Civic engagement is kinky as hell and sexy to boot. We don't care who you vote for, but please make time to exercise your power by voting today!

Join us for an open discussion with some self-described smart asses. Learn how to navigate the minefields of meeting, flirting, negotiating, and generally finding your way around the scene. Get some candid advice, for smart asses, by smart asses, about how to find your way without being (too much of) an asshole. Novice and Newcomers classes are geared towards those with less experience in the NYC BDSM scene, but they are open to anyone!

Open to members with a membership card. Location TBA.

An informative talk about what victims go through, what they need & how to prevent more victimization. How to help give survivors continuing support & help those recently victimized to feel empowered to go from victim to survivor. Let's change things together. Let's work to help build up survivors in the scene. Art Amiss has been a volunteer advocate for Sexual Abuse Survivors for over 4 years, and has recently hosted a similar event in the Philadelphia area. Art Amiss' writing on what happens when a victim goes to the police is detailed here: https://fetlife.com/users/626844/posts/4709464 Cost: $5 /$10/$20 *we will not turn anyone away due to lack of funds for this very important discussion, but please contribute something towards room rental and presenter travel costs.

Come join us as we continue this conversation started at the joint TES/NCSF Consent Summit! We will discuss the obstacles we all face within our power exchange identities and relationships. Panelist to be announced. Some topics for discussion: How do you negotiate for power play in a play scene vs in a long-term relationship? What are some models for consent in power exchange relationships?  Where do we draw the ethical line?  How does gender, race, sexuality, kink and other identities and labels affect your experiences with consent practices and power-exchange relationships? How do you identify your needs and limits and assert them for yourself, while not imposing upon the needs and limits of others? Do you impose on others and if so to what extent?  How is consent applied to intangible expectations of honesty, transparency, effort vs more tangible expectations within play and relationships? While this discussion will include sharing our personal and interpersonal struggles, the focus will be how consent is or should be navigated when one party is agreeing to give up some of their autonomy.

Are you new to the scene? New to the NYC area? Looking to get back into the scene after a long layoff? Just want to hang out with some fun and kinky people on a Sat night, in a safe, no pressure atmosphere with knowledgeable people to guide you if needed? Come alone or with partner(s). No dress code. No admission fee to the munch, just pay for your food and drinks. We'll be in the upstairs seating area by 8:30PM and then, we’re heading for the Avant Garde party at 10PM. Munch attendees get discounted admission of $10 (usually $30)! We will be on the second floor of the Bread and Butter Café, located at 419 Park Ave S, New York, NY 10016, on the corner at 29th Street. We will be headed afterwards to the AVANT GARDE BDSM & FETISH PLAY DUNGEON PARTY @ THE PARTHENON with a special discount….just $10 admission for attendees! If you wish to attend the party, please observe their dress code of minimum all black or business attire. Questions? Write us at novice@tes.org.

TES Members $5 Students, Senior Citizens, & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only Doors open at 7:00 pm – Meeting begins at 7:30 pm Editing is good, to a point, but sometimes your inner critic can smother your creative process. Join us for a discussion about editing, and how to deal with burn out and the “all of this writing is crap” epidemic that plagues the artistic communities. If comfortable, please bring something to share for the peer review section of the class. As always, laptops and phones are permitted, but recording is not.

TES Members $5 Students, Senior Citizens, & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only Doors open at 7:00 pm – Meeting begins at 7:30 pm Alchemical Studios, 3rd Floor, Room C Pain is the experience of intense sensation, and a dynamic, significant part of BDSM. But what is it? More importantly, why and how do we receive it, and enjoy it? In a scene, how much of the pain and the processing is physical and how much is mental? Join a diverse panel of m-types, s-types, and bottoms as they discuss their experiences and perspectives on pain and pain processing in the scene, and delve deeper into what makes the agony so sweet!

TES Members $5 Students, Senior Citizens, & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only Doors open at 7:00 pm – Meeting begins at 7:30 pm Here’s your chance to try out different ways to play! We’ll have stations set up for Hypnokink, Impact Play (Caning, Flogging, etc.), Violet Wands and Bondage, and much more! Currently we have Flogging with Mr.CL, Violet Wands/Electrical Play with Adam, Sensory Deprivation and Overload with Lady Toro, and others will be announced soon.There will be plenty of opportunity to give or receive sensation, in a fun, laid-back environment with experienced kinksters. Stations include: Flogging, with Mr CunningLinguist Canes, with Handsome Savage Violet Wands, with Adam Sensory Deprivation/Overload, with Lady Toro Spanking/ CBT, with Venus Kinkade Close Impact and other Sensation Toys, with Jack TPK Rope Bondage, with Bound to Fly ….and more to be announced…..stay tuned!  

TES Members $5 Students, Senior Citizens, & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only Doors open at 7:00 pm – Meeting begins at 7:30 pm Running a kink event poses no shortage of challenges, not least of which are those in the arena of consent. Join us as we continue the discussion from September's Consent Summit, as we tackle such issues as: - How do we address incidents at our events? - What degree of safety can be guaranteed? Can (and how can) consent be enforced? - Can (and should) we attempt to address accusations of issues that occur outside our events? - Is there an inherent conflict of interest between ensuring safety and making profit, and can it be overcome? - Can we balance support for victims with due process? - Are bans a viable means to deal with offenders? Do restorative justice principles offer an alternative? While this discussion will focus on the issues faced by event producers and organizers, event attendees are welcome and encouraged to provide their input. TES' very own Chair of Socials and DMs, Zero, will be moderating this important discussion as we work to map out an actionable plan to tackle these important issues in our community.