TES Online – Summer Fling Energy: Temporary Kink Connections Without Shame

Power exchange is often touted as the pinnacle of BDSM experiences: elusive, alluring, and hard to get right. It can seem impossible to get started with D/s. How do you know what style or level of power exchange is right for you? How can you find and vet an appropriate partner? How do you navigate negotiations, collars, protocols, contracts, and punishments? We’ll cover all those topics and beyond, giving you a solid foundation on which to build your relationship(s). This class is intended for both those who are brand-new to D/s and those who are already on their power exchange journey.

Class Objectives:

• Be able to define what power exchange, D/s, and M/s dynamics are
• Gain familiarity with your preferred power exchange style and level
• Learn what to look for in potential partners and what may be red flag behavior
• Understand various popular consent models and how they apply to D/s
• Learn how to negotiate a power exchange relationship
• Understand the truth about collars and alternative marks of ownership
• Discover how to identify feelings of submission and Dominance in your body
• Combat stereotypes about what really makes a “good” D/s partner
• Figure out if punishment/reward dynamics will work for you, and what to do if they don’t
• Understand the role that rules and protocol can play in a dynamic
• Find out how to construct a beginner-friendly relationship contract you can build on  

Bio:

Sarai311 (she/her) is a BIPOC kink educator, poet, and event organizer with a decade of experience across classroom and community learning spaces. She brings eight years of formal teaching and three years of active kink engagement into her work, blending curriculum design, emotionally grounded facilitation, and embodied pedagogy. A doctoral candidate, her research on identity development and culturally responsive pedagogy directly informs her kink education practice.

Within the kink community, she has served as a Dungeon Monitor, demo bottom, and board member for Whippersnappers TNG, and is the founder and lead organizer of BIPOC at Frolicon. She presents across the Southeast at events including Frolicon, ConNooga, and Kink Down South, and has been published twice in Black Leather in Color Magazine. Sarai311 is also the author of What We Could Never Be and Unholy Attachments, and is known for creating spaces where kink, identity, and intentional self-exploration can safely coexist.

TO REGISTER

MEMBERS – $5

1. Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal.
2. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied.

NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event

• Click here to register for this class.

If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org

REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL.

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