The “Areas of Control” are sections of a person's life in which authority can be exercised. The categories are divided by type. They include things like medical decisions, hair color, educational opportunities, diet and many more. This quick reference guide lays out each “area” and its subsequent categories. It is designed to get you thinking and talking about your power exchange or authority transfer dynamic in a whole new way. Whether you are new to authority transfer or a veteran of the practice, your dynamic is just starting or has lasted a lifetime you will find something in this guide for you! Devyn Stone is a self-awareness and BDSM educator, author, and alternative lifestyles coach. He dreams of globe trotting and helping folx achieve the connections they desire, while they learn themselves more deeply. He believes in diversity not division, and actualizes that idea by promoting strongly affirming spaces and interactions. Devyn has a passion for giving and receiving education - his favorite topics are psychology, negotiation, consent, relationship construction, and organization. His “Quick Reference” books covered affirming gender, creating protocol, negotiating authority in relationships, and more. He is the Founder of Pragmatically Kinking, where members discuss the practical aspects of BDSM, and THRIVE, a virtual conference dedicated to the intersection of mental health and BDSM. Devyn’s been actively practicing authority transfer dynamics since 2004. Today he lives in Colorado Springs, CO with his property, Guan-Xuan, who is unquestionably devoted to his will. Devyn is an extrovert, a Sons of Anarchy fan, and a foodie. To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here to register for this class. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Open to all current members.  Information on how to join will be distributed to the membership on March 1.  If you are a member, did not receive this information, and want to join, please email secretary@tes.org.

Join us for this blowjob workshop designed to take your skills to the next level! We’ll start with an anatomy lesson that I guarantee will be much more interesting (and inclusive!) than the one you probably got in high school. Then we’ll go on to discuss enough hand and mouth techniques that you’re sure to find something new to try. Finally, we’ll be taking things a whole lot deeper to cover power dynamics, deep-throating, strap-on BJs, and more. This is a class for the true cocksucking connoisseur, designed to explore the myriad of possibilities when it comes to putting dicks in mouths. This class welcomes people of all genders, orientations. This class welcomes people of all genders, orientations, and experience levels. Although the class is presented for submissives who bottom, we welcome tops, bottoms, and switches of all stripes who are interested in learning more about the skills that go into being a great bottom. To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click here and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here register for this class. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

If you've ever heard the phrase "you're too ___ for bondage" this class is probably for you. We'll cover a variety of bondage methods that can be used for different ability statuses in a fluid class structure so we can address individual concerns as they arise. Be sure to bring your favorite bondage tools whether it's rope, straps, plastic wrap, or something else entirely, so we can show practical application during roundtable-style problem-solving and troubleshooting. Ignixia is an internationally renowned professional kink educator and leather-woman who was the owner and sole-operator of an award-winning leather business designed around creating custom, quality leather goods that are affordable to all. She has used her skills as a leatherworker to create the Kinkability toy line, first of its kind fetish gear designed for those with disabilities. As someone who lives with chronic pain, along with her partner, she uses her experiences to help others with chronic pain through an online support group and classes designed to make daily life and kink easier to manage. ​ -- To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click here and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here register for this class. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. Registration closes 24 hours prior to the event. The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

After a brief interruption, TES's monthly munch is back! Come join us as winter thaws into spring! Whether you're new to the scene, an old friend, or just passing through, we're excited to see you! The munch will be at: Thursday, March 24th, at 7pm at the Skylight Diner 402 W 34th St. (@ 9th Ave) New York, NY 10001 Our hosts, Infinity and Zero, will be there to welcome you and answer any questions. There is no cost to attend this event beyond paying for the food you order (and please tip your server well!). Please note, that any and all city and state COVID safety protocols, including any masking requirements and/or showing proof of vaccination to restaurant staff, remain in effect. We will be providing a discrete option for contact tracing, which is highly encouraged.

Female Led dynamics have always had a significant place in not only historical influences but have had cultural impact as well. From royal dynasties to empirical rule, women have always possessed the ability to stimulate change and sometimes to even incite war. While not the standard hetro-normative relationship construct within what is seen as “modern” era, women have continued to demonstrate the powerful force of Female Energy and their ability to dominate their partners and their societies. Join PlaineJane for a discussion on Female Led Relationships (FLR) throughout history, their effect on cultural and historical norms, and how women have always had the power to change, impact, and influence our community and partners. Jane will explore types of domination to include; sexual, mental, physical, financial, and emotional from a Female Master’s and/or Dominant’s perspective. She will also discuss ways to empower and inspire female energy in relationships, scenes, and as community leaders. PlaineJane has been active in the Atlanta BDSM community for over ten years. As an enthusiastic Event Coordinator & Educator, Jane is a strong advocate for promoting and producing educational events for and within the BDSM and Leather communities. Jane is the Director and Organizer of MAsT: Marietta Women and the Founder and Leader of F.L.A.I.R. (Female Led Authority Inspired Relationships) which offers educational Intensives for different faucets of the BDSM Lifestyle and Leather communities. Her area of interest and experience includes service, domination and discipline, impact play, dragon's tails, high protocol, event producing and promoting, power exchange from both sides of the slash, humiliation & degradation, chemical play, genitorture and of course Male on Male Action... to name a few." To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here register for this class. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Dan and dawn, authors of the books Living M/s and The Polyamory Toolkit lead an interactive class on how to successfully combine polyamory and power exchange! From when the commonly accepted ideals of these relationship types seem to come into conflict, to keeping power exchange healthy in the midst of new relationship energy, as well as the issues of vulnerability and security that power exchange thrives on but polyamory can challenge, we will give you actual tools you can implement to assist all your relationships. Dan and dawn have been a lifestyle couple since 2001 and have presented at over 100 events around North America. Not only do they enjoy teaching workshops and classes, they also share via books, specialized events, and fun consent negotiation playing cards! Their books on power exchange (Living M/s; A Book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships) and polyamory (The Polyamory Toolkit) are based on experience and have been very well received by those communities. They are also the co-hosts of the Erotic Awakening internet radio show, an educational podcast that explores “all things erotic”; co-founders of the Columbus Space, an alternative community center; 2016 MAsT International Member’s Choice Presenter of the Year Award winner; Great Lakes region Master & slave title holders (2010); creators of the Scarlet Sanctuary and Path of the Qadishti (sacred sexuality spaces); featured educators on both Kink Academy and Creative Sexuality; and mentioned in a number of books, articles, and other media. To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click here and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here to register for this class. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

We want to leave people feeling hot and bothered, not just...bothered. Every community has its own unspoken rules and etiquette, and kink is no exception. This course covers asking people to play, accepting and declining play invitations, and how to forge new friendships and relationships. We’ll also cover some tricky situations as well as basic and advanced Dos and Don’ts for both in person and online interactions. This course can help both newbies and seasoned kinksters better navigate their way in the world of BDSM. A former teacher with a lifelong passion for the bizarre and filthy, Carmen Monoxide (she/her) also works as a professional Domme, sex educator, and relationship coach. She has presented for Dark Odyssey, A Touch of Flavor, Ohio SMART, Black Rose, Indecent Enterprises, BESS, The Baltimore Playhouse, and Studio 58. She founded Femme Fatale, a kink event organization, and throws monthly parties in the Washington, DC area.She sometimes takes her clothes off and performs onstage and on camera, and is passionate about helping people overcome fear and shame in order to have authentic, fulfilling, sexy experiences. To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click here and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here to register for this class. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Open to all current members.  Information on how to join has already been distributed to the membership.  If you are a member, did not receive this information, and would like to join, please contact secretary@tes.org

Just as there are different ways people express and receive love, there are different ways people express and receive dominance and submission! Just as knowing your partner’s love languages are important for them to feel loved, knowing your partner’s D/s languages are important for what makes the feel their respective headspace. Learn the different D/s languages, and how to uncover which matter most to you and your partner. This concept of D/s languages is helpful for compatibility and for how to keep alive the D/s dynamic; thus, it will be helpful to those new to D/s, and those in existing D/s relationships. Undergroundsea has attended kink events for over 20 years. He presents nationally to help people communicate and understand each other’s kink needs, especially to understand submission. He currently serves on Advisory Board for DomCon BDSM weekend conventions. Previously, he wrote a BDSM column for fearlesspress.com, represented BDSM on college campuses and mainstream forums, and chaired Austin TNG for 4 years. He splits time between Austin and DC. He performed with a DC BDSM-themed burlesque and comedy troupe. He helped keep Austin weird by arranging fetish nights where he wrote, performed in, and arranged music for fetish shows. BDSM has influenced his artistic expression in the form of fetish photography, DJing music, dance, writings, and kinky stand-up comedy. To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click here and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here register for this class. Registration closes 30 minutes before class begins. Direct all questions to membership@tes.org If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.