-on teaching. Together, they guide others in creating elegant, respectful, and deeply connected dynamics through classes, mentorship, and ritual
TES classes include instruction, Q&A, and TES Circle; class length varies.

To register:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.

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You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Happy Thanksgiving!
2025-11-27
It’s the only day of the year where “too much pie” is a myth. 🥧 Wishing you a warm, laughter-filled holiday surrounded by the people you love. Go forth and feast!

IN-PERSON - TES Monthly Munch
2025-12-01 19:00 - 22:00 | Skylight Diner, 402 West 34th Street, New York, NY, 10001, United States
We’d love to have you at the TES Monthly Munch!
Whether you’re new to the scene, an old friend, or just curious, our monthly munch is a great opportunity to meet fellow kinksters in a low-key, low-pressure setting. There’s no need to RSVP, and everyone is welcome—you don’t even have to be a TES member to join us!
We gather on the first Monday of every month (if it’s a holiday, we’ll meet on the following Monday) at an alternative lifestyle-friendly diner in NYC. Our hosts will be there to give you a warm welcome and answer any questions. Attending is free; you just pay for your food and please remember to tip your server well! We also ask that you wear “vanilla” (non-BDSM) clothes.

A Note on Safety
This event is held at a public diner, and while we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated against COVID-19, we cannot control what the restaurant requires of other patrons. Please assess your own risk and act accordingly. We will have a discreet contact tracing option available, which we encourage you to use.
For more information, including a code of conduct for newcomers, please visit our FAQ page.
We can’t wait to see you there!

Tiptoeing Around Foot Service
2025-12-11 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
A workshop on service, sensuality, and getting out of your own way.
Is your foot service scene all soles and no soul? This playful, practical, permission-filled workshop explores and corrects common missteps in service-based touch through three core layers: embodied communication, polarity, and hands-on foot-focused connection. You’ll learn how intention, energy, and action sometimes fall out of sync…and how to bring them back into balance with care and clarity. Whether you’re taking your first steps in kink, seasoned in service, or simply curious to deepen your dynamic, you’ll leave with insight, tools, and a more grounded way to connect (both with others and with yourself).
Bios:
Kyla the @CreatrixOfChaos delights in turning life’s contradictions into creative catalysts. She teaches the art and science of connection, communication, and coming closer together through experiential workshops, playful frameworks, and embodied education. Through her brand @CultivatedChaos, she offers conscious touch workshops that blend structure and sensation, language and lived experience, guiding curious minds and eager bodies into polarity, presence, and possibility through structured play. A lifelong explorer and lover of her own edges, Kyla is known for her nonlinear brilliance, grounded heart, and generous field of permission. Join her in cultivating spaces where tension is wielded as a tool, curiosity becomes capacity, and even the shyest spark gets to shine!
Location and Cost
Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:

Members: $10
Non-Members: $25

Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee MUST have a separate account to register.
Online Registration:
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration:
On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.

You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above.
Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

Happy Hannukah!
2025-12-15
Eight nights of light, joy, and miracles! ✨ Wishing you and yours a Hanukkah filled with laughter, gelt, and endless blessings. What’s your favorite night? 🕎

ONLINE - TES Board Meeting
2025-12-15 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-01-26 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-03-16 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Are you a current TES member? You’re invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization.
This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only.
How to Join
All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn’t receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org.
We Have Board Vacancies!
Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you’re interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself.
Not a Member Yet?
If you’re interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We’d love to have you!

Virtual Year-End Circle/Munch
2025-12-16 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
You are warmly invited to join us on the TES Discord for a special online munch and year-in-review TES Circle. This virtual meeting will be a wonderful opportunity to reflect on our accomplishments and challenges from the past year, and to look ahead and set goals for the next year.
We will discuss our personal kink journeys and goals in a supportive and engaging environment. Then, if the mood takes us, we could play some party games!
So grab dinner or a snack, pour your favorite festive drink, get cozy, and log on. We look forward to seeing you there!
To register:
MEMBERS – FREE

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, return to this event page, click on this link, and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – FREE
Click here to register for this class.
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOG IN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
You will need to download the Discord app.

TES Holiday Potluck
2025-12-18 19:30 - 22:00
Whether you light the Menorah, decorate the tree, honor the Solstice, or celebrate Kwanzaa, you have a home with us this holiday season. Join the TES Board, staff, and your fellow members for a night of warmth, laughter, and shared goodwill.
Come bask in the holiday glow as we toast to peace on earth and strengthen the bonds that make our community so special. It’s the perfect time to reconnect with old friends and spark brand-new connections.
To make the night complete, please bring:

A Dish to Share: Fuel the festivities with your favorite recipe. Tell us what you’re bringing here.
A White Elephant Gift: Join the chaos of our gift exchange! (Optional; gender-neutral & max value $10).
You: Because the best gift to the community is your presence.

Location and Cost
Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:

Members/Non-Members: FREE

Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Online Registration:
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your registration.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your registration.

On-Site Registration:
On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.

You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above.

Merry Christmas!
2025-12-25
Sleigh bells ring, are you listening? 🎶 The presents are unwrapped and the cocoa is hot. Best time of the year! Tell me your favorite gift you received! 🎁

Happy New Year!
2026-01-01
Page one of 365. Our resolution? Resolution #1: Wait until tomorrow to start our resolutions. Happy New Year! What’s your simple goal for today? 🥂😉

IN-PERSON: TES Monthly Munch
2026-01-05 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-02-02 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-03-02 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-04-06 19:00 - 22:00 | Skylight Diner, 402 West 34th Street, New York, NY, 10001, United States
We’d love to have you at the TES Monthly Munch!
Whether you’re new to the scene, an old friend, or just curious, our monthly munch is a great opportunity to meet fellow kinksters in a low-key, low-pressure setting. There’s no need to RSVP, and everyone is welcome—you don’t even have to be a TES member to join us!
We gather on the first Monday of every month (if it’s a holiday, we’ll meet on the following Monday) at an alternative lifestyle-friendly diner in NYC. Our hosts will be there to give you a warm welcome and answer any questions. Attending is free; you just pay for your food, and please remember to tip your server well! We also ask that you wear “vanilla” (non-BDSM) clothes.
This is a vanilla event. Respect others’ privacy and consent by not displaying any kink activities in this public space.

A Note on Safety
This event is held at a public diner, and while we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated against COVID-19, we cannot control what the restaurant requires of other patrons. Please assess your own risk and act accordingly. We will have a discreet contact tracing option available, which we encourage you to use.
For more information, including a code of conduct for newcomers, please visit our FAQ page.
We can’t wait to see you there!

IN-PERSON: Teaching Techniques for Future Educators
2026-01-08 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Want to teach BDSM without making a scene? Let’s get you prepared to lead with knowledge—and maybe a little flair.
This session is designed for individuals who are ready to leverage their knowledge and experience to serve the community but are unsure how to begin structuring their material.
The workshop will cover the following key topics, offering practical tips and principles to help you develop and deliver effective educational content:

Developing a curriculum
Structuring the content effectively
Key safety and sanitation protocols to include
Presentation techniques that ensure maximum attendee engagement

Bring your notebook and ideas, and we will work on the rest.
Bio:
Goddess Narcissa, a native New Yorker, has represented both women and the BIPOC community in the BDSM scene for the last 17 years. Currently a member of the Board of Directors for TES, she has served the community through a variety of mediums, including her work as the Co-Vice Chair of TES Fest, POC event organizer, AANHPI panelist, singletail whip educator, and mentor.
Narcissa is also the founder of Mercy Whips, a company dedicated to making her implement of choice affordable and accessible. Mercy Whips by Narcissa is sold at local shops and online at mercywhips.com.
Outside of the scene, her passions are riding her bicycle around the city and the culinary arts.

Location and Cost
Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:

Members: $10
Non-Members: $25

Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration
On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.

You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above.
Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

ONLINE: Becoming a Dungeon Monitor with Youngscientist
2026-01-13 19:30 - 22:00 | Virtual
Do you want to start volunteering as a DM in the scene? Are you a staff member for an organization and need to brush up on safety knowledge in play spaces? Maybe you just really like wearing neon vests at parties?
This class will primarily teach community members how to bridge their own scene knowledge, life skills, and critical thinking to facilitate safe play spaces and deal with various situations that may arise as a representative of a BDSM organization. Some subjects that will be covered include, but aren’t limited to, maintaining party rules and etiquette, advanced play and scene limitations, equipment and dungeon safety, methods of communication, risk management, professionalism, consent and negotiation breakdowns, scene intervention, conflict resolution and de-escalation, and critical first aid.
All experience levels are welcome to attend, but please note that this class will cover many subjects that are above the novice level.
Bio:
Youngscientist has been active in many facets of the scene for over 15 years. He’s volunteered and worked staff for at least a dozen organizations throughout that time, including being one of the few Pro-DMs in the NYC area. Knowledge has been one of his main driving forces, which led him to start teaching early on. He’s probably most well known for teaching Wrestling/Grappling classes and hosting Jello and Lube Wrestling events.

TO REGISTER:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org.
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

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Try a different browser**

The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

IN-PERSON: Bondage Basic Training (BBT)
2026-01-22 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Basic training is where every enlistee learns very little of very many topics, very quickly, to straighten out every rookie just enough to survive unit life in the armed services. This class is a similar approach to rope bondage. Participants can expect to run through the basic building blocks of tying somebody up, without the frills. We will cover setting the scene, handling and extending rope, single-column ties, double-column ties, chest harnesses, crotch ropes, how to utilize gags and blindfolds, and a few of the basic positions. It’s rope bondage basics with a practical focus, leaving the participant to explore further after this class as they advance in their chosen bondage MOS.
Requirements: Attendees to bring their own rope, shears, and a mat/blanket. The rope can be any material, ideally 2-4 lengths of 30-foot pieces and 4-6 lengths of 15-foot pieces. The space has no mats, and participants should bring a blanket or mat to tie on.
Bringing a tying partner is strongly recommended; while observers are welcome, not all of the ties will be possible to practice on one’s own.
This class will assume a functional understanding of consent, negotiation, and bondage safety, but no rope-specific prerequisites.
Bios:
Presenter: CadburyBunny has been doing bondage for as long as he cares to remember, batting for both teams as both a rigger and captor, as well as somewhat of a serial bondage captive and damsel in distress at this point. Growing up on a small island about eight hours from Japan, he does appreciate pretty kinbaku and suspension. Still, he is probably more partial to being tied and gagged in any manner that is inescapable and authentic, using anything from rope and steel to tape and torn pieces of clothing. One friend and victim has broadly described his style as being whatever is needed to get the job done, and the subsequent desecrating and violating underway.
Demo Subject: LadyPraise serves an important role as the foil and “yes-and” improv partner for CadburyBunny’s whacky shenanigans. She ties with him regularly enough, but there’s no promise as to who ends up on the receiving end any given day, as tends to happen when two switches race for the bottom. CadburyBunny is thankful, all the same, for all the chaos switch energy she brings – and for today, she will be his class demo subject.

Location & Cost:
Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:

Members: $10
Non-Members: $25

Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration
On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.

You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above.
Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

ONLINE: Tips & Tricks for Tentative Tops
2026-01-27 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
A class focusing on the skills needed to overcome anxiety and embrace your inner sadist. Do you find yourself struggling with impostor syndrome or unsure how hard to play with your partner? Don’t know where to start to gain the skills you need to participate in the BDSM lifestyle you crave? Start here, as we explore anxiety, insecurity, and other pitfalls that come with starting your journey as a Top.
Skills needed: Basic knowledge of consent and the BDSM lifestyle.
CW: Talk of consensual impact play, consensual power exchange, sex/sexy play, talk of CNC, impact toys, personal accountability, general discomforts regarding anxious headspaces, and some consent violation discussion.
Bio: Briska (she/her) is a bisexual, polyamorous switch that has been in the scene since 2006. She briefly modeled for several kink sites such as Hard Tied, Infernal Restraints, and Kink.com. Since retiring from modeling in 2010, she has been focusing on tying and creating dynamic scenes for her and her play partners at various events around the country, as well as studying as many aspects of BDSM as she can. During the pandemic, the well-timed purchase of a suspension rig for her home allowed her to fine-tune certain rope skills and dive deeper into personal 24/7 D/s relationships. She runs a large Discord for all NJ Kinksters and recently started her own small leather house, The Moth House, dedicated to Queer joy, community & education.

TO REGISTER
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
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You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

TES Online - Discovering Dominance: A Guide to the Dominant Beginner
2026-02-10 19:00 - 22:00 | Online
Many and varied are the guides and resources for those who are new to the submissive lifestyle, but those who are new to the Dominant side appear to have limited avenues to explore. Are the expectations for the Dominant in relationships higher? Should they be? What types of skills are essential? Are they physical skills, like flogging, using the single tail whip, or rope bondage? Is there something deeper, more complicated than that? Sir Guy will discuss the physical, spiritual, and psychological dimensions of Dominance, as well as share his personal journey, mistakes, and all. Topics include the attributes of leadership, command presence, and other poignant aspects using military, religious, and business sources and models to explore and develop Dominance for the beginner.
Bio:
Sir Guy (He/Him) is a covered Master, Dominant Leatherman, educator, author, and activist. He heads the House of the Black Panther and leads the group, The Dark Lair: a BDSM Education and Support group for People of Color.
Sir Guy has been in the lifestyle for 20+ years, has held several organizational leadership roles, and has also held a title. He has judged relationship-based Leather titles, given several keynote addresses, and won awards, including the Master Jack McGeorge Excellence in Education Award, the MAsT International People’s Choice Presenter of the Year Award, and the Sir Leon Strange Memorial Award, among others.
In addition, He has written several chapters in prominent lifestyle-related books and has spoken at Columbia and Hofstra Universities.
Sir Guy is a uniform enthusiast, former police officer, EMS supervisor, and Ground Zero first responder.

To register:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

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The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

TES IN PERSON – Game Night Social
2026-02-12 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Ready to make more like-minded friends in a non-judgmental environment?
Join us for an exciting evening of fun and board games. Get together with your @TES-NYC friends for a relaxing social.
While we will have some popular board games available, feel free to bring some of your favorites. All are welcome.
Please register before attending for convenience and more fun!

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:
Members/Non-members: FREE
Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration
On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.
You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above.
Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

ONLINE - TES Board Meeting
2026-02-23 19:00 - 22:00 | Online

TES Online – Are Long Distance Relationships Viable?
2026-02-24 19:00 - 22:00 | Online
What happens when you encounter someone who meets most of your requirements – and the attraction and chemistry are palpable – but they live in another country or state? Consider a Long-Distance Relationship, especially if you don’t want to miss out on friendship (at the very least) or possibly building a viable connection with a potential partner.
Bio:
Master Lala is a sadistic, yet sensual, dominant with 18 years of Lifestyle experience. She craves control and fully embraces the accompanying responsibility. Master Lala has interacted in person and virtually with men and women who identify as subs or slaves.
A certified hypnotist, she harnesses the power of her words and voice (via therapeutic and erotic hypnosis) to empower and train those who serve her.
Master Lala serves the BDSM community by volunteering and speaking at conferences, and presenting for various groups.

To register:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

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The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

TES Online – Understanding Power Exchange: D/s For Everyone
2026-02-25 00:00
Power exchange is often touted as the pinnacle of BDSM experiences: elusive, alluring, and hard to get right. It can seem impossible to get started with D/s. How do you know what style or level of power exchange is right for you? How can you find and vet an appropriate partner? How do you navigate negotiations, collars, protocols, contracts, and punishments? We’ll cover all those topics and beyond, giving you a solid foundation on which to build your relationship(s). This class is intended for both those who are brand-new to D/s and those who are already on their power exchange journey.
Class Objectives:

Be able to define what power exchange, D/s, and M/s dynamics are
Gain familiarity with your preferred power exchange style and level
Learn what to look for in potential partners and what may be red flag behavior
Understand various popular consent models and how they apply to D/s
Learn how to negotiate a power exchange relationship
Understand the truth about collars and alternative marks of ownership
Discover how to identify feelings of submission and Dominance in your body
Combat stereotypes about what really makes a “good” D/s partner
Figure out if punishment/reward dynamics will work for you, and what to do if they don’t
Understand the role that rules and protocol can play in a dynamic
Find out how to construct a beginner-friendly relationship contract you can build on

Bio:
Evie Lupine is a full-time kink & polyamory educator. She began her journey in 2015, and since that time has been a 24/7 submissive, sadistic bottom, bondage lover, and sensation-seeker. Her compassionate, emotion-focused approach to BDSM has helped thousands of individuals and couples find the play and relationship dynamics they have always wanted.

To register:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

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The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

TES IN PERSON – From Nervous Newbie to Intentional Sub: What I’m Actually Learning
2026-02-26 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Ever wonder what happens when curiosity meets kink and nerves turn into nuance? Join a senior submissive member of the community as he dishes the real lessons from his journey—from anxious newbie to confident, intentional sub. Expect laughs, insight, and ah-ha moments as we explore how mindful service transforms “Am I doing this right?” into “This is exactly where I belong.
Bios:
KoolWise (he/him) began exploring kink back in the 90s—though his journey took a few unconventional turns before truly taking shape. It wasn’t until 2016, when he began visiting a professional Domme, that his curiosity deepened into active discovery. In 2023, meeting his current Domme opened the door to the broader organized kink and BDSM community, where he’s found connection, purpose, and growth.
A former schoolteacher, KoolWise brings a natural gift for reflection and storytelling to his kink journey. He’s passionate about sharing his experiences to help others navigate their own paths with openness, respect, and a little bit of wisdom earned from his years of exploration.

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:
Members: $10
Non-Members: $25
Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration

On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.
You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

TES Online – Understanding Power Exchange: D/s For Everyone
2026-03-17 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual

TES IN PERSON – Brat Lab: Approaching Brats for Play
2026-03-26 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Are you a bottom who likes to push your top’s buttons (consensually) but is trying to understand the potential risks in play? Are you a top who wants to provide ‘funishment’ during your scenes without crossing boundaries? Are you a switch that can’t turn your ‘top brain’ off in play? Come to this discussion-based class with peers and find ways to incorporate approaches that work with your play style.
Material will be provided as a launchpad, but feel free to bring your questions/concerns, and we’ll solve them together in class.
Bio: Lubegirl (she/her) is a Queer White appearing POC Switch and the current facilitator of the NYC chapter of Hitchin’ Bitches. Bubbly, personable, and passionate about principles of accessibility, decentralized education, and community building on both sides of the slash since Summer 2015, she uses her platform to encourage kinksters who identify as women to learn the basics of rope while facilitating a safe space for bottoms of all orientations, sizes, and identities.

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:
Members: $10
Non-Members: $25
Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration

On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited.
You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone.
The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
