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In this partner-oriented workshop, we’ll introduce some exercises and practices from yoga that can improve our connection and fun while tying. We’ll be discussing connection, flow, mindfulness and breathing. Tops are expected to be able to tie a single column tie without looking while tying. Please bring at least 2 lengths of 6mm (¼”) rope 25’-30’ in length and a yoga mat (can be shared by partners) or a heavy towel to help cushion your knees. Loose, comfortable clothes that you can move in (or strip down). TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only Doors open at 7, class begins at 7:30. If you will require the elevator, please call ahead: (212) 675-1390

A panel discussion on the perspective of gender as a spectrum and some of the issues that those on various points in the spectrum may encounter. In this discussion we will have a panel for people to ask and answer questions surrounding the topics of different gender identifications. How they interact with gender roles and sexuality. As well as some common issues that arise as a result. Attendees are encouraged to come with questions/input. This discussion is meant to be an interactive exchange between consenting adults. This discussion is intended to be a safe space to ask questions and share experiences. Infinity is a gender fluid switch that has been in and out of the public scene over the last 10+ years. They have also taught classes and done presentations and demonstrations for a variety of groups including Dark Odyssey, Stu with medio 58, TES, SCK, and CiniKink. TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only Doors open at 7, class begins at 7:30. If you will require the elevator, please call ahead: (212) 675-1390

Free and open to all members with a current membership card or number. If you will need elevator access, please call ahead: (212) 675-1390

So you're interested in power-exchange… Now what? This lecture is about the foundations and skills necessary to successfully create and/or better develop power exchange relationships. Topics included in the discussion will be how to lay the foundations for your “house”, modalities to use as primers, and shared experiences. This is intended to be an interactive lecture with audience participation, to help both sides of the slash on their personal journeys. Ramon is an active member of the NYC BDSM scene and involved with various organizations including TES, where he is an Emeritus Board member as well as a class presenter. In his spare time, Ramon designs and fabricates custom metal BDSM equipment and furniture. He particularly enjoys rope bondage, fire play, single tails, and making pretty girls cry. TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only Doors open at 7, class begins at 7:30. If you will require the elevator, please call ahead: (212) 675-1390

Ever wanted to get into wrestling play but we're sure where to start? Want to throw down with friends at a party, but aren't sure how to avoid potentially-injurious maneuvers? Need a few moves to muddle your way through as an absolute novice?  We've got a workshop that could help with that! How to get started in Submission Wrestling, a full-body-entanglement sport where partners lock up, grapple for control, and attempt to make each other surrender by using "submission holds."   Geared specifically toward absolute novices, this workshop will provide newcomers with a set of basic tactics and techniques that allows them to hit the mats right away. - Safety concerns: How to play rough while minimizing risk - Objectives of the game: Positions and Submissions - How to start a match: Ways to Engage while starting on the mats - Basic attacks and defenses This is a participatory workshop wherein attendees can work in pairs to learn and practice basic grips and body positioning techniques, both standing and on the mats.  However, participation is NOT required, and attendees may simply observe, if they prefer.  Technique practice only; there will be no live sparring during this workshop.  Comfortable athletic-ish attire is recommended if you choose to participate. Presenters: Diablo has been practicing submission wrestling for over a decade.  He facilitates an LGBTQ grappling club in Brooklyn and trains regularly to continue learning and evolving in the sport.  He got his official start in wrestling by throwing down at a fetish party in 2005, and he is invested in helping to make rough play adventures as safe as possible. VeVe Lane is a professional fetish wrestler who has also been practicing submission wrestling for over a decade.  She will be assisting Diablo during this workshop. Doors open at 7, class starts at 7:30 TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only If you will need elevator access, please call ahead: (212) 675-1390

Are you new to the scene? New to the NYC area? Looking to get back into the scene after a long layoff? Just want to hang out with some fun and kinky people on a Sat night, in a safe, no pressure atmosphere with knowledgeable people to guide you if needed? Come alone or with partner(s). No dress code. No admission fee to the munch, just pay for your food and drinks. We’ll be in the upstairs seating area by 7:30PM and then, we’re heading for the Espionage a Trois Play Party @ the Parth at 9PM. The TES party is optional, but only open to members and their guests or munch attendees. We will be on the second floor of the Bread and Butter Café, located at 419 Park Ave S, New York, NY 10016, on the corner at 29th Street. Here are the Do’s and Do Not’s of the Munch: DO’s Be friendly and courteous to each other. It is OK to ask each others’ scene names, roles, and fetishes. If you do not have a scene name/ Fetlife handle, have a pseudonym. Get permission before touching someone else’s belongings. Get permission before touching someone else. It is OK to drink responsibly at the munch. Respect others’ privacy. DO NOT’s Do NOT ask attendees their personal information (real name, middle name, last name, where they live, work, breed, go to school or favorite Starbucks location). Do NOT touch others without their permission. Do NOT touch others’ belongings without their permission. Do NOT get intoxicated before or during the munch. You will be told to go home. Do NOT kink shame. Sometimes someone else’s kink is not yours. Appreciate their differences. Do NOT bring outside food or beverages to the munch. Do NOT take pictures or videos during the munch. We prefer to maintain an environment of anonymity. Do NOT ask attendees their personal information (real name, middle name, last name, where they live, work, go to school, where they grew up, etc). We will be headed afterwards to the TES PARTY @ THE PARTH with a special discount….just $30 admission for attendees! Questions? Write us at novice@tes.org.

Good Evening, Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to locate and enjoy a night of covert debauchery. It’s time to come in from the cold, and join us at The Parth on Saturday, January 26th, for a night of sexy spy vs spy, code name: Espionage a Trois. Costumes and fetish-wear are encouraged, but not required, so don your finest evening-wear, catsuits, and trenchcoats! But that’s not all. Join us for our pre-party munch at the Bread and Butter Café from 7:30-9pm. The munch is a GREAT way to meet people in a low-key, non-kinky setting. You'll find more info about it here! 8pm-2am at The Parth $25 for TES members, $30 for munch attendees, $35 for other non-members RSVP on Fetlife THIS IS AN EXCLUSIVE PARTY. In order to attend this party you must be: a TES member the guest of a TES member an affiliate organization member the guest of an affiliate organization member an attendee of the pre-party munch arriving with the munch leaders If you are not yet a member, please consider becoming one today! Click here to join!!! Please take a moment and familiarize yourself with our party rules. If you have any questions, please contact zero@tes.org Looking for a playdate? Please check out our official playdate thread on Fetlife! As always, TES is a volunteer-based organization, and great events like this can’t happen without you! We need volunteers to work the door, coat check, DM, as well as help with setup and cleanup, so please consider volunteering your time. Those volunteering 1 hour of their time get in for just $10, and those volunteering at least 2 hours get in free! To volunteer, please contact Zero at zero@tes.org! Accessibility needs? Please contact zero@tes.org regarding accommodations. This post will self-destruct in five seconds.

Are you new to the kink scene and thinking about how to draw the line between your kink and vanilla life? Are you an experienced kinkster concerned about how your kink or sexual life could affect your work, future career or family? In the kink scene, protecting your privacy is a priority. However, in the age of social media and google, it's easier said than done. This class will cover the topic of kink identity, what it means, how to protect it, and ways to mitigate the effects if your privacy is violated. We'll be using the same techniques used in computer and network security as well as techniques used to protect political dissonants and activists and apply them to the kink/fetish/sex-positive/poly and leather communities. Whatever your experience is, this is a subject that you can benefit from! YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE TECH SAVVY TO BENEFIT FROM THIS CLASS. TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only Doors open at 7, class begins at 7:30. If you will require the elevator, please call ahead: (212) 675-1390

Fractionation is a well known hypnotic technique, both in the therapeutic and erotic hypnosis communities. People use it for improving the ability for the subject to enter into deep trance more quickly. It is also a way to create specific experiences related to control, the power to bring someone into a state and out of it generating feelings of power exchange. This class will delve into how fractionation works, and explore different techniques to facilitate many different aspects of the phenomenon. By breaking down the concepts of induction, awakening, awakeness, and the experience of trance states both as subjective and contextual, we can redefine both the methods and processes of hypnosis. Fractionation as a transition between two contrasting states provides us with a more general approach towards exploring mental states, hypnotic phenomenon, emotion, intimacy and sex. In addition we will discuss the ways we can visualize the narrative of a hypnotic scene and how the trance state can be charted through the various elements of play. Visual aids will be used to help explain some core concepts and novel approaches to creating unique and dynamic scenes based on Fractionation. This class is intended for all levels of experience. Doors open at 7, class begins at 7:30 TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only Please call ahead if you will need elevator access: (212) 675-1390

Whether doing pick-up play or playing as part of a long distance relationship, useful self-care in the days, and sometimes even weeks, after an intense scene or weekend can be a challenge. Without the help of a partner, it can be a bit overwhelming to be the one in charge of putting yourself back together again. After years of being both in a long distance relationship and refusing to give up the intense play she loves, Madeline has picked up more than a few tips and tricks on self-aftercare. This class will focus on preparation, wound care, nutrition, and psychology to help get your back on your feet and ready to take on the next big scene. Madeline is a trained scientists who loves to use her analytical mind and love of learning both in the bedroom and the dungeon. For the past 15 years, she has been very active in the Chicago, Minneapolis/St. Paul and New York communities, helping to run BDSM organizations, assisting with large-scale events, and teaching classes on various edge play techniques. After winning the Leather title of International Little Miss Little in 2011, she retired from the stressful pageant circuit to pursue teaching. Madeline can be found on Fetlife at saltygoodness. Doors open at 7, class begins at 7:30. If you will require the elevator, please call ahead: (212) 675-1390.