Consent Incident Reporting

At TES, we are committed to fostering a community grounded in respect, negotiation, and enthusiastic consent. Speaking up when something feels wrong helps us strengthen our culture of consent, build awareness, and support one another.

This page provides access to our Consent Incident Report Form, where you can share any consent-related concerns or incidents you have personally experienced. This includes boundary crossings, inappropriate behavior, harassment, or violations of TES or venue policies, whether at our events or elsewhere in the community.

All information you provide through this form will remain strictly confidential and will only be seen by the TES Board, unless you give explicit permission for it to be shared. No incident is too “small” to report; your experience and your safety matter.

Who Should Use This form?

Use the Consent Incident Report Form if:

• You experienced a consent or ethics-related incident in a TES space or event.
• You experienced a consent or ethics-related incident involving someone connected to our community, even if it occurred elsewhere.
• You want your experience documented and reviewed by the TES Board, and you are willing to be contacted for follow-up.

At this time, we can only accept first-hand reports and cannot act on anonymous or third-party submissions.

What is Consent?

Consent means a clear, informed, and enthusiastic “yes” to a specific activity with a specific person or people. It must be freely given (without pressure, coercion, or manipulation), informed (everyone understands what is being agreed to and the possible risks), and ongoing (anyone can change their mind or withdraw consent at any time, and all activity must stop when they do). In our spaces, consent also requires that all participants have the capacity to consent (for example, they are of legal age and not significantly impaired by substances or crisis).

What is a Consent Incident?

A consent incident is any situation where consent is missing, unclear, ignored, or violated. This can include, but is not limited to:

• Touching someone’s body, toys, clothing, or personal space without explicit permission.
• Continuing an activity after someone has said stop, used a safeword, revoked consent, or otherwise indicated they are no longer okay.
• Pushing, pressuring, guilt-tripping, or manipulating someone into activities they do not really want.
• Violating stated limits, boundaries, or negotiated agreements.
• Interacting sexually or kink-wise with someone who cannot give informed consent (for example, due to age, intoxication, or other factors).
• Violating privacy/anonymity

In short: consent is a clear, informed, ongoing “yes”; a consent incident is anything that crosses someone’s boundaries or continues without that clear, ongoing yes.

What Happens After You Submit

When you submit a report:

• The TES Board members will receive and review your submission.
• Someone from the Board will reach out to you using your preferred contact method to clarify details, and discuss possible next steps, such as meet with the Board privately over a virtual meeting.
• Any actions taken will be guided by your needs and our community safety commitments, within the limits of what we are able to do as an organization.

Voluntary Participation

Your participation in the reporting process is entirely voluntary. You are not obligated to share any details that you are uncomfortable with, and you may pause or stop your participation at any point. There will be no negative consequences if you choose not to report, or if you withdraw from the process at any stage.

Additional Reporting Options

We also encourage you to file a report with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), which maintains a nationwide kink and alternative-lifestyle incident reporting system. You can submit a report to NCSF here.

Access the Consent Incident Report Form

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