Events

It's a TES tradition, and this year we will be holding our Dirty Santa (aka White Elephant) Gift Exchange at The Jolly Bloody Good Holiday Play Party at Parthenon on December 23rd. The fun starts at 10pm (so don't worry, if your attending Novice & Newcomers Munch, we wont start without you)! How to Play To participate, all you need to do is bring a wrapped gift of no more than $25 in value. It can be anything: something kinky, something festive, something downright ridiculous (gag gifts are absolutely encouraged). We will assemble all the wrapped gifts in a pile, then at 10pm we will draw names. The first person called may pick any gift from the pile, unwrap it, and show everyone so we can ooh and ahh. That's round #1. The real fun begins with round #2. The second person called has the choice to unwrap a gift from the pile, or, they can choose to steal whatever was unwrapped by the first person and make them pick different gift from the pile to unwrap. In round #3, the third person may steal either of the gifts already unwrapped or pick from the pile. If they steal a gift, the person they stole from can steal from the remaining person, or pick from the pile, and so on. We'll continue like this each round. If you have your gift stolen, you can steal any gift not already stolen that same round. A round ends when a new gift is unwrapped from the pile. But what do you do if you unwrap that perfect present and want to keep it? Not to worry, for just $1/round you can purchase immunity for that round to keep any sneaky gift thieves from stealing (or stealing back) your gift! All the proceeds raised go to our FounderCare Committee! About FounderCare As TES nears its 50th year providing education and social opportunities to the kink community, and especially during this holiday season, our thoughts naturally turn to how it all began, and who began it. We owe a great debt to Pat Bond, Brother Leo, HMQ, and others who worked to build the foundations upon which TES rests today. Therefore, TES considers it a duty and a privilege to organize support for the aging members of our community to keep them involved with the organization that brings us all together today. Your contributions help make that possible. If you are interested in getting involved with FounderCare to reach out to older community members, please email Odile@tes.org. RSVP on Fetlife

We hope to see you in the new year for our first class of 2018 on January 9th!

A newcomers introduction to BDSM: in this discussion/workshop we’ll go over the basics as we learn to explore this exciting world safely.  We’ll go over consent, negotiation, warm up, levels of play, playstyles, and of course bondage.  Please bring 1-2 pieces of ¼” (6mm) rope, 25-30 ft in length. Jute rope will also be available for purchase.   TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only

Stay tuned for more information about this class from Hypno Group co-facilitator and TES Writers Group leader, Jaden! TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only

Are you ready for service? A fresh new look at giving and receiving service from both ends. The art of providing and the knack of accepting service with calm and ease. A discussion with points of view from both sides of the slash. What can giving service look like? What are some the reactions or actions that comes with receiving service. How can you empower & care for a submissive who provides you service? How can you find meaning in delivering service impeccably? TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only

Open and free to all members with a membership card. Come hear about the work the board has been doing and learn how to get involved!

Are you new to the scene? New to the NYC area? Looking to get back into the scene after a long layoff? Just want to hang out with some fun and kinky people on a Sat night, in a safe, no pressure atmosphere with knowledgeable people to guide you if needed? Come alone or with partner(s). No dress code. No admission fee to the munch, just pay for your food and drinks. We'll be in the upstairs seating area by 8:30PM and then, we’re heading for the Avant Garde party at 10PM. Munch attendees get discounted admission of only $10 (usually $30)! We will be on the second floor of the Bread and Butter Café, located at 419 Park Ave S, New York, NY 10016, on the corner at 29th Street. Here are the Do's and Do Not's of the Munch: DO's Be friendly and courteous to each other. It is OK to ask each others' scene names, roles, and fetishes. If you do not have a scene name/ Fetlife handle, have a pseudonym. Get permission before touching someone else's belongings. Get permission before touching someone else. It is OK to drink responsibly at the munch. Respect others' privacy. DO NOT's Do NOT ask attendees their personal information (real name, middle name, last name, where they live, work, breed, go to school or favorite Starbucks location). Do NOT touch others without their permission. Do NOT touch others' belongings without their permission. Do NOT get intoxicated before or during the munch. You will be told to go home. Do NOT kink shame. Sometimes someone else's kink is not yours. Appreciate their differences. Do NOT bring outside food or beverages to the munch. Do NOT take pictures or videos during the munch. We prefer to maintain an environment of anonymity. Do NOT ask attendees their personal information (real name, middle name, last name, where they live, work, go to school, where they grew up, etc). We will be headed afterwards to the AVANT GARDE BDSM & FETISH PLAY DUNGEON PARTY @ THE PARTHENON with a special discount….only $10 admission for attendees (no sneaking into the munch last minute)! If you wish to attend the party, please observe their dress code of minimum all black or business attire. Questions? Write us at novice@tes.org.