What does Alfred Pennyworth have in common with a freshmen pledge at a frat house? Almost nothing! Except that they've both devoted themselves to active roll submission through contractual service, as men. There is a huge framework for the feminine art of service in our culture, so much so that many folks associate service with feminization or sissification. But what about folks who'd like to affirm their masculinity in service? Can providing shave service, groom service, cooking and cleaning services make someone feel like a better man? A manlier man? Please join us, as we welcome people of all genders, orientations and kink roles in a discussion based talk about the manly art of service. We're going to focus on domestic service, but we will delve into body service and remote service as well. Louis (DanceInMyPants) is a 32 year old Brooklynite, born and raised. He's also a mostly-gay, trans, polyamourus verse sadomasochist switch who loves service. Louis loves leather care, massage service and domestic service. Outside of kink, he also loves writing smut, playing dungeons and dragons and making spreadsheets. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Biting is as sensual and complicated of an art as kissing, yet few practice it as much. In this workshop, you will learn and practice the seven sensual (and some sadistic) bites of the Kama Sutra, as well as biting safety. This is an interactive class so please bring a partner to nibble upon. @Schadenfreude is a noteworthy BDSM workshop presenter from Rochester, NY, who primarily teaches in the Northeastern region of the US. Education is her passion, and kink is an inseparable part of her identity, which together culminate into an unparalleled learning experience. She unites her pedagogical training with her many years of experience in the BDSM scene to create workshops that are interactive, entertaining and effective. As a dominant sadomasochist, Schadenfreude has experience as both a top and bottom in every subject that she teaches. Thus, she is able to bring a unique perspective to her workshops, providing information and insight that is practical to kinksters of every D/s orientation. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Open to all current members.  Information on how to join will be distributed to the membership.  If you are a member, did not receive this information, and would like to join, please email secretary@tes.org

People's relationships with labels are based in power and empowerment. This is even more critical to understand in relationships built around power imbalances. While there is a lot of baggage attached to them, labels can be useful tools in communicating and creating our selves and our life stories. This class will review different motivations and uses for labels (including when NOT to use them), reasons why labels become contentious, and practices for using labels to tell your own story more effectively. Liz/LuckyAlbatross (she/her) has been active in the public scene since 1998. Bisexual, open, polyamorous, switch, slave, Liz has been a member of Black Rose in DC, the Baltimore Educational and Social Society (BESS), where she was elected as Secretary and Chair of the Board, and Austin, TX where she was Arbiter of the local group GWNN and Service Leader of Element. Currently living outside Philadelphia helping run a polyamorous social group. Her favorite fetishes are formal wear and connections and she greatly enjoys hypnosis and objectification.. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Being new to anything can be intimidating, stressful and overwhelming, we all want to be safe & stay safe so this class will cover: • Consent • Some legalese • Using/being aware of safe & proper play techniques • Coping with subspace • Administering aftercare • Negotiating & setting up a scene • What to do if something goes wrong Ms. Lola Smiles is a Latina Femdom Fatale from Long Island, NY who has been in the lifestyle for over 25 years - a BDSM educator & presenter and event promoter for 8 years. As a presenter/educator Ms Lola Smiles has presented on topics including Consent & Negotiations, Scene Etiquette, Vetting, CBT, Impact Play, Wax Play, Breath Play, Dungeon Monitors (DM) Training, to name a few. She has also participated and moderated a variety of panels on dominance and People of Color (POC) in the Scene. Ms. Lola has been honored to present for Sanctuary Events, Avant-Garde, Pangea, TES, SCK, LILNR-LICK, The Steam Factory, EPIC, Weekend Reunion, Feel My Breath, DomCon LA, LEASH Weekend, Jax Fet Fest, Dating Kinky and ONYX Pearls NE. Ms. Lola founded SCK Events and House of SCK. SCK Events hosts munches and a variety of upscale events and parties on LI & NYC. Adapting to the post COVID world, Ms Lola & SCK host the F#@k You Coronavirus Virtual Events. SCK's mantra is - Corrupting the World one vanilla at a time.® To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Creating a Plan for success that works best for you and your partner(s) can make all the difference between longevity or loss. Contracts are one way of communicating and defining not only your approach but your needs, responsibilities, and expectations within a power exchange dynamic. PlaineJane will discuss types, parts, and useful components of a contract that can help define your plan for success within power exchange. She will also cover the pitfalls, options for effectiveness, and provide ways for selecting the contract that fits best with your purpose and power exchange dynamic. This will be a guided discussion with time for questions and idea exchange. PlaineJane has been active in the Atlanta BDSM community for over ten years. As an enthusiastic Event Coordinator & Educator, Jane is a strong advocate for promoting and producing educational events for and within the BDSM and Leather communities. Jane is the Director and Organizer of MAsT: Marietta Women and the Founder and Leader of F.L.A.I.R. (Female Led Authority Inspired Relationships) which offers educational Intensives for different faucets of the BDSM Lifestyle and Leather communities. Her area of interest and experience includes service, domination and discipline, impact play, dragon's tails, high protocol, event producing and promoting, power exchange from both sides of the slash, humiliation & degradation, chemical play, genitorture and of course Male on Male Action... to name a few. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Temporary body modification using pumping equipment can be a gender affirming/bending and sexually gratifying kink with ties into medical play, objectification, and dollification. We will discuss various types of pumping devices, the risks involved with this kink, tips we've found useful, and other important information, and we will demo some of the pumping devices in our kit. This class will show close-ups of uncovered breast, penile, and vulvar anatomy in a non-erotic context. Mister and CTW are a queer couple that have been exploring alternative bondage techniques for the past few years and have presented on artistic rope and chain bondage, including suspension. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Open to all current members.  Information on how to join was distributed to the membership.  If you are a current member, did not receive this information, and would like to join the meeting, please email secretary@tes.org

In this class we cover the basics of bootblacking, and go beyond, I will show what's in my kit, explain a general timeline for leather care, and delve into high shine tips and tricks. Finally, we round off the class by discussing how to care for leather toys, and how to interact with bootblacks. This is an interactive class that has space for everyone from novice to veterans. Bean (she/they) is a Richmond, VA native that has been teaching, service topping, and demoing since 2017. She identifies as a queer, switchy, poly masochist, with too much rope and at least a smidge or two of Lincoln on at all times. She founded and runs the local RVA Bootblack group to foster the Richmond Leather scene and mentor bootblacks. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

So you’ve found that special someone that makes you feel the feels and makes you want the wants but what now? How do you expand and take your relationship to the next level of power exchange? How do you know when you and your partner are ready for a power exchange relationship? PlaineJane will discuss the steps to negotiating a meaningful power exchange dynamic. She will explore ways to deal with varying communication styles, how to set clear and concise expectations, structuring service models, managing dispute resolutions, and how to support the journey of submission and responsibility from both sides of the slash. Jane will also cover types of contracts and protocols, and how to create meaningful connections that facilitate growth within your power exchange dynamic. PlaineJane has been active in the Atlanta BDSM community for over ten years. As an enthusiastic Event Coordinator & Educator, Jane is a strong advocate for promoting and producing educational events for and within the BDSM and Leather communities. Jane is the Director and Organizer of MAsT: Marietta Women and the Founder and Leader of F.L.A.I.R. (Female Led Authority Inspired Relationships) which offers educational Intensives for different faucets of the BDSM Lifestyle and Leather communities. Her area of interest and experience includes service, domination and discipline, impact play, dragon's tails, high protocol, event producing and promoting, power exchange from both sides of the slash, humiliation & degradation, chemical play, genitorture and of course Male on Male Action... to name a few. To participate, simply visit https://datingkinky.com/TES-Tuesdays every Tuesday, at 7pm. No additional downloads or software required! This platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.