November 13 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM Massage for Pain (or Pleasure) with Tower LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States Massage is the quintessential topping. Traditional massage techniques teach how to manipulate, maneuver, stroke, and strike a body to get the desired results. While for the most part this result is pleasurable, the same techniques can be used to cause intense, controlled pain. Fundamentals of massage will be covered, so even those who only intend to use these skills for less than nefarious purposes will benefit. The class is a combination of presentation and hands-on practice as time and space allows. Bios: Tower (fka Joshua HighTower) has been involved in New York’s BDSM scene for most of his life, having presented dozens of times for The Eulenspiegel Society, Long Island Leather and Roses, and Conversio Virium as well as at events including TES Fest, IMsL, Black Rose, Fusion, Fet Fest, Winter Wickedness, and Leather Leadership Conference. In addition to being cofounder of TES-TNG, he was involved in the initial conceptualization and proliferation of the TNG movement. Nothing makes him happier than seeing what makes people tick and seeing folks use what he taught them. Well, okay, maybe there are a couple of things… Demo bottom: Lex Lively realized that she might be into impact play when she would look for any excuse to be paddled while in a sorority during her time in college. While fairly new to the public scene, she has spent the last few years learning and exploring, discovering new things that excite her almost constantly. She lives up to her name, meeting each moment with energy and enthusiasm, always looking forward to the next adventure. Location and Cost Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Online Registration: If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you've forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration: On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited. You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone. The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
November 18 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM ONLINE – Art of the Scene: Crafting the Moment LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States A well-crafted scene is more than just a sequence of actions—it’s a dance of intention, sensation, and connection. This class explores the art of designing and executing compelling scenes with purpose, creativity, and mindfulness. Whether spontaneous or meticulously planned, a great scene balances structure with fluidity, intensity with care, and precision with artistry. What You’ll Learn: The Flow of a Scene – Understanding the beginning (preparation & meditation), middle (sensory engagement, intensity building, and surprises), and end (closure & aftercare). Art of Scene Writing – Moving beyond spur-of-the-moment play to create structured, intentional experiences. Key Elements of a Scene: Scene summary and defining cast roles Timeline and pacing Props and environmental setup Risk identification and mitigation Understanding limits—medical, physical, and emotional Choreographing movement and interaction The power of music and playlist selection as a timekeeper The importance of aftercare and reintegration The class will include discussions, practical insights, and a case study of a complex scene involving all the items above. Bios: Knight of Xanadu and TheGirl_Star are the founders of Xanadu KINK Academy, where they teach High Protocol, etiquette, and intentional power exchange. Married for over 22 years and living a 24/7 dynamic, they blend lived experience with immersive education. Knight_of_Xanadu brings calm authority and structure as a seasoned Dominant, while TheGirl_Star, a Certified Etiquette Consultant, and a proud member of the International Association of Professional Etiquette Consultants adds sparkle, grace, and hands-on teaching. Together, they guide others in creating elegant, respectful, and deeply connected dynamics through classes, mentorship, and ritual TES classes include instruction, Q&A, and TES Circle; class length varies. To register: MEMBERS - $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
December 11 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM New Class Announcement: Coming Soon! LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States Get ready! We're putting the final touches on an exciting new class, and we'll be announcing all the details very soon. Keep an eye on this space for updates. In the meantime, follow us on FetLife and Instagram so you don't miss any news!
