• IN PERSON – Negotiation: Getting What You Need

    LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States

    Goddess Coko is here to help you determine what you want, how to achieve it, and how to lock it down with a verbal agreement. You'll learn how to pinpoint your needs and comprehend what others are seeking, as well. We will explore various negotiation styles, types of relationships, and how to negotiate discussions. Additionally, you'll gain practical experience to enhance your negotiation skills. By the end of the class, you'll feel confident and prepared to negotiate like a pro in your next scene or relationship. Bio: Goddess Coko had been an active member of the NYC kink scene for over 20+ years. She is happy and excited to be back serving on the TES Board as Secretary, a role she is familiar with when she served on the Board from 2008-2009. She returned to this role on November 20 23 as an interim Director. Goddess Coko serves as Chair of the Communications and Promotions Committees, Vice Chair of Community Relations, and volunteers on the POC Committee. Goddess Coko is also a Founding Mother of ONYX PEARLS NY-Northeast and former Co-Head Mistress and Web Mistress for ClubFEM NYC. Goddess Coko is a proud member of Goddess House NJ, a FemDom-led Leather family. To register in advance (strongly preferred): If you already have a TES account, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER MEMBERS -$10 / NON-MEMBERS - $25 Create a Member Portal account Members: Use the same email address you used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. Non-members: You will still need to make an account to register. Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on THIS LINK and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. To register on-site: There will be a QR code available to allow you to register on-site following the same process above, but TES will not be able to accept cash at the door. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org.

    $10 – $25
  • IN-PERSON – Creative Sadism with Jonnyace and brightbitter

    LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States

    A new sensation, a creative use of different and exciting tools, and using techniques that are less commonly used are some of the fun things for tops, and bottoms when playing with pain. In this hands-on 101 level class, Jonnyace and brightnbitter will discuss the why, and how, of using alternative means to create physical and mental pain. Using everyday items, not so everyday items, and some alternative techniques, you will learn sadism that goes beyond impact. Bios: @Jonnyace (They/Them) is a queer, non-binary polyamorous kinkster. They are a life coach focusing on gender, sexual, and romantic minorities. Jon leads the Hudson Valley Polyamory Society, as well as being a member of the Ascend Incident Response Team, and the Head DM of Ascend Hudson Valley. They have been in the public kink scene for over a decade, and have been sharing their knowledge with kink communities holding classes, demos, and discussion groups on topics including medical play, D/s dynamics, polyamory, and more @Brightnbitter (She/They) is a queer polyamorous switch who enjoys service oriented submission and topping for rope and impact play. She is active in the kink community in Southern New England and the Hudson Valley region, and is a constant learner and passionate presenter on topics that include D/s dynamics in non-monogamy, safety and consent practices in scenes and relationships, and techniques for fun and fulfilling kinky play. To register in advance (strongly preferred): If you already have a TES account, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER MEMBERS -$10 / NON-MEMBERS - $25 Create a Member Portal account Members: Use the same email address you used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. Non-members: You will still need to make an account to register. Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on THIS LINK and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. To register on-site: There will be a QR code available to allow you to register on-site following the same process above, but TES will not be able to accept cash at the door. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org

    $10 – $25
  • IN-PERSON – Violet Wand Play 101: An Electrifying Introduction

    LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States

    Are you curious about adding a spark to your play? This introductory class on Violet Wand Play will guide you through the exciting world of electrostimulation, covering the basics of safety, technique, and creativity. You'll learn: How a Violet Wand Works – Understanding the mechanics and types of devices. Safety & Precautions – Best practices to ensure safe and consensual play. Basic Techniques – Hands-on demonstrations of direct and indirect methods. Electro Sensations – Exploring how different attachments and accessories create a range of experiences, from tingling to intense. Building Confidence – Tips for negotiation, communication, and creating an electrifying scene. This class is perfect for beginners or those looking to refine their skills. Whether you’re interested in sensation play, artistic experimentation, or just learning something new, this class will leave you buzzing with excitement. Bios: Malswitch has been an active Switch in the LS for 18 years, beginning his journey as a submissive bottom under a sadistic Mistress. During the nine years in the U.S. Army, he took the opportunity to explore multi-state classes, dungeons, and dynamics in his free time. It was during this period that he discovered his dominant side. His involvement in the community began in NYC and later expanded to the Long Island scene upon returning home. A sensualist with sado-masochistic tendencies, Malswitch enjoys impact, edge play, knife play, sensual play, and bondage, with a particular passion for electro-play. He has dedicated extensive time and resources to refining his skills, accumulating countless classroom hours, and building a well-equipped electro tool kit. Angel (any pronouns) is a multifaceted clown, dynamic switch, poly, pansexual, energy player, and community seeker. Always eager to learn, evolve, and have fun in the safest way possible. Discovering the Kinky community in 2021, Angel has been actively involved in attending parties, events, workshops, and classes. Active kinks includes: fire play, electro, all things sensation, tickling, rope, and tittie worship/torture, Angel brings a unique and passionate energy to their community. In their regular life, Angel helps people find their dream home. This class will be held at: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street New York, NY To register in advance (strongly preferred): If you already have a TES account, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER MEMBERS -$10 / NON-MEMBERS - $25 Create a Member Portal account Members: Use the same email address you used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. Non-Members: You will still need to make an account to register. Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on THIS LINK and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. To register on-site: There will be a QR code available to allow you to register on-site following the same process above, but TES will not be able to accept cash at the door. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org

  • IN-PERSON – ABDL 101 with Sir Kenzo ONYX

    LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States

    ABDL 101 is a beginner-friendly class designed for those curious about Adult Baby/Diaper Lover (ABDL) and ageplay. We’ll break down common misconceptions, explore the differences between ABDL and ageplay, including how age players can embrace older identities, and discuss the various ways people engage with this lifestyle. The session includes a live diapering demonstration, practical tips for comfort and discretion, and guidance on finding supportive communities and resources. Whether you're exploring for yourself or supporting a partner, this class offers a judgment-free space to learn, ask questions, and discover what works for you. Bios: Sir Kenzo ONYX is a respected titleholder, kink educator, and community organizer with a passion for fostering inclusivity and education within the kink, Leather, and fetish communities. As an active member of ONYX NY Northeast, a Leather fraternity for men and siblings of color, Kenzo plays a crucial role in mentoring newcomers and creating safe, affirming spaces for LGBTQ+ and BIPOC individuals exploring their kink identities. With over a decade of experience in the kink world, Kenzo specializes in ageplay dynamics, power exchange relationships, ABDL, and intersectionality in fetish spaces. His work extends beyond education, as he is deeply involved in event planning, community-building initiatives, and advocacy for kinksters of color. He has presented and facilitated discussions at major kink and fetish events across the country, aiming to break stigmas and encourage self-acceptance within niche kink communities. Kenzo is also known for organizing Diaper Happy Hour in NYC, an ABDL social event, as well as working closely with organizations like ONYX, Gotham Kennel Club, and other groups to create inclusive kink spaces. His teaching style is engaging, informative, and always welcoming to individuals of all experience levels. Whether through education, mentorship, or event organizing, Kenzo is committed to ensuring that all kinksters—especially those from marginalized backgrounds—feel seen, heard, and supported in their journey. This class will be held at: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street New York, NY To register in advance (strongly preferred): If you already have a TES account, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER MEMBERS -$10 / NON-MEMBERS - $25 Create a Member Portal account: Members: Use the same email address you used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. Non-members: You will still need to make an account to register. Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on THIS LINK and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. To register on-site: There will be a QR code available to allow you to register on-site following the same process above, but TES will not be able to accept cash at the door. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org

  • In-Person – Become a DM for TES Fest 2025

    LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States

    Youngscientist, our TES Fest 2025 Chair of Safety, will be training all volunteers who signed up to be Dungeon Monitors for TES Fest 2025. If you're interested in learning for future TES events but didn't sign up, please register anyway—education is knowledge capital for our community. As a Dungeon Monitor, you’ll learn how to: Develop skills to facilitate a safe dungeon environment Work effectively with a team Communicate respectfully and clearly Identify possible safety risks Understand the dos and don'ts of the role Devise solutions and alternative approaches To review best practices on skill-based play, and boundaries of consent in a dungeon environment Bio: @Youngscientist has been active in many facets of the scene for over 15 years. He’s volunteered and worked on staff for at least a dozen organizations throughout that time, including being one of the few Pro-DM’s in the NYC area. Knowledge has been one of his main driving forces, which led him to start teaching early on. He’s probably most well-known for teaching Wrestling/Grappling classes and hosting Jello and Lube Wrestling events. This class will be held at: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street New York, NY To register in advance (strongly preferred): If you already have a TES account, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER Create a Member Portal account Members: use the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. Non-members: you will still need to make an account to register . Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, return to this FL event page, click on THIS LINK and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. To register on-site: There will be a QR code available to allow you to register on-site following the same process above, but TES will not be able to accept cash at the door. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org At the event, you'll have the opportunity to become a TES member by scanning our on-site QR code. Membership not only connects you with a vibrant community but also unlocks discounts for our flagship event: TES Fest 2025! TES Fest 2025: Celebrate Your Freedom to Be Kinky! Mark your calendars for July 3–6, 2025, as we take over our favorite hotel in Piscataway, NJ, for a weekend filled with: Educational Workshops: Over 90 classes, demos, and hands-on workshops covering a wide array of kinky skills and interests. Special Events: Meet & Greets, kinky speed dating, and more, offering endless opportunities to connect and have fun. Play Spaces: Custom-built indoor and outdoor dungeons equipped with top-notch equipment for your exploration. Vendors: A diverse selection of fetish and BDSM vendors, offering everything from corsets to whips. As a TES member, you'll enjoy exclusive discounts on TES Fest registration. Don't miss out on this premier event in the NYC Metro region, designed for everyone—from novices to seasoned veterans—to socialize, learn new skills, and have a great time. For more details, visit TESFest.org. Don't miss this chance to game, connect, and gear up for an unforgettable summer! Bring a friend, roll the dice, and let's make memories together. See you there!

  • Online – Become a DM for TES Fest 2025 (Online Version)

    Virtual

    Youngscientist, our TES Fest 2025 Chair of Safety, will be training all volunteers who signed up to be Dungeon Monitors for TES Fest 2025. If you’re interested in learning for future TES events but didn’t sign up, please register anyway—education is knowledge capital for our community. As a Dungeon Monitor, you’ll learn how to: Develop skills to facilitate a safe dungeon environment Work effectively with a team Communicate respectfully and clearly Identify possible safety risks Understand the dos and don’ts of the role Devise solutions and alternative approaches To review best practices on skill-based play, and boundaries of consent in a dungeon environment Bio: @Youngscientist has been active in many facets of the scene for over 15 years. He’s volunteered and worked on staff for at least a dozen organizations throughout that time, including being one of the few Pro-DM’s in the NYC area. Knowledge has been one of his main driving forces, which led him to start teaching early on. He’s probably most well-known for teaching Wrestling/Grappling classes and hosting Jello and Lube Wrestling events. To register: MEMBERS - FREE Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, return to this FL event page, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - FREE Click here for this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide. TES Fest 2025: Celebrate Your Freedom to Be Kinky! Mark your calendars for July 3–6, 2025, as we take over our favorite hotel in Piscataway, NJ, for a weekend filled with: Educational Workshops: Over 90 classes, demos, and hands-on workshops covering a wide array of kinky skills and interests. Special Events: Meet & Greets, kinky speed dating, and more, offering endless opportunities to connect and have fun. Play Spaces: Custom-built indoor and outdoor dungeons equipped with top-notch equipment for your exploration. Vendors: A diverse selection of fetish and BDSM vendors, offering everything from corsets to whips. As a TES member, you'll enjoy exclusive discounts on TES Fest registration. Don't miss out on this premier event in the NYC Metro region, designed for everyone—from novices to seasoned veterans—to socialize, learn new skills, and have a great time. For more details, visit TESFest.org

  • IN-PERSON – Transgender Round Table

    LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States

    This Pride Month, TES presents a roundtable featuring a diverse panel of Transgender BDSM players and professionals from across the New York Metropolitan Trans community. By bringing together these panelists' perspectives in conversation, we hope to address issues around safety, community, and transformation. We invite everyone to take time from this month of celebration to listen to the voices of trans kinksters who, despite the violent campaign waged against them, remain steadfast in preserving and advancing our collective liberation in and out of the scene. Moderator: Dahlia Damoiselle @ExpendableFemme Panelists: Boss Dian @cellophaneswitch Lucy Hart @LucyHart Oran Julius @JuicyFruitOran Mistress Katia Thorn @MistressThorn Violet Bordeaux @violet_bordeaux This class will be held at: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street New York, NY To register in advance (strongly preferred): If you already have a TES account, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER MEMBERS/NON-MEMBERS - FREE Create a Member Portal account Members: Use the same email address you used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. Non-members: You will still need to make an account to register. Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on THIS LINK and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. To register on-site: A QR code will be available to allow on-site registration, following the same process outlined above. However, please note that TES will not accept cash at the door. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org

  • IN-PERSON – Bringing the War Fans Out to Play with Sir Sublime

    LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States

    War fans have been an unconventional toy for BDSM play for over two decades and are one that Sir Sublime holds dear in his heart. In this class, Sir Sublime will share his considerable knowledge on the history behind the use of War fans for kinky play, safety tips for both Tops and bottoms, and fun ways to incorporate war fans into your style of play. SirSublime has been publicly practicing BDSM since 2011 and has been a House Top and House Rigger for various play spaces during his journey. Sir Sublime considers himself a rope artist, toy maker, and educator. He is known for his sensual rope work, fan play, and his dedication to safety. Demo bottom: Lex Lively realized that she might be into impact play when she would look for any excuse to be paddled while in a sorority during her time in college. While fairly new to the public scene, she has spent the last few years learning and exploring, discovering new things that excite her almost constantly. She lives up to her name, meeting each moment with energy and enthusiasm, always looking forward to the next adventure. This class will be held at: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street New York, NY To register in advance (strongly preferred): If you already have a TES account, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER MEMBERS -$10 / NON-MEMBERS - $25 Create a Member Portal account: Members: Use the same email address you used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. Non-members: You will still need to make an account to register. Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on THIS LINK and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. To register on-site: There will be a QR code available to allow you to register on-site following the same process above, but TES will not be able to accept cash at the door. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org

  • IN-PERSON – The Art of Tittie Torture with AngelFireQueen

    LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States

    This class welcomes all body types, genders, and/or gender-nonconforming. What comes to mind when you see that tittie? There's no single right answer, and this class embraces the spectrum of possibilities. As a devoted "boob-lover," Angel often receives requests for specific forms of breast worship; many of her masochistic "breastfriends" seek the thrill of bruises and marks. As an artist dedicated to safe pleasure, Angel has cultivated numerous effective techniques for consensual breast torture, and she's eager to share her findings. This class provides a rich array of options for "tittie torture," from psychological methods to those leaving no marks, and those designed for deep bruising.  Whether the occasion calls for subtle intensity or extreme impact, you'll discover a wealth of techniques, including those that create sensation without physical touch. Explore popular methods alongside more unique and intense approaches, all depending on your desired outcome. Learn Angel's favorite techniques, like how to create those beautiful, deep purple bruises many desire, or how to inflict profound pain without leaving a trace. This dynamic class focuses entirely on breasts, spanning the spectrum from the deeply sensual to the exquisitely painful. Each session emphasizes consent, safe practices, and crucial aftercare. You're welcome to attend solo or with your "breastfriends"; the class includes dedicated time for demonstrations and hands-on practice. Don't forget to bring your favorite toys for a show-and-tell at the end of the workshop.  @AngelFireQueen, as a passionate advocate for "Boobie Worship," is thrilled to present "The Art of Tittie Torture. Bio: Meet Angel (she/her), a multifaceted switch, poly, and pansexual energy player who thrives on community connection. Originally from Latin America, she's called NYC home for 17 years, driven by a constant desire to learn, evolve, and safely explore. Since discovering the kink community in 2021, Angel has become deeply involved, regularly attending parties, events, classes, and workshops. Her current passions span fire, electro play, all forms of sensation, rope, and breast worship/torture. Angel infuses the community with her unique and passionate energy. In her professional life, she guides people to their dream homes. This class will be held at: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street New York, NY To register in advance (strongly preferred): If you already have a TES account, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER MEMBERS -$10 / NON-MEMBERS - $25 Create a Member Portal account: Members: Use the same email address you used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. Non-members: You will still need to make an account to register. Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on THIS LINK and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. To register on-site: There will be a QR code available to allow you to register on-site following the same process above, but TES will not be able to accept cash at the door. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org

  • IN-PERSON – BDSM 101 with Goddess Coko and Sadomasochist Sal

    LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States

    Curious about BDSM? Whether you're a beginner or returning to the scene, this class is your perfect starting point! We'll cover consent models, essential safety and negotiation skills, basic vocabulary, roles, and archetypes. Discover what BDSM is (and isn't!) and how to navigate munches and play parties. Our goal is to give you the foundation to explore kink safely, solo or with partners. Ready to dive in? Bio: Goddess Coko (she/her) had been an active member of the NYC kink scene for over 20+ years. She is happy and excited to be back serving on the TES Board as Secretary, a role she is familiar with when she served on the Board from 2008 to 2009. She returned to this role in November 2023 as an interim Director. Goddess Coko serves as Chair of the Communications and Promotions Committees, Vice Chair of Community Relations, and volunteers on the POC Committee.  Goddess Coko is also a Founding Mother of ONYX PEARLS NY-Northeast and former Co-Head Mistress and Web Mistress for ClubFEM NYC. Goddess Coko is a proud member of Goddess House NJ, a FemDom-led Leather family. Sadomasochist Sal (he/him/they/them) has been active in the BDSM community since the summer of 2021. During this time, Sal has attended several conventions, including three TESFests, all of which he volunteered at, and has become a regular at several NYC-based play parties and munches. At the end of 2024, he began volunteering at TES, an organization he has been a member of since 2023. As a sadomasochist, Sal enjoys both receiving and inflicting physical pain when consent is explicitly given. Although he has a particular fondness for impact play, he also enjoys fire play, mummification, trampling, and rope suspension. And he is also a caregiver at heart, as he derives extreme pleasure from sharing his knowledge and experiences with others, especially those newer to the community. This class will be held at: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street New York, NY To register in advance (strongly preferred): If you already have a TES account, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER MEMBERS -$10 / NON-MEMBERS - $25 Create a Member Portal account: Members: Use the same email address you used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. Non-members: You will still need to make an account to register. Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on THIS LINK and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. To register on-site: There will be a QR code available to allow you to register on-site following the same process above, but TES will not be able to accept cash at the door. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org