TES Online - TES Board Meeting
2026-05-18 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-08-17 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-09-21 19:00 - 22:00 (America/New_York) | Virtual
Are you a current TES member? You’re invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization.
This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only.
How to Join
All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn’t receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org.
We Have Board Vacancies!
Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you’re interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself.
Not a Member Yet?
If you’re interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We’d love to have you!

TES Online – Sweet Talk & Mean Whispers: A Masterclass in Verbal Contrast
2026-05-19 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
They say talk is cheap, but in the bedroom or the dungeon, the right words can be priceless. The most powerful tool in your kit isn’t necessarily a toy or a restraint; it’s your mind, and it’s your voice. Whether you’re looking to deepen emotional intimacy or command a room with a single sentence, this class is designed to help you find and refine your erotic voice.
This workshop explores the “Verbal Contrast,” the dynamic interplay between sweetness and severity. Strip away the “script” and learn to build a vocabulary that feels natural to you… and electrifying to your partner.
Bonus: These techniques work great in person OR at a distance and can be a great way to maintain your desire when your relationship is virtual or long-distance.
We’ll Cover:

The Verbal Contract: Navigating safety and consent, including how to negotiate verbal triggers, hard limits, and linguistic aftercare.
Overcoming the “Giggle Factor”: Practical exercises to move past the initial awkwardness or “cringe” of dirty talk and find your authentic flow
The Anatomy of “The Three Ts”: How to use tone, tempo, and timber to shift the energy in the room before you even touch your partner.
Verbal Archetypes: Identifying your natural style… whether you are a poetic romantic, a commanding authority, or a playful teaser
The Power of Contrast: Learning how to jump between “Sweet Talk” (validation, adoration, vulnerability) and “Mean Whispers” (commands, assertive language, “trash talk”) to create maximum tension.

Bio:
xoxoDIVA is a creative, unique and insatiable Domme whose deep passion for kink is matched only by her dedication to teaching it. While embodying authority and command, Diva maintains a friendly and approachable demeanor, and loves doing “mean things” with a smile on her face. She finds joy in the nuanced interplay of being both kind and mean simultaneously — a dynamic she loves to explore in her classes.
A dedicated kink educator and seasoned community leader, Diva is driven to share her knowledge. Drawing on her experience, including roles as a Black Rose Emeritus Board Member and Studio 58 staff, she works to empower curious learners to explore their desires and find their authentic selves. Being part of someone’s first steps toward realizing their fantasies is sacred to her, and she takes that obligation very seriously.
This commitment is grounded in open communication and a pledge to creating safe, yet growth-focused, spaces where boundaries can be pushed and new depths of intimacy discovered. She is particularly drawn to students who are confident, committed, and eager to learn. Diva offers highly technical and methodical, yet always entertaining, lessons in a wide variety of scene topics.
Ethics
As a professional kink educator, Diva embraces and upholds the ethical and responsible practices as outlined in the Kink Education Code of Conduct. She has adopted the Kink Education Minimum Standards (KEMS) code of conduct and has nothing to disclose.

TO REGISTER:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

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The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

TES In-Person - Sensual Capture
2026-05-28 19:30 - 22:00 | Upon Confirmation, In Your Confirmation, New York, NY, 10001, United States
Sensual Capture is a trauma-informed workshop that will give players the framework and tools to safely engage in abduction in play scenes. Players are asked to reflect on what draws them to abduction play, and how to navigate the many risks and sites of both trauma and desire before engaging in play. Players will leave with the key concepts needed to compose a scene. A condensed demonstration of a basic, beginner-level abduction scene will be performed, demonstrating safe, low-impact methods of physiological and physical control.
Bio:
Lady Dahlia Trieu is a transfemme prodomme and kink educator of Vietnamese heritage. Her career in the sex industry began in queer porn, performing with AORTA Films, and later, Colorblock Films. She has been an organizer for Please Daddy, a BIPOC and transfemme centered play party, Commodity Fetish, an annual kinkshare, among other LGBT BDSM events. In her past lives, she has been an educator, combat soldier, and poet—all of which have been surprisingly useful in her practice as a dominatrix. She is based in Brooklyn with her two feline familiars.

Location Given in Confirmation
Cost: $10 Members/ $25 Non-Members
Registration in advance is mandatory.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.

There is no on-site registration.

Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

IN-PERSON: TES Monthly Munch
2026-06-01 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-08-03 19:00 - 22:00, 2026-09-14 19:00 - 22:00 | Skylight Diner, 402 West 34th Street, New York, NY, 10001, United States
We’d love to have you at the TES Monthly Munch!
Whether you’re new to the scene, an old friend, or just curious, our monthly munch is a great opportunity to meet fellow kinksters in a low-key, low-pressure setting. There’s no need to RSVP, and everyone is welcome—you don’t even have to be a TES member to join us!
We gather on the first Monday of every month (if it’s a holiday, we’ll meet on the following Monday) at an alternative lifestyle-friendly diner in NYC. Our hosts will be there to give you a warm welcome and answer any questions. Attending is free; you just pay for your food, and please remember to tip your server well! We also ask that you wear “vanilla” (non-BDSM) clothes.
This is a vanilla event. Respect others’ privacy and consent by not displaying any kink activities in this public space.

A Note on Safety
This event is held at a public diner, and while we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated against COVID-19, we cannot control what the restaurant requires of other patrons. Please assess your own risk and act accordingly. We will have a discreet contact tracing option available, which we encourage you to use.
For more information, including a code of conduct for newcomers, please visit our FAQ page.
We can’t wait to see you there!

IN-PERSON - DM Training for TES Fest 2026
2026-06-11 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Youngscientist and Werin, our TESfest 2025 Chairs of Safety, will be training all volunteers who signed up to be Dungeon Monitors for TES Fest 2026. If you’re interested in learning for future TES events but didn’t sign up, please register anyway—education is knowledge capital for our community.
As a Dungeon Monitor, you’ll learn how to:

Develop skills to facilitate a safe dungeon environment
Work effectively with a team
Communicate respectfully and clearly
Identify possible safety risks
Understand the dos and don’ts of the role
Devise solutions and alternative approaches
To review best practices on skill-based play, and boundaries of consent in a dungeon environment

Bios:
Youngscientist has been active in many facets of the scene for over 15 years. He’s volunteered and worked on staff for at least a dozen organizations throughout that time, including being one of the few Pro-DM’s in the NYC area. Knowledge has been one of his main driving forces, which led him to start teaching early on. He’s probably most well known for teaching Wrestling/Grappling classes and hosting Jello and Lube Wrestling events.
Werin is a longtime member of the NYC/NJ kink community with over 15 years in the scene and as a TES member. She has volunteered across TES and TES Fest in multiple roles, including serving as DM Captain at TES Fest 2025, and regularly DMs at TES events and queer-centered parties like The Rabbit Hole and Transgression.
As Vice Chair of Safety for TES Fest 2026, Werin brings a warm, attentive, and quietly watchful presence. She is committed to creating spaces where people feel safe, seen, and genuinely cared for while exploring.
A submissive-leaning switch, she values trust, connection, and the emotional depth of power exchange. She is the partner of Lady Dee and a longtime friend within the community.
Werin is also a transgender woman, nearly four years into her transition and on HRT for over two years. She serves as a trans mentor and is deeply committed to supporting and uplifting trans youths, especially those who may be questioning their place or struggling to feel seen in today’s world.
If you see her around, don’t be shy. She’s approachable, a little playful, and always happy to help. And if she’s off duty and taking a break, she might be open to some soft, cuddly connection… just say hi first.
She tends to notice the quiet things others miss, and she cares more than she lets on.

Cost: Members/Non-Members Free
Registration in advance is mandatory.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.

There is no on-site registration.

ONLINE - TES Board Meeting
2026-06-15 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual

ONLINE - DM Training for TES Fest 2026
2026-06-16 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Youngscientist and Werin, our TESfest 2025 Chairs of Safety, will be training all volunteers who signed up to be Dungeon Monitors for TES Fest 2026. If you’re interested in learning for future TES events but didn’t sign up, please register anyway—education is knowledge capital for our community.
As a Dungeon Monitor, you’ll learn how to:

Develop skills to facilitate a safe dungeon environment
Work effectively with a team
Communicate respectfully and clearly
Identify possible safety risks
Understand the dos and don’ts of the role
Devise solutions and alternative approaches
To review best practices on skill based play, and boundaries of consent in a dungeon environment

Bios:
Youngscientist has been active in many facets of the scene for over 15 years. He’s volunteered and worked on staff for at least a dozen organizations throughout that time, including being one of the few Pro-DM’s in the NYC area. Knowledge has been one of his main driving forces, which led him to start teaching early on. He’s probably most well known for teaching Wrestling/Grappling classes, and hosting Jello and Lube Wrestling events.
Werin is a longtime member of the NYC/NJ kink community with over 15 years in the scene and as a TES member. She has volunteered across TES and TES Fest in multiple roles, including serving as DM Captain at TES Fest 2025, and regularly DMs at TES events and queer-centered parties like The Rabbit Hole and Transgression.
As Vice Chair of Safety for TES Fest 2026, Werin brings a warm, attentive, and quietly watchful presence. She is committed to creating spaces where people feel safe, seen, and genuinely cared for while exploring.
A submissive-leaning switch, she values trust, connection, and the emotional depth of power exchange. She is the partner of Lady Dee and a longtime friend within the community.
Werin is also a transgender woman, nearly four years into her transition and on HRT for over two years. She serves as a trans mentor and is deeply committed to supporting and uplifting trans youths, especially those who may be questioning their place or struggling to feel seen in today’s world.
If you see her around, don’t be shy. She’s approachable, a little playful, and always happy to help. And if she’s off duty and taking a break, she might be open to some soft, cuddly connection… just say hi first.
She tends to notice the quiet things others miss, and she cares more than she lets on.

MEMBERS/NON-MEMBERS: FREE
Please note that classes will not be recorded. If you are unable to attend, no recording will be available afterward.
Click here to register for this class.

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions.

REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

Refresh
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Try a different browser**

The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though they are being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

IN-PERSON - Gift of the Gab: Verbalization for Better Bottoming
2026-06-25 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Beyond “talking dirty”, verbalization is the skill of using your words to process pain and sensation, using your words to increase the connection to your top, using your words for proactive consent, and using your words to help you flow in and out of headspace. This class will include drills to help decrease creative inhibition, accurately describe sensation on the fly, and start verbalizing in your own kink practice. This class will be taught from the bottom POV, but there will be a ton for tops to learn and do as they help their bottoms vocalize. Please bring a journal, especially if coming to this class solo.
Bio:
b01hazard (Louis) is a polyamorous, queer trans man, a sadomasochist, and a proud switch. He’s been in the public BDSM scene since 2011. He’s been a (head) DM, a volunteer, and an organizer at parties in NYC and beyond. He’s brought kink education to folks all over the East Coast. Outside of kink, he’s a witch, a lover of spreadsheets, a writer of smut, and plays a ton of Dungeons and Dragons.

Location:
LGBT Community Center
208 West 13th Street
New York, NY 10011
Cost: $10 Members/ $25 Non-Members
Registration in advance is mandatory.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.

There is no on-site registration.

Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

IN-PERSON - TES Fest 2026
2026-07-02 15:00 - 2026-07-05 11:00 | Piscataway, NJ, Piscataway, NJ, United States
Step into the heat of summer and the thrill of connection—TES Fest 2026 is calling.
July 2–5, join us for our 28th year of one of the longest-running and most beloved kink and BDSM gatherings in the country.
Four days of education, exploration, and electric connection await—featuring world-class workshops, amazing special events and meetups, sultry evening indoor dungeon, and a 24-hour outdoor dungeon where the energy never stops. Whether you’re here to learn, connect, or indulge, there’s space for every edge of your desire.
Come curious. Leave charged.
TES Fest 2026
Where passion meets possibility.

TES Online - TES Board Meeting
2026-07-20 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States

TES IN PERSON – Game Night Social
2026-07-23 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Ready to make more like-minded friends in a non-judgmental environment?
Join us for an exciting evening of fun and board games. Get together with your @TES-NYC friends for a relaxing social.
While we will have some popular board games available, feel free to bring some of your favorites. All are welcome.
Please register before attending for convenience and more fun!

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:
Members/Non-members: FREE
Prior Registration is Mandatory
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.
Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

There is No On-Site Registration
Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

Online – Boldly Bottoming Discussion Group
2026-08-04 19:00 - 22:00 | Virtual
Boldly Bottoming follows a discussion-based format where those who identify as bottoms can come together to discuss the various topics we face. Our discussions look to foster community, share knowledge, and promote safety in the community. Discussions are centered around experiences and learnings from those who choose to participate. Knowledge sharing does occur, but from a personal perspective. This space is for bottoms, submissives, slaves, switches, or anyone who sometimes identifies on the right side of the slash some or all of the time.
Bio:
My name is Kathy, and I’m a white, queer, polyamorous woman who identifies as a service-oriented bottom within the kink community. My presentation style is rooted in service and a deep devotion to leaving a positive impact on the world by creating spaces where others can explore their own authenticity. I am a systemic sex therapist, live in Philadelphia with my angelic cat, Jojo, and have been active in my local kink community since November 2022. In addition to hosting Boldly Bottoming, I also teach on topics such as service, rope, bottoming, and negotiation in my local scene.
To register:
MEMBERS – $5

Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.
**Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following:

Refresh
Clear cache
Try a different browser**

The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times.
You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

In-Person: Mindfucking 101
2026-08-13 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Ever wondered how to deceive someone so convincingly they struggle to distinguish between reality and fantasy? And what is the difference between lying and deception? If you have asked these or similar questions, Master Apex’s “Mindfucking 101” workshop is for you. Through their signature lens of psychological domination, Master Apex provides an educational experience in which participants are taught and empowered to safely, consensually, and creatively develop mindfucking scenes. Workshop attendees can expect to learn core mindfucking concepts and skills; brainstorm their own mindfucking ideas based on concepts learned; and witness an audience-inspired mindfucking demonstration. Join Master Apex as they bring you into their world of mindplay and show you how to bring mischievous mindfucking scenes to life.

Bio:
Since 2021, Master Apex (all pronouns) has been a part of the kink community and has proudly been an NYC-based professional døminatrix for the past 3 years. Known for their iconic buzzed haircut and evil grin, Master Apex identifies as a gender-bending, neurodivergent, sadistic dominant, specializing in psychological domination, mind play, sharps/blood play, fire play, impact, wrestling. In other words, all forms of sadism. Master Apex is sensual, devious, and mischievous, known by many for crafting thoughtful, layered, and original scenes. Their passion for domination is just as powerful as their passion for community. They are invested in teaching workshops, skill sharing, and meeting fellow kinksters and professionals at events and conferences across the country. A travel fanatic, Master Apex plans domestic tours seasonally in the hopes of meeting more kinksters, building upon their skills, and gaining more experience. Outside of being a sinister mastermind, Master Apex loves fitness, vegan food, cooking for friends, watching films, and attending concerts. You can find Master Apex cracking a whip, fire flogging, or making a meal for folks somewhere in the world. To learn more about Master Apex, visit their website at callmeapex.com.

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011

Cost:

Members: $10
Non-Members: $25

Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.

Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your Member Portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration is NOT available.

Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

In-Person: The First Year: A Newbie Roundtable
2026-08-27 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
New journeys often come with new obstacles. How can we build an arrival kit for those starting this new adventure?
Please join us for a roundtable discussion where community members will share their first-year experiences. The good, the bad, and the ugly are all grist for the mill. Through these shared stories, we will explore topics such as managing the initial frenzy, munch etiquette, reading the room, vetting play partners and other newbie challenges.
This session is open to everyone, regardless of experience level.
Panelists:
JaceMax
Jace (he/him) has been in the scene for over 2 years. He is currently volunteering with the TES Promotions Committee. Jace loves being pampered by friends, giving detailed feedback, and eating his way through the world.

Lexlively
Lex Lively (she/her) is a relatively new face in the NYC scene, but she’s spent the last few years learning and exploring, discovering new things that excite her almost daily. She is currently volunteering on the TES Promotions Committee, helping to keep FetLife followers in the loop of all upcoming TES events. Lex Lively lives up to her name, meeting each moment with energy and enthusiasm, always looking forward to the next adventure.

OneStar-
OneStar (he/they) is no stranger to kink, as it’s been a part of their whole life, but is now enjoying the local scenes of NYC for over 2 years and recently CT for the past few months. They’ve taken a slower burn approach, but they’re eager to make friends. OneStar is a submissive-Switch who aims to experience and learn as much as possible; In the long run, there is a goal of giving back to the communities that have created the space for OneStar to embrace themselves fully.

SMSal
SM Sal (he/they) has been active in the NYC BDSM Community since June 2021. Since becoming active, he has explored a wide variety of different kinks and developed a particular fondness for impact play, rope bondage, and medical play among others. In August 2025, he became a co-host of the Queens Kinksters Munch, held in Astoria. Additionally, he has been volunteering with TES since the fall of 2024 and served as the Vice Chair of Vending for TESFest 2026.

Yuca_Why
Yuca (she/they) is an Asian American cis female that started exploring the NYC kink scene around June 2025. I am an introvert that has been forced to do extrovert things for the sake of new kinky experiences. Rope is my first love but pain seems to be my mistress. Vanilla-wise I am a bookworm, foodie, crafter of scarves/keyboards, and gamer.

Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:

Members: $10
Non-Members: $25

Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.

Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your Member Portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration is NOT available.

Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

Intent to Run Deadline
2026-08-28
Members interested in running for the TES Board of Directors or for Parliamentarian must submit their intent by 11:59 PM EST. Candidates must be TES members in good standing for at least one full calendar year. Please email your notification of intent and candidate statement to elections@tes.org and tes@tes.org.

In-Person: Infusing Kink with Diaper Play
2026-09-10 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Why not …diapers?
Tips on elongating bondage sessions?
Wanna kick up your humiliation game?
Learn how to emphasize a power dynamic?
Curious about ageplay?
Let’s unpack and confront the ways to incorporate diapers into safe, sane and consensual AND FUN ways.
Bio:
BabyMisty has been active in the ABDL (Adult Baby Diaper Lover) community since the 1990s. She has hosted events for ~30 years starting in San Francisco, California and continues to hold events in the NYC area including the banner ongoing event, Kinky Rinky (a roller skating take-over).
Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:

Members: $10
Non-Members: $25

Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.

Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your Member Portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration is NOT available.

Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

In-Person: Beyond “No Means No”: Consent Negotiation & Safer Play
2026-09-24 19:30 - 22:00 | LGBT Community Center, 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, 10011, United States
Think you know consent? Let’s level it up.
This class goes way beyond “no means no” and gets into the real art of negotiation, communication, and connection in BDSM and intimate play. Learn how to actually say what you want (and what you don’t), set clear boundaries without killing the vibe, and use safewords and check-ins like a pro.
We’ll explore tools like the Wheel of Consent to untangle giving vs. receiving (because yes, there’s a difference), plus practice real-life negotiation and in-the-moment communication skills you can take straight into your scenes.
Expect interactive exercises, honest conversations, and a supportive space to build confidence, clarity, and better play—for you and your partners.
Bio:
Goddess Coko (she/her) has been a member of the NYC kink scene for over 20+ years. She is happy and excited to be back serving on the TES Board as Secretary, a role she is familiar with from her earlier time on the Board. Goddess Coko serves as Chair of the Communications and the Promotions Committees, Vice Chair of Community Relations, and volunteers on the POC Committee.
Goddess Coko is also a Founding Mother of ONYX PEARLS NY-Northeast and former Co-Head and Web Mistress of ClubFEM NYC. She is a proud member of Goddess House NJ, a FemDom-led Leather family.
Location:
The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center)
208 West 13th Street,
New York, NY 10011
Cost:

Members: $10
Non-Members: $25

Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue.
Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register.

Registration Instructions
If You Already Have an Account

Register: Click here to go to the class registration page.
Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

If You Need to Create an Account
For Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

For Non-Members:

Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your Member Portal account here.
Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password.
Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class.
Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment.

On-Site Registration is NOT available.

Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
