November 18 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM ONLINE – Art of the Scene: Crafting the Moment LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States A well-crafted scene is more than just a sequence of actions—it’s a dance of intention, sensation, and connection. This class explores the art of designing and executing compelling scenes with purpose, creativity, and mindfulness. Whether spontaneous or meticulously planned, a great scene balances structure with fluidity, intensity with care, and precision with artistry. What You’ll Learn: The Flow of a Scene – Understanding the beginning (preparation & meditation), middle (sensory engagement, intensity building, and surprises), and end (closure & aftercare). Art of Scene Writing – Moving beyond spur-of-the-moment play to create structured, intentional experiences. Key Elements of a Scene: Scene summary and defining cast roles Timeline and pacing Props and environmental setup Risk identification and mitigation Understanding limits—medical, physical, and emotional Choreographing movement and interaction The power of music and playlist selection as a timekeeper The importance of aftercare and reintegration The class will include discussions, practical insights, and a case study of a complex scene involving all the items above. Bios: Knight of Xanadu and TheGirl_Star are the founders of Xanadu KINK Academy, where they teach High Protocol, etiquette, and intentional power exchange. Married for over 22 years and living a 24/7 dynamic, they blend lived experience with immersive education. Knight_of_Xanadu brings calm authority and structure as a seasoned Dominant, while TheGirl_Star, a Certified Etiquette Consultant, and a proud member of the International Association of Professional Etiquette Consultants adds sparkle, grace, and hands-on teaching. Together, they guide others in creating elegant, respectful, and deeply connected dynamics through classes, mentorship, and ritual TES classes include instruction, Q&A, and TES Circle; class length varies. To register: MEMBERS - $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
Featured November 27 Happy Thanksgiving! It's the only day of the year where "too much pie" is a myth. 🥧 Wishing you a warm, laughter-filled holiday surrounded by the people you love. Go forth and feast!
December 1 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM IN-PERSON – TES Monthly Munch Skylight Diner 402 West 34th Street, New York, NY, United States We'd love to have you at the TES Monthly Munch! Whether you're new to the scene, an old friend, or just curious, our monthly munch is a great opportunity to meet fellow kinksters in a low-key, low-pressure setting. There’s no need to RSVP, and everyone is welcome—you don’t even have to be a TES member to join us! We gather on the first Monday of every month (if it's a holiday, we'll meet on the following Monday) at an alternative lifestyle-friendly diner in NYC. Our hosts will be there to give you a warm welcome and answer any questions. Attending is free; you just pay for your food and please remember to tip your server well! We also ask that you wear "vanilla" (non-BDSM) clothes. A Note on Safety This event is held at a public diner, and while we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated against COVID-19, we cannot control what the restaurant requires of other patrons. Please assess your own risk and act accordingly. We will have a discreet contact tracing option available, which we encourage you to use. For more information, including a code of conduct for newcomers, please visit our FAQ page. We can't wait to see you there!
December 11 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM Tiptoeing Around Foot Service LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States A workshop on service, sensuality, and getting out of your own way. Is your foot service scene all soles and no soul? This playful, practical, permission-filled workshop explores and corrects common missteps in service-based touch through three core layers: embodied communication, polarity, and hands-on foot-focused connection. You’ll learn how intention, energy, and action sometimes fall out of sync…and how to bring them back into balance with care and clarity. Whether you're taking your first steps in kink, seasoned in service, or simply curious to deepen your dynamic, you’ll leave with insight, tools, and a more grounded way to connect (both with others and with yourself). Bios: Kyla the @CreatrixOfChaos delights in turning life’s contradictions into creative catalysts. She teaches the art and science of connection, communication, and coming closer together through experiential workshops, playful frameworks, and embodied education. Through her brand @CultivatedChaos, she offers conscious touch workshops that blend structure and sensation, language and lived experience, guiding curious minds and eager bodies into polarity, presence, and possibility through structured play. A lifelong explorer and lover of her own edges, Kyla is known for her nonlinear brilliance, grounded heart, and generous field of permission. Join her in cultivating spaces where tension is wielded as a tool, curiosity becomes capacity, and even the shyest spark gets to shine! Location and Cost Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee MUST have a separate account to register. Online Registration: If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration: On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited. You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone. The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
December 15 Happy Hannukah! Eight nights of light, joy, and miracles! ✨ Wishing you and yours a Hanukkah filled with laughter, gelt, and endless blessings. What's your favorite night? 🕎
December 15 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM ONLINE – TES Board Meeting Virtual Are you a current TES member? You're invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization. This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only. How to Join All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn't receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org. We Have Board Vacancies! Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you're interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself. Not a Member Yet? If you're interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We'd love to have you!
December 16 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Year-End Circle/Munch Virtual You are warmly invited to join us on the TES Discord for a special online munch and year-in-review TES Circle. This virtual meeting will be a wonderful opportunity to reflect on our accomplishments and challenges from the past year, and to look ahead and set goals for the next year. We will discuss our personal kink journeys and goals in a supportive and engaging environment. Then, if the mood takes us, we could play some party games! So grab dinner or a snack, pour your favorite festive drink, get cozy, and log on. We look forward to seeing you there! To register: MEMBERS - FREE Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, return to this event page, click on this link, and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - FREE Click here to register for this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOG IN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. You will need to download the Discord app.
December 18 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM TES Holiday Potluck Whether you light the Menorah, decorate the tree, honor the Solstice, or celebrate Kwanzaa, you have a home with us this holiday season. Join the TES Board, staff, and your fellow members for a night of warmth, laughter, and shared goodwill. Come bask in the holiday glow as we toast to peace on earth and strengthen the bonds that make our community so special. It’s the perfect time to reconnect with old friends and spark brand-new connections. To make the night complete, please bring: A Dish to Share: Fuel the festivities with your favorite recipe. A White Elephant Gift: Join the chaos of our gift exchange! (Optional; gender-neutral & max value $10). You: Because the best gift to the community is your presence. Location and Cost Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members/Non-Members: FREE Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Online Registration: If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you've forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your registration. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log in and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your registration. On-Site Registration: On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited. You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone. The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above.
December 25 Merry Christmas! Sleigh bells ring, are you listening? 🎶 The presents are unwrapped and the cocoa is hot. Best time of the year! Tell me your favorite gift you received! 🎁
January 1, 2026 Happy New Year! Page one of 365. Our resolution? Resolution #1: Wait until tomorrow to start our resolutions. Happy New Year! What's your simple goal for today? 🥂😉