Just as there are different ways people express and receive love, there are different ways people express and receive dominance and submission! Just as knowing your partner’s love languages are important for them to feel loved, knowing your partner’s D/s languages are important for what makes the feel their respective headspace. Learn the different D/s languages, and how to uncover which matter most to you and your partner. This concept of D/s languages is helpful for compatibility and for how to keep alive the D/s dynamic; thus, it will be helpful to those new to D/s, and those in existing D/s relationships. Undergroundsea has attended kink events for over 20 years. He presents nationally to help people communicate and understand each other’s kink needs, especially to understand submission. He currently serves on Advisory Board for DomCon BDSM weekend conventions. Previously, he wrote a BDSM column for fearlesspress.com, represented BDSM on college campuses and mainstream forums, and chaired Austin TNG for 4 years. He splits time between Austin and DC. He performed with a DC BDSM-themed burlesque and comedy troupe. He helped keep Austin weird by arranging fetish nights where he wrote, performed in, and arranged music for fetish shows. BDSM has influenced his artistic expression in the form of fetish photography, DJing music, dance, writings, and kinky stand-up comedy. To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click here and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here register for this class. Registration closes 30 minutes before class begins. Direct all questions to membership@tes.org If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

This meeting is held twice yearly for the purpose of conducting official organization business and giving the membership an opportunity to be directly involved in that process. All members in good standing are entitled to attend and participate in all of these functions. The link to participate will be sent in your TES email newsletter closer to the event date. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Spring is in the air, and so is the smell of waffle fries! That's right, it's time once more for TES’s monthly munch! Whether you’re new to the scene, an old friend, or just passing through, we’re excited to see you! Come join us: Thursday, April 28th, at 7pm at the Skylight Diner 402 W 34th St. (@ 9th Ave) New York, NY 10001 Our hosts, Infinity and tickleobject, will be there to welcome you and answer any questions. There is no cost to attend this event beyond paying for the food you order (and please tip your server well!). The TES Final Thursday Munch is our monthly gathering on the last Thursday of each month. It's a great opportunity to meet and hangout with your fellow kinksters in a low-key, low pressure environment. It is open to all members of the community in good standing, and those who are new to the scene are especially encouraged to attend. There is no requirement to RSVP ahead of time, and you do not need to be a TES member to attend. Please note, that any and all city and state COVID safety protocols, including any masking requirements and/or showing proof of vaccination to restaurant staff, remain in effect. We will be providing a discrete option for contact tracing, which is highly encouraged.

Many people are separated for a time by something: work, family emergencies, war. How do you maintain your relationship during the time you are apart? How do you resume your relationship after the changes you both made while apart? This session focuses on mechanisms that can be used to hold it together while you are separated and get it back together when reunited. It focuses on both the departing and the remaining parties, as they face different challenges. It is not specifically about Long Distance Relationships (LDR) but many of the skills can be applied there. Trouvere spent four years as a full-time technical instructor. He has decades of public speaking and adult education experience. Chanteuse has a PhD in Educational/ Developmental Psychology and has taught and supervised instructors from pre-school to adult learners for the last 3 decades. We have been married for 30+ years, kinky for 25+, and in varying degrees of PE for over 15. We have been out and about at the Power Exchange Summit, Master / slave Conference, and Southwest Leather Conference among others. We are founding members of MaST Fredericksburg, where Trouvere is a co-Director and Chanteuse is Secretary/Treasurer. To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click here and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here register for this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS TO MEMBERSHIP@TES.ORG If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

“Under the sea, under the sea Darlin' it's better down where it's wetter Take it from me” Have you ever wanted to be a mermaid? Would you love to tie someone up to look like a merperson? During this class, we will be learning a basic hishi-style leg tie. This tie has very few knots and is perfect for all skill levels. Basic rope handling skills and the ability to create a Lark's Head, extend your rope, and a single column tie will be helpful. Bring at least 2 hanks of 6mm 30 foot rope. Swim on over! Level: Advanced Beginner, Tie Along Skyla discovered Fetlife in 2012 while Googling, "people turned on by fear". The rest is history. Skyla identifies as a Fem Dom and Mermaid with a love for bondage and a penchant for sparkle. Armed with her sassy nature and dry sense of humor, she navigates BDSM topics of all kinds, including polyamory, rope, communication, medical play, FLR and D/s. Skyla has been bottoming for rope since 2012, and has been tying since 2013. Skyla is very involved with her kink community. After years of staffing conventions and volunteering, Skyla now produces her own convention - Tethered Together w. Ozma_of_Oz. When Skyla is not striking fear into the hearts of her bottoms, she enjoys reading, yoga, dancing with her levi wand, and iced coffee. She loves meeting new people, so please introduce yourself! To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click here and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here register for this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE CLASS. ALL QUESTIONS TO MEMBERSHIP@TES.ORG If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Free to all current members.  Information on how to join has already been emailed to the members.  If you are a member, would like to join, and did not receive this information, please email secretary@tes.org

Jon has been an ambassador in his communities by bringing people from all over together to share connections and experiences. He bases his success on one thing… kindness. In this workshop, Jon will discuss the difference between kind and nice and how that can make all the difference in the world in getting you the kind of play partners and relationships that you desire. From his tips on profile writing to writing a great note to how to build a connection with someone you may not have ever expected, he guides you to seeing the kind person in you, and how to bring that energy into a room and light it up. Based on his Ted Talk, Jon’s deep dive into being kind discusses power dynamics in society and how turning those power dynamics around can make all the difference in the way people see you. From famous people to the person next door, you will be able to see how it’s the little things that make all the difference. We will also talk about bringing kindness into scenes, which can be a lovely change of pace to a dynamic to heighten intense scenes and allow for breathing room. One important discussion will be the “notebook” scene which was performed at Winter Wickedness that was designed to help someone who is unsure of their place in the community, and welcomes them to a new world in a beautiful combination of words, impact, sensation, and beauty. Bio: Jon a/k/a HiThereCatsuit has been hosting the What Women* (*and other wonderful humans) Want podcast since October of 2021. An avid writer and contributor on FetLife, Jon wrote a column about men and their unsolicited dick pics. The response led him to brainstorm with NookieNotes of Dating Kinky to create the podcast. As Jon, the host has an award winning background in broadcasting going back more than 35 years and has appeared as a talent on national networks as well as regional and local stations. He has 7 Emmy Awards for his work behind the scenes, and also designs all the graphic elements for the show’s social media. In addition, he has been a public speaker and has even presented a TEDx talk about how people treat each other. In the scene, HiThereCatsuit is a bottom leaning Switch who is known for his trademark spandex suits which led to his name, as so many people just said “HiThereCatsuit” when he would walk into a party. He is also known for his notebooks which he shares with people he connects with to keep inventory of small victories. He is active in the Cincinnati area and is hoping to take the show on the road to kink conventions with live presentations. ______ To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click here and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here register for this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE CLASS. ALL QUESTIONS TO MEMBERSHIP@TES.ORG If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Join Lady Steele as she presents a class on how to negotiate the sometimes unpredictable waters of power exchange relationships when you are an Alpha type on the “right side of the slash”. She will discuss Alpha personalities and what challenges are inherent to being a strong personality in a position that requires that someone else be in control. This class is beneficial for those currently both in and out of a power exchange relationship. Lady Steele identifies as a femme queer Alpha leather slave. She has served in the Leather community since 1999. She has presented and volunteered across the U. S. and internationally. She resides in Atlanta where she operates her law practice that serves people in the various BDSM worlds and the ethical non-monogamy (ENM) community. She is the only out, open, and practicing attorney in the U.S. that specializes in the issues that are unique to the BDSM and ENM communities. She is the founder of the Center of Learning and School of Success (C.L.A.S.S.), the Worthless Bastards (Cigar) Club (W.B.C. – Atlanta), and The Leather Coterie (T.L.C.). She proudly leads all of these organizations under the umbrella of the West Inclusive Georgia Socials (W.I.N.G.S.) group. Lady Steele held the position of Social Coordinator for NLA – Atlanta during its last incarnation in Atlanta. She continues to give back to the community as Board Support and Vendor Coordinator for the Leather Leadership Conference and is also a proud member of Onyx Pearls - Southern Leather. When she is not presenting, Lady Steele has shared her knowledge through multiple podcasts on BlogTalk (“The Legal Show”), the KinkyCast, the Poly Podcast, Kuldrin's Krypt, Nightlife 24/7, Dating Kinky, Excite Me, and the Black to Leather podcast. To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click here and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here register for this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE CLASS. ALL QUESTIONS TO MEMBERSHIP@TES.ORG If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Memorial Day is just around the corner, which means so is Hot Kink Summer! So we're kicking it off right with the latest TES’s monthly munch! Whether you’re new to the scene, an old friend, or just passing through, we’re excited to see you! Come join us: Thursday, May 26th, at 7pm at the Skylight Diner 402 W 34th St. (@ 9th Ave) New York, NY 10001 Our hosts, Infinity and Ara, will be there to welcome you and answer any questions. There is no cost to attend this event beyond paying for the food you order (and please tip your server well!). The TES Final Thursday Munch is our monthly gathering on the last Thursday of each month. It's a great opportunity to meet and hangout with your fellow kinksters in a low-key, low pressure environment. It is open to all members of the community in good standing, and those who are new to the scene are especially encouraged to attend. There is no requirement to RSVP ahead of time, and you do not need to be a TES member to attend. Please note, that any and all city and state COVID safety protocols, including any masking requirements and/or showing proof of vaccination to restaurant staff, remain in effect. We will be providing a discrete option for contact tracing, which is highly encouraged.

So you have your rope, your blindfold and your toy bag FULL of goodies, but do you have the most efficient yet elegant tool in a Top's arsenal? A tool that incites instant anxiety at the mere thought of its tender touch? But that tender touch can feel as soft as a lover's caress or as mean as a bee sting. The trick is making your Dragon's Tail do what you want while making your bottom feel what you mean. PlaineJane will take you on a sensational journey into the effective use of a Dragon's Tail. Jane will discuss the types and parts of a Dragon's Tail, techniques for different sensations, practice options, application as well as safety and aftercare for both Top and bottom. So, bring a Dragon's tail and a bottom, if you got 'em. This class will give full marks for participation!" PlaineJane has been active in the Atlanta BDSM community for almost fifteen years. As an enthusiastic Event Coordinator & Educator, Jane is a strong advocate for promoting and producing educational events for and within the BDSM and Leather communities. Jane is the Director and Organizer of MAsT: Marietta Women and F.L.A.I.R. (Female Led Authority Inspired Relationships) which offers educational Intensives for different faucets of the BDSM Lifestyle. She is also on the Board of Leather Leadership Conference (LLC). Her area of interest and experience includes service, domination and discipline, impact play, dragon's tails, high protocol, power exchange from both sides of the slash, humiliation & degradation, chemical play, genitorture and of course Male on Male Action... to name a few. ______ To register: MEMBERS -$10 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click here and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $20 Click here register for this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE CLASS. ALL QUESTIONS TO MEMBERSHIP@TES.ORG If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.