You Get A Boundary! And YOU Get A Boundary! Boundaries in kink, from the personal to the community. What is a boundary? How is it different from a rule or a demand? In this presentation and discussion, Nookie will cover the basics of boundaries, and the specifics of boundaries in kink relationships, then we’ll have 30 minutes to talk about how unhealthy boundaries affect the people around you and the community. @NookieNotes (she/her) grew up in the lifestyle and around people of every color and bent, and was taught that acceptance is the highest form of love. She identifies as a hedonistic dominant cuckoldress-pimptress who is polyamorous and monoromantic. She jokes that her fetishes are communication and behavior modification, but she loves everything power exchange and the mental game of kink, along with butt play. She is the founder of DatingKinky.com and Curiouser.Life TES classes include instruction, Q&A and TES Circle; class lengths vary. To register: MEMBERS -$5 Login or create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, rclick on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Login or create a TES account To complete your purchase, click on this link to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOG IN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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What is needle play? It is different things to different people but for Bumper, it’s art. The idea of turning someone’s body into a canvas to create beautiful artwork, is their passion. This class is designed to give you basic knowledge of Needle Play. We will discuss what it is, why we do it, how we do it, and how to be safe doing to it. We will start with a discussion for about 45 minutes and then Bumper will demo how to do it. We will touch on a little 201 play, but this is primarily a 101 class and will provide you with the basic fundamentals for beginning needle play. @-Bumper- is a Non-Binary Queer Leather human from Southeast Virginia. Bumper enjoys both sides of the slash. They flag Purple, Tan, Dark Blue and Black on the Left; Black, Teddy Bears and Light Blue on the right. Some of Bumper’s favorite things include cigars, needle play, microbranding and impact play. Bumper was your Mid Atlantic Leatherwoman Bootblack 2018 and you can find them traveling a lot all around the Mid-Atlantic. They Co-Produce Bootblack Round Up and Mx Virginia Leather Contest. If you want to chat with them, just start with penguins, that’s a guaranteed win!!! TES classes include instruction, Q&A and TES Circle; class lengths vary. To register: MEMBERS -$5 Login or create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, return to this FL event page, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Login or create a TES account To complete your purchase, return to this FL event page, click on this link to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOG IN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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Open to all current members. Information on how to join is distributed to the membership on March 1. If you are a member, would like to join, and did not receive this information, please email secretary@tes.org We have board vacancies! Please click here to find out requirements and consider nominating yourself. Need to renew your membership or join for the first time? Click here. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service ), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide…

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Whether you dream of humans flying and suffering in hemp rope, or if you read detective stories just to get to the point where the damsel in distress gets bound and gagged by the villains, we invite you to join the first Bondage Special Interest Group (SIG) social and demonstration of the year. Whatever your identity and role, we welcome you to this casual social event to meet others who share your interest. Participation and previous experience is welcome but by no means required. Anybody with an interest in bondage, regardless of style or materials preferred, are all equally welcome here. Mel_Ann will be bringing her collection of leather and steel bondage gear from around the world for all to have a look at and feel. You may or may not get to see her demonstrate how to use some on @CadburyBunny , who is himself a bondage switch. He will also be bringing along his own bondage kit: including rope, steel, blindfolds, gags, and flex cuffs. There will be a chance for all to socialize with one another, ask either of the two leaders questions, and have a look at the various implements….

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@AbundantMischief is a queer polyamorous toppy switch, gleeful sadomasochist, and enthusiastic boot fetishist. She has been active in the Northeast US kink community for over 15 years, and enjoys bringing crossover knowledge from her 2 decades of experience as a professional dancer, circus artist, and performing arts educator into her kink teaching. She has taught for Dark Odyssey, TES, TESFest, Tethered Together, IMsLBB, Pragmatic Kink, MAsT: Auckland, CUFF, House of Kush, House of SCK, and Black Rose. Do you love the idea of stepping on people, want to be stepped on, or want to know more ways to incorporate boot-related kinks into your play? This class will cover techniques for standing and walking on someone, safer body positions for both bottoms and tops, and considerations for choosing footwear for a trampling scene. We’ll also explore the wide variety of other kinds of play involving boots, such as kicking and other forms of boot-based rough body play, sensation play, cbt, and boot worship as part of a scene, including considerations for safety, hygiene, and aftercare. To register: MEMBERS -$5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOG IN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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Femdommery is an art. That’s why like many artists, you can create an expression wholly unique to you and your brand of feminism. In this class we will explore what I believe are the basic “tools” needed to step into your place as a confident Femdom, avoid neuromuscular lockdown, and tap into your sexuality muse to escape the limitations of the painfully patriarchal vanilla-world. Let me share the secrets, tricks, tips, and myths of my long-time craft. d20domme is an international Behavioral Expert PhD and Hypnotherapist with 15+ years in the kinky community as a 24/7 Lifestyle Female Dominant. She is unapologetically kinky and known as a pint-height, poly(androus), plus-size, POC, who knows what She wants and will use Her craft in mindfuckery and persuasive viper tongue to get it. Find Her writing on Her popular living-memoir website “From Mundane To Mistress,” chatting on podcasts, teaching classes, workshops, demos, or presenting virtually across the globe. TES classes include instruction, Q&A and TES Circle; class length varies. To register: MEMBERS -$5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOG IN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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Come join @Goddess_Narcissa and the TES Femme Dominance Special Interest Group as we celebrate Women’s History Month. We will be hosting the TES Hump Day Munch on Wednesday, March 27th. Come join us! Wednesday, March 27th 7:30pm Skylight Diner 402 W 34th St. (@ 9th Ave) New York, NY 10001 Open to femme and feminine identifying dominants, the submissives who enjoy serving them and all allies. Let’s get together to enjoy some food and beverages, talk about achievements and future goals. Our hosts will be there to welcome you and answer any questions. There is no cost to attend this event beyond paying for the food you order (and please tip your server well!) The TES Munch is our monthly gathering on the last Wednesday of each month. It’s a great opportunity to meet and hangout with your fellow kinksters in a low-key, low pressure environment. It is open to all members of the community in good standing, and those who are new to the scene are especially encouraged to attend. There is no requirement to RSVP ahead of time, and you do not need to be a TES member to attend. Please note that we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated and up-to-date against Covid. However, this event is hosted at a diner that is open to other patrons, and we cannot control for anything beyond what the restaurant requires. Please assess your own risk profiles and act accordingly. We will be providing a discrete option for contact tracing, which is highly encouraged….

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Warning Signs and Red Flags: how do you decide if a Dominant is right for you? This class will be a mix of storytelling and discussion. Learn to navigate the dynamics of submissive relationships by identifying red flags and signs in Dominant Women. Gain insights from three decades of a submissive’s experience to make informed choices and avoid potential pitfalls. Engage in meaningful conversations to make informed choices and navigate the path of submission with confidence. Chucky (Houseslave2000), has been a submissive for more than 30 years; most of that time based in NYC. He is a long time TES member, current board member and frequent presenter. Chucky has been a houseboy at almost every known dungeon (The Parthenon, Pandora’s Box, The Den of Iniquity, Arena/Blaze,The Crown/Taillor Group, Nutcracker Suite, etc.) in NYC, while serving some of the most prestigious Dommes (Even having an integral role in the ‘development’ of some) in the scene. He thrives in intense scenes and has been known to be a bit playful while at the mercy of Sadists who only want to see him suffer. When he is not in service, you may see him behind a bar at a fetish event, holding and serving you drinks with a big smile, or behind the scenes helping curate spaces and building community. TES classes include instruction, Q&A and TES Circle; class lengths vary. To register: MEMBERS -$5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOG IN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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Join the femme dominance group as we tour the Museum of Sex. Goddess_Narcissa will lead a walk through the history and evolution of human sexuality, viewing the uniquely curated exhibits. Meet up at 7pm. Our reserved entry time will be at 7:30pm. Plan to be visually entertained for 2 hours. We are receiving a discounted group price. As with all TES groups, respect and discretion will be expected. Please see the museum’s website for code of conduct. https://www.museumofsex.com Note: Because the ticket prices are going to the Museum of Sex, there will be no additional Members discount Please secure your spot and purchase your ticket in advance here…

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The trials and tribulations of anyone who travels in the field of the fetish world can be very daunting and enlightening. Based on one man’s experience, this is very challenging, yet meaningful in terms of how to handle himself in the throes of BDSM as well as taking those lessons and applying it to regular, vanilla life. Let’s discuss how someone can turn anything into a positive and learning lesson, even in the face of negativism in a place that misleads all into thinking there is solace in its being. Chucky (@houseslave2000), has been a submissive for more than 30 years; most of that time based in NYC. He is a long time TES member, current board member and frequent presenter. Chucky has been a houseboy at almost every known dungeon (The Parthenon, Pandora’s Box, The Den of Iniquity, Arena/Blaze,The Crown/Taillor Group, Nutcracker Suite, etc.) in NYC, while serving some of the most prestigious Dommes (Even having an integral role in the ‘development’ of some) in the scene. He thrives in intense scenes and has been known to be a bit playful while at the mercy of Sadists who only want to see him suffer. When he is not in service, you may see him behind a bar at a fetish event, holding and serving you drinks with a big smile, or behind the scenes helping curate spaces and building community. TES has returned to IN PERSON classes every other Thursday, now at The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center, AKA The Center!!! TES classes include instruction, Q&A and TES Circle. Class length varies. Please bring a legal ID to verify your age, and be prepared to show proof of a primary course of COVID vaccination and proof of having received a booster or wear a KN95 mask while in our class space. TES will supply masks at ops, and anyone requiring help providing the required proof can reach out to customer-care@tes.org for assistance. To register in advance (strongly preferred): If you already have a TES account, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER MEMBERS -$10 / NON-MEMBERS – $25 Create a Member Portal account Members: use the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. Non-members: you will still need to make an account to register . Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on THIS LINK and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. To register on-site: There will be a QR code available to allow you to register on-site following the same process above, but TES will not be able to accept cash at the door. If you’re unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we’ll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class….

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