IN-PERSON: TES Monthly Munch August 3 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Skylight Diner 402 West 34th Street, New York, NY, United States We'd love to have you at the TES Monthly Munch! Whether you're new to the scene, an old friend, or just curious, our monthly munch is a great opportunity to meet fellow kinksters in a low-key, low-pressure setting. There’s no need to RSVP, and everyone is welcome—you don’t even have to be a TES member to join us! We gather on the first Monday of every month (if it's a holiday, we'll meet on the following Monday) at an alternative lifestyle-friendly diner in NYC. Our hosts will be there to give you a warm welcome and answer any questions. Attending is free; you just pay for your food, and please remember to tip your server well! We also ask that you wear "vanilla" (non-BDSM) clothes. This is a vanilla event. Respect others' privacy and consent by not displaying any kink activities in this public space. A Note on Safety This event is held at a public diner, and while we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated against COVID-19, we cannot control what the restaurant requires of other patrons. Please assess your own risk and act accordingly. We will have a discreet contact tracing option available, which we encourage you to use. For more information, including a code of conduct for newcomers, please visit our FAQ page. We can't wait to see you there!
Online – Boldly Bottoming Discussion Group August 4 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Boldly Bottoming follows a discussion-based format where those who identify as bottoms can come together to discuss the various topics we face. Our discussions look to foster community, share knowledge, and promote safety in the community. Discussions are centered around experiences and learnings from those who choose to participate. Knowledge sharing does occur, but from a personal perspective. This space is for bottoms, submissives, slaves, switches, or anyone who sometimes identifies on the right side of the slash some or all of the time. Bio: My name is Kathy, and I’m a white, queer, polyamorous woman who identifies as a service-oriented bottom within the kink community. My presentation style is rooted in service and a deep devotion to leaving a positive impact on the world by creating spaces where others can explore their own authenticity. I am a systemic sex therapist, live in Philadelphia with my angelic cat, Jojo, and have been active in my local kink community since November 2022. In addition to hosting Boldly Bottoming, I also teach on topics such as service, rope, bottoming, and negotiation in my local scene. To register: MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
In-Person: Mindfucking 101 August 13 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States Ever wondered how to deceive someone so convincingly they struggle to distinguish between reality and fantasy? And what is the difference between lying and deception? If you have asked these or similar questions, Master Apex’s “Mindfucking 101” workshop is for you. Through their signature lens of psychological domination, Master Apex provides an educational experience in which participants are taught and empowered to safely, consensually, and creatively develop mindfucking scenes. Workshop attendees can expect to learn core mindfucking concepts and skills; brainstorm their own mindfucking ideas based on concepts learned; and witness an audience-inspired mindfucking demonstration. Join Master Apex as they bring you into their world of mindplay and show you how to bring mischievous mindfucking scenes to life. Bio: Since 2021, Master Apex (all pronouns) has been a part of the kink community and has proudly been an NYC-based professional døminatrix for the past 3 years. Known for their iconic buzzed haircut and evil grin, Master Apex identifies as a gender-bending, neurodivergent, sadistic dominant, specializing in psychological domination, mind play, sharps/blood play, fire play, impact, wrestling. In other words, all forms of sadism. Master Apex is sensual, devious, and mischievous, known by many for crafting thoughtful, layered, and original scenes. Their passion for domination is just as powerful as their passion for community. They are invested in teaching workshops, skill sharing, and meeting fellow kinksters and professionals at events and conferences across the country. A travel fanatic, Master Apex plans domestic tours seasonally in the hopes of meeting more kinksters, building upon their skills, and gaining more experience. Outside of being a sinister mastermind, Master Apex loves fitness, vegan food, cooking for friends, watching films, and attending concerts. You can find Master Apex cracking a whip, fire flogging, or making a meal for folks somewhere in the world. To learn more about Master Apex, visit their website at callmeapex.com. Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Registration Instructions If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the class registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you've forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your Member Portal account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration is NOT available. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
TES Online – TES Board Meeting August 17 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Are you a current TES member? You're invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization. This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only. How to Join All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn't receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org. We Have Board Vacancies! Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you're interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself. Not a Member Yet? If you're interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We'd love to have you!
In-Person: The First Year: A Newbie Roundtable August 27 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States New journeys often come with new obstacles. How can we build an arrival kit for those starting this new adventure? Please join us for a roundtable discussion where community members will share their first-year experiences. The good, the bad, and the ugly are all grist for the mill. Through these shared stories, we will explore topics such as managing the initial frenzy, munch etiquette, reading the room, vetting play partners and other newbie challenges. This session is open to everyone, regardless of experience level. Panelists: JaceMax Jace (he/him) has been in the scene for over 2 years. He is currently volunteering with the TES Promotions Committee. Jace loves being pampered by friends, giving detailed feedback, and eating his way through the world. Lexlively Lex Lively (she/her) is a relatively new face in the NYC scene, but she's spent the last few years learning and exploring, discovering new things that excite her almost daily. She is currently volunteering on the TES Promotions Committee, helping to keep FetLife followers in the loop of all upcoming TES events. Lex Lively lives up to her name, meeting each moment with energy and enthusiasm, always looking forward to the next adventure. OneStar- OneStar (he/they) is no stranger to kink, as it’s been a part of their whole life, but is now enjoying the local scenes of NYC for over 2 years and recently CT for the past few months. They’ve taken a slower burn approach, but they’re eager to make friends. OneStar is a submissive-Switch who aims to experience and learn as much as possible; In the long run, there is a goal of giving back to the communities that have created the space for OneStar to embrace themselves fully. SMSal SM Sal (he/they) has been active in the NYC BDSM Community since June 2021. Since becoming active, he has explored a wide variety of different kinks and developed a particular fondness for impact play, rope bondage, and medical play among others. In August 2025, he became a co-host of the Queens Kinksters Munch, held in Astoria. Additionally, he has been volunteering with TES since the fall of 2024 and served as the Vice Chair of Vending for TESFest 2026. Yuca_Why Yuca (she/they) is an Asian American cis female that started exploring the NYC kink scene around June 2025. I am an introvert that has been forced to do extrovert things for the sake of new kinky experiences. Rope is my first love but pain seems to be my mistress. Vanilla-wise I am a bookworm, foodie, crafter of scarves/keyboards, and gamer. Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Registration Instructions If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the class registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your Member Portal account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration is NOT available. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
Intent to Run Deadline August 28 Members interested in running for the TES Board of Directors or for Parliamentarian must submit their intent by 11:59 PM EST. Candidates must be TES members in good standing for at least one full calendar year. Please email your notification of intent and candidate statement to elections@tes.org and tes@tes.org.
