Events

Ah, the holidays… that time of year when we gather round the parlour to play games involving bowls of flaming fruits, when naughty children face beatings and kidnappings from Germanic folk demons, and when we all hope we’re the lucky one to find the glass pickle. Sound strange? Well that’s how things were done back in the Victorian Age, and on December 23rd, TES is taking you back to that classic era for our Jolly Bloody Good Holiday Play Party!!! Costumes are encouraged, but not required, and there will be door prizes for those with the best themed costumes and scenes, so whether your preference is classical Victorian corsets or steam-punk attire, come out with your best dress! Remember, this is the era that gave us rattan canes, crops, the violet ray (better known now as the violet wand), medicine show mesmerization (hypnokink anyone?), and all sorts of kinky vintage medical equipment, including the original vibrators (though please respect the party rules regarding penetration). Not sure what else to bring to the party? Forget something at home? Looking for that last minute kinky gift? Not to worry, we are thrilled to have Machine Mike Toys and Kacima, who have come together this holiday season as our exclusive party vendor, and will have all you need to stuff your stocking! And speaking of kinky gifts, come early and join us for our annual Dirty Santa gift exchange. To play, just bring a wrapped gift of up to $25 in value (or alternatively, visit Mike and Kacima). We’ll take turns picking, opening, and stealing each other’s gifts until the smoke clears (but don’t worry, for a small donation to our FounderCare Committee, you can secure immunity for the round! Because giving and receiving isn’t just about Tops and Bottoms!!! Full Rules Here But that’s not all. Join us for our pre-party munch at the Bread and Butter Café from 7:30-9pm. The munch is a GREAT way to meet people in a low-key, non-kinky setting. You'll find more info about it here! 8pm-2am at Parthenon Studios $20 for members and munch attendees, $30 for other non-members RSVP on Fetlife THIS IS AN EXCLUSIVE PARTY. In order to attend this party you must be: - a TES member - the guest of a TES member - an affiliate organization member - the guest of an affiliate organization member - an attendee of the pre-party munch arriving with the munch leaders If you are not yet a member, please consider becoming one today! Click Here Looking for a playdate? Please check out our official playdate thread on Fetlife, or come to the party and make a wish on our wishboard. Simply write down what you’re looking for on the board and take the corresponding number and stick it somewhere everyone can see. And if you’re interest in something written on the board, simply look for the person wearing that number. And there’s nothing like tossing a little money in the ol’ wishing well to help your wish come true, so please consider donating what you can. All proceeds go to benefit NCSF! As always, TES is a volunteer-based organization, and great events like this can’t happen without you! We need volunteers to work the door, coat check, DM, as well as up with setup and cleanup, so please consider volunteering your time. Those volunteering 1 hour of their time get in for half price, and those volunteering at least 2 hours get in free! To volunteer, please contact Zero at zero@tes.org!

We hope to see you in the new year for our first class of 2018 on January 9th!

A newcomers introduction to BDSM: in this discussion/workshop we’ll go over the basics as we learn to explore this exciting world safely.  We’ll go over consent, negotiation, warm up, levels of play, playstyles, and of course bondage.  Please bring 1-2 pieces of ¼” (6mm) rope, 25-30 ft in length. Jute rope will also be available for purchase.   TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only

Stay tuned for more information about this class from Hypno Group co-facilitator and TES Writers Group leader, Jaden! TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only

Are you ready for service? A fresh new look at giving and receiving service from both ends. The art of providing and the knack of accepting service with calm and ease. A discussion with points of view from both sides of the slash. What can giving service look like? What are some the reactions or actions that comes with receiving service. How can you empower & care for a submissive who provides you service? How can you find meaning in delivering service impeccably? TES Members $5 Students & Military with ID $10 Reciprocal Groups $10 Non-Members $20 Cash Only

Open and free to all members with a membership card. Come hear about the work the board has been doing and learn how to get involved!

Are you new to the scene? New to the NYC area? Looking to get back into the scene after a long layoff? Just want to hang out with some fun and kinky people on a Sat night, in a safe, no pressure atmosphere with knowledgeable people to guide you if needed? Come alone or with partner(s). No dress code. No admission fee to the munch, just pay for your food and drinks. We'll be in the upstairs seating area by 8:30PM and then, we’re heading for the Avant Garde party at 10PM. Munch attendees get discounted admission of only $10 (usually $30)! We will be on the second floor of the Bread and Butter Café, located at 419 Park Ave S, New York, NY 10016, on the corner at 29th Street. Here are the Do's and Do Not's of the Munch: DO's Be friendly and courteous to each other. It is OK to ask each others' scene names, roles, and fetishes. If you do not have a scene name/ Fetlife handle, have a pseudonym. Get permission before touching someone else's belongings. Get permission before touching someone else. It is OK to drink responsibly at the munch. Respect others' privacy. DO NOT's Do NOT ask attendees their personal information (real name, middle name, last name, where they live, work, breed, go to school or favorite Starbucks location). Do NOT touch others without their permission. Do NOT touch others' belongings without their permission. Do NOT get intoxicated before or during the munch. You will be told to go home. Do NOT kink shame. Sometimes someone else's kink is not yours. Appreciate their differences. Do NOT bring outside food or beverages to the munch. Do NOT take pictures or videos during the munch. We prefer to maintain an environment of anonymity. Do NOT ask attendees their personal information (real name, middle name, last name, where they live, work, go to school, where they grew up, etc). We will be headed afterwards to the AVANT GARDE BDSM & FETISH PLAY DUNGEON PARTY @ THE PARTHENON with a special discount….only $10 admission for attendees (no sneaking into the munch last minute)! If you wish to attend the party, please observe their dress code of minimum all black or business attire. Questions? Write us at novice@tes.org.