Geared To: Anyone who has experienced a dynamic breakdown, or who may want to understand the stages of mourning a dynamic breakdown. Dynamic breakdowns are usually painful, even when amicable. By understanding the steps in the grief process, learning how to cut ties, and bolstering ourselves with support, we can hopefully move from our emotional pain, to feeling ourselves again. Canadian, technically Ausnadian after living for four years Down Under, domestic service (aka luxury lifestyle) submissive to the rich and famous and little - service little, cheeky bear, errant evil scout, fervent axe thrower, maker of things, BDSM taxonomist, co-creator of a BDSM board game, and writer/published author. Entered the BDSM community and lifestyle in her early twenties, and hasn't looked back since. Whether it is a day spent at an estate sale scoping out silverware, or acquiring a new skill for the service tool chest, this little bear makes the most of each day, and is thoroughly tuckered out when curling up next to a mound of stuffies at bed time. Active in local, national, and international BDSM communities as a moderator for various online activities, as one third of the triptych that organizes a local Ottawa munch, and as an educator. Loves tacos, hot dogs, crafts, Minecraft, going to the gym, powerlifting, pinball, arcades, movie theatres, naps, drag queens, and Lego. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Creating a Submissive Resume is a class where both new and experienced s-types can document their skills, abilities, training, and community involvement, to give to prospective Dominants or just to chart their own growth as an s-type. We will also discuss creating a resume to document presenter experience. Bio coming soon. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

What does Alfred Pennyworth have in common with a freshmen pledge at a frat house? Almost nothing! Except that they've both devoted themselves to active roll submission through contractual service, as men. There is a huge framework for the feminine art of service in our culture, so much so that many folks associate service with feminization or sissification. But what about folks who'd like to affirm their masculinity in service? Can providing shave service, groom service, cooking and cleaning services make someone feel like a better man? A manlier man? Please join us, as we welcome people of all genders, orientations and kink roles in a discussion based talk about the manly art of service. We're going to focus on domestic service, but we will delve into body service and remote service as well. Louis (DanceInMyPants) is a 32 year old Brooklynite, born and raised. He's also a mostly-gay, trans, polyamourus verse sadomasochist switch who loves service. Louis loves leather care, massage service and domestic service. Outside of kink, he also loves writing smut, playing dungeons and dragons and making spreadsheets. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Biting is as sensual and complicated of an art as kissing, yet few practice it as much. In this workshop, you will learn and practice the seven sensual (and some sadistic) bites of the Kama Sutra, as well as biting safety. This is an interactive class so please bring a partner to nibble upon. @Schadenfreude is a noteworthy BDSM workshop presenter from Rochester, NY, who primarily teaches in the Northeastern region of the US. Education is her passion, and kink is an inseparable part of her identity, which together culminate into an unparalleled learning experience. She unites her pedagogical training with her many years of experience in the BDSM scene to create workshops that are interactive, entertaining and effective. As a dominant sadomasochist, Schadenfreude has experience as both a top and bottom in every subject that she teaches. Thus, she is able to bring a unique perspective to her workshops, providing information and insight that is practical to kinksters of every D/s orientation. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Open to all current members.  Information on how to join will be distributed to the membership.  If you are a member, did not receive this information, and would like to join, please email secretary@tes.org

People's relationships with labels are based in power and empowerment. This is even more critical to understand in relationships built around power imbalances. While there is a lot of baggage attached to them, labels can be useful tools in communicating and creating our selves and our life stories. This class will review different motivations and uses for labels (including when NOT to use them), reasons why labels become contentious, and practices for using labels to tell your own story more effectively. Liz/LuckyAlbatross (she/her) has been active in the public scene since 1998. Bisexual, open, polyamorous, switch, slave, Liz has been a member of Black Rose in DC, the Baltimore Educational and Social Society (BESS), where she was elected as Secretary and Chair of the Board, and Austin, TX where she was Arbiter of the local group GWNN and Service Leader of Element. Currently living outside Philadelphia helping run a polyamorous social group. Her favorite fetishes are formal wear and connections and she greatly enjoys hypnosis and objectification.. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Being new to anything can be intimidating, stressful and overwhelming, we all want to be safe & stay safe so this class will cover: • Consent • Some legalese • Using/being aware of safe & proper play techniques • Coping with subspace • Administering aftercare • Negotiating & setting up a scene • What to do if something goes wrong Ms. Lola Smiles is a Latina Femdom Fatale from Long Island, NY who has been in the lifestyle for over 25 years - a BDSM educator & presenter and event promoter for 8 years. As a presenter/educator Ms Lola Smiles has presented on topics including Consent & Negotiations, Scene Etiquette, Vetting, CBT, Impact Play, Wax Play, Breath Play, Dungeon Monitors (DM) Training, to name a few. She has also participated and moderated a variety of panels on dominance and People of Color (POC) in the Scene. Ms. Lola has been honored to present for Sanctuary Events, Avant-Garde, Pangea, TES, SCK, LILNR-LICK, The Steam Factory, EPIC, Weekend Reunion, Feel My Breath, DomCon LA, LEASH Weekend, Jax Fet Fest, Dating Kinky and ONYX Pearls NE. Ms. Lola founded SCK Events and House of SCK. SCK Events hosts munches and a variety of upscale events and parties on LI & NYC. Adapting to the post COVID world, Ms Lola & SCK host the F#@k You Coronavirus Virtual Events. SCK's mantra is - Corrupting the World one vanilla at a time.® To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Creating a Plan for success that works best for you and your partner(s) can make all the difference between longevity or loss. Contracts are one way of communicating and defining not only your approach but your needs, responsibilities, and expectations within a power exchange dynamic. PlaineJane will discuss types, parts, and useful components of a contract that can help define your plan for success within power exchange. She will also cover the pitfalls, options for effectiveness, and provide ways for selecting the contract that fits best with your purpose and power exchange dynamic. This will be a guided discussion with time for questions and idea exchange. PlaineJane has been active in the Atlanta BDSM community for over ten years. As an enthusiastic Event Coordinator & Educator, Jane is a strong advocate for promoting and producing educational events for and within the BDSM and Leather communities. Jane is the Director and Organizer of MAsT: Marietta Women and the Founder and Leader of F.L.A.I.R. (Female Led Authority Inspired Relationships) which offers educational Intensives for different faucets of the BDSM Lifestyle and Leather communities. Her area of interest and experience includes service, domination and discipline, impact play, dragon's tails, high protocol, event producing and promoting, power exchange from both sides of the slash, humiliation & degradation, chemical play, genitorture and of course Male on Male Action... to name a few. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Temporary body modification using pumping equipment can be a gender affirming/bending and sexually gratifying kink with ties into medical play, objectification, and dollification. We will discuss various types of pumping devices, the risks involved with this kink, tips we've found useful, and other important information, and we will demo some of the pumping devices in our kit. This class will show close-ups of uncovered breast, penile, and vulvar anatomy in a non-erotic context. Mister and CTW are a queer couple that have been exploring alternative bondage techniques for the past few years and have presented on artistic rope and chain bondage, including suspension. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Open to all current members.  Information on how to join was distributed to the membership.  If you are a current member, did not receive this information, and would like to join the meeting, please email secretary@tes.org