Being desired is one of the most powerful feelings we as humans have. It affirms us, validates us and turns us on. We crave objectification. Are you strong enough to admit it? Whether you want to be the object of their desire or a physical object they can use and abuse, objectification is a natural craving. We will discuss the different ways people can be objectified and the empowering feelings you can get from it. VintageKinkyDoll has been active in the lifestyle for 19 years. She is a participating member in the scene of numerous locales and very active in the Houston and Texas scenes. She is Chairman of the Board for HPEP, a member of HEAT, Eros, Italia Fetish and SCK. She is best known for her presentations and demonstrations on dollification, degradation, objectification and 50s Household, from a submissive point of view and learning. Her vanilla life is filled with family, friends, being a business owner and serving the community by serving on a few too many vanilla committees and boards. To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this class registration link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $20 Click here register for this class. If you’re unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we’ll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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People participate in Bondage, Discipline, and Sadism/Masochism, and do so while not knowing the potential legal pitfalls. It is time to get down to brass tacks. What legal dangers are inherent to what it is we do? The simple truth is, legal issues abound when it comes to participating in BDSM and always have. It can affect several areas in our lives, including family, criminal, civil, estate planning, healthcare, and even businesses law. How can you prepare yourself for the worst case scenario? Come find out when Lady Steele presents BDSM and the Law. Lady Steele identifies as a femme Alpha leather slave. She has served in the Leather community since 1999 wherein she has presented and volunteered across the country. She resides in Atlanta where she operates her law practice that serves alternative lifestyles. She is the only out, open, and practicing attorney in the southeast that specializes in the issues that are unique to the BDSM and ethical non-momogamy communities. Lady Steele is the co-founder and co-lead of the Center of Learning and School of Success (C.L.A.S.S.), Atlanta’s Worthless Bastards (Cigar) Club, and The Leather Coterie’s (T.L.C.) Atlanta Chapter. She acts as Board Support, Convention Attorney, and Vendor Coordinator for the Leather Leadership Conference, serves at Treasurer of Anafiel House and is a proud member of Onyx Pearls Southern Leather. In addition, she has presented at national events including TES Fest, DomCon, Frolicon, Southeast Leather Fest, DragonCon, Sex Down South, Atlanta Poly Weekend. Lady Steele also shares her knowledge through her BlogTalk radio program, “The Legal Show,” co-hosted by renowned Sci-Fi author Bennet Pomerantz. Lady Steele has been on the KinkyCast, discussing topics like Consent Apps; No Collar, No Problem; BDSM and the Law; Cigar Service and Play; and Poly and the Law, and on the Poly Podcast, speaking about Poly and the Law. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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Does your body or mind differ from others? Do you want to fly in rope but are wheelchair bound? Many of us live with different disabilities, including xioayi. With a bit of creativity and effort, we can find a way for people to enjoy any kinky activity, with some accommodation. Let’s explore some of our options together! To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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Change is inevitable, essential, but also, risky and can be scary! Join Dan & dawn, authors of The Polyamory Toolkit, as they explore and provide tools around change! When a new person enters or a new person leaves; levels of desire and need; and even hobbies and interest. Things do change; pick up some strategies to go with the flow! Dan and dawn have been a lifestyle couple since 2001 and have presented at over 100 events around North America. Not only do they enjoy teaching workshops and classes, they also share via books, specialized events, and fun consent negotiation playing cards! Their books on power exchange (Living M/s; A Book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships) and polyamory (The Polyamory Toolkit) are based on experience and have been very well received by those communities. They are also the co-hosts of the Erotic Awakening internet radio show, an educational podcast that explores “all things erotic”; co-founders of the Columbus Space, an alternative community center; 2016 MAsT International Member’s Choice Presenter of the Year Award winner; Great Lakes region Master & slave title holders (2010); creators of the Scarlet Sanctuary and Path of the Qadishti (sacred sexuality spaces); featured educators on both Kink Academy and Creative Sexuality; and mentioned in a number of books, articles, and other media. Donations much appreciated – https://gofund.me/41b3bf29 – but not required To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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Fisting may not be for everyone but those who are curious might find a new plateau of orgasms they never knew existed. When done safely, like all things in kink, it can be a new thing to add to your toy bag so to speak. I love the connection that I often have with my partners when I have introduced them to something that may have been a hard no and it became a “hell yes” instead. When you have trust, take your time and a LOT of lube, it can open new doors (no pun intended) in intimacy. Leather Redux (LR) is a just your friendly old school, neighborhood dominant leather lesbian from the 90s. She is probably the most romantic sadist you will ever know. She left kink for a bit and came back which is what “redux” means – – a return or rebirth. She has come back to kink and is not turning back. As part of the Leather tradition, service to the community is important to her and she does this by sharing and educating people where she can. She has taught classes such as Flogging 101, Fisting 101 and meditation. She has always known the connection between BDSM and spirituality and that we are all really here to heal ourselves and help others. To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this class registration link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $20 Click here register for this class. If you’re unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we’ll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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Just as rules and protocols vary in every relationship, so do the styles and techniques of behavior modification and obedience training for a slave that will yield the most accurate assessment of the Master. We will give various examples of techniques and strategies that worked for us to set clear expectations to ensure the Masters’ needs are being met and that the slave has a clear understanding of what that looks like with all the resources given. Sir Lisa (He/Him/They) and leathergem (her/she) live a 24/7 TPE Master/slave relationship structured in protocols and rituals involving the chemistry of Leather, spirituality, and consent-non-consent. Their deep connection fuels the energy that allows them to live unapologetically for who they are. Sir Lisa is a Trans-masculine Sadistic Leather Master and leathergem who is a queer masochist leatherwoman. Together, they live by the code to “Each one Teach one” and are dedicated to serving their community with education, mentorship, and lots of fun. Sir Lisa and leathergem are the owners of the Tampa Bay Phoenix Club. Sir Lisa is the Co-Director of MAsT-Tampa and the founder of the Living in Leather Group® that has chapters in Florida, NYC, Boise, and Boston. To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this class registration link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $20 Click here register for this class. If you’re unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we’ll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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Trying to navigate the mine field of developing a relationship is never easy. You must deal with personalities, interests, goals and other markers for compatibility. When we add to the mix authority-based relationships and all that entails, it can get even more complicated. Now, when we additionally factor in the polarizing climate of today’s world, the idea of trying to climb all those hurdles and deal with racial, ethnic and cultural differences can truly make the task a daunting one. Yet, there are many who do it and have done so successfully. How do we tackle this? What do we look for? How can we navigate the issues that are bound to occur? Let’s have an open discussion on this subject. I live in a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. I’ve been active in the scene for over a decade. I am an Emeritus Board Member of The Eulenspiegel Society (TES), Director of MAsT Metro New York, Founder of The Dark Lair: BDSM Support and Education for People of Color, and an Associate Member of ONYX NY/Northeast. He won the International Power Exchange 2013 title. I have presented at MsC several times, Brimstone, TES Fest, The Floating World, LLC, Leather History Preservation Weekend, several MAsT groups, South Jersey Power Exchange, LILNR/LICK and over 30 groups and events. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide….

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Open to all current members.  Information on how to join will be distributed on October 1.  If you are a member and did not receive this information, please contact secretary@tes.org after October 1….

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