Events

Join us for an evening where we talk about what s-types look for in Dominants, how the D/s or M/s dynamic is maintained, and what particular challenges are being faced.

Join Master Fine Arse for a fun evening of kinky live drawing and art making.

Happy holiday!

So you and someone(s) else want to scene? Now what? If you've ever been at a loss for how to negotiate, this workshop is for you. We will explore how to negotiate ethically and effectively. This class will focus on the concepts of consent, vetting, strategies for negotiating, topics to cover during negotiation, and common pitfalls. Novice and Newcomers classes are geared towards those with less experience in the NYC BDSM scene, but they are open to anyone! TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only

Free and open to all members with a current ID card. Come hear what the board is working on, offer feedback/suggestions, or volunteer to help out!

Come join the TES Writers Group to share work and discuss creative writing for kink! TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only

In this novice level class, we'll examine the tricks and techniques that are unique to Japanese-style Shibari and move from basic western techniques to the flowing aesthetics of Shibari. We'll review the basics of western style (reverse tension and cinching) then move on to shibari.  Participants must know be able to tie a basic single column tie.  Bring several pieces of rope 1/4" (6mm), 25-30 ft in length (natural fiber such as Jute or Hemp strongly preferred). TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only

We hope to see you in the new year for our first class of 2018 on January 9th!

Are you new to the scene? New to the NYC area? Looking to get back into the scene after a long layoff? Just want to hang out with some fun and kinky people on a Saturday night, in a safe, no pressure atmosphere with knowledgeable people to guide you if needed? Come alone or with partner(s). No dress code. No admission fee to the munch, just pay for your food and drinks. We’ll be in the upstairs seating area by 7:30PM and then, we’re heading for the Jolly Bloody Good Holiday Party @ the Parthenon at 9PM. We're meeting and ending earlier so we can take part in the White Elephant Gift Exchange at the party. The TES party is optional, but only open to members and their guests or munch attendees. We will be on the second floor of the Bread and Butter Café, located at 419 Park Ave S, New York, NY 10016, on the corner at 29th Street. We will be headed afterwards to the TES PARTY @ THE PARTHENON with a special discount….just $20 admission for attendees! Questions? Write us at novice@tes.org.

It's a TES tradition, and this year we will be holding our Dirty Santa (aka White Elephant) Gift Exchange at The Jolly Bloody Good Holiday Play Party at Parthenon on December 23rd. The fun starts at 10pm (so don't worry, if your attending Novice & Newcomers Munch, we wont start without you)! How to Play To participate, all you need to do is bring a wrapped gift of no more than $25 in value. It can be anything: something kinky, something festive, something downright ridiculous (gag gifts are absolutely encouraged). We will assemble all the wrapped gifts in a pile, then at 10pm we will draw names. The first person called may pick any gift from the pile, unwrap it, and show everyone so we can ooh and ahh. That's round #1. The real fun begins with round #2. The second person called has the choice to unwrap a gift from the pile, or, they can choose to steal whatever was unwrapped by the first person and make them pick different gift from the pile to unwrap. In round #3, the third person may steal either of the gifts already unwrapped or pick from the pile. If they steal a gift, the person they stole from can steal from the remaining person, or pick from the pile, and so on. We'll continue like this each round. If you have your gift stolen, you can steal any gift not already stolen that same round. A round ends when a new gift is unwrapped from the pile. But what do you do if you unwrap that perfect present and want to keep it? Not to worry, for just $1/round you can purchase immunity for that round to keep any sneaky gift thieves from stealing (or stealing back) your gift! All the proceeds raised go to our FounderCare Committee! About FounderCare As TES nears its 50th year providing education and social opportunities to the kink community, and especially during this holiday season, our thoughts naturally turn to how it all began, and who began it. We owe a great debt to Pat Bond, Brother Leo, HMQ, and others who worked to build the foundations upon which TES rests today. Therefore, TES considers it a duty and a privilege to organize support for the aging members of our community to keep them involved with the organization that brings us all together today. Your contributions help make that possible. If you are interested in getting involved with FounderCare to reach out to older community members, please email Odile@tes.org. RSVP on Fetlife