Conflict can be scary, but it doesn't have to be. In fact, it can be a catalyst for greater growth and connection. What's important is how you handle it. Based on supported research from several fields, this class cuts through the extra stuff and the conventional advice to cover interpersonal skills for conflict management such as compromise, awareness, and emotion regulation for happier, healthier kinksters. You'll learn what conflict is (and what it isn't), how to recognize healthy vs. unhealthy conflict, repair after relationship ruptures, and practical tips for ensuring the conversations go well. These skills are applicable in families, vanilla life, dynamics, communities, and anywhere where disagreements come up. Whether you avoid conflict at all costs or have never minded getting into the thick of it, this class is for all. Ember Solaris has been active in the BDSM community for about a decade. They are a social scientist, psychologist, neuroscientist, and social worker. They research emotions/emotion regulation, interpersonal relationships, trauma, addictive behaviors, etc. They are also trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR, Interpersonal Therapy, the Gottman Approach, and more, but do not currently practice. They primarily work in academic research. Ember dabbles in professional BDSM. They have a Primal Mate dynamic with their partner, and explore the boundaries of S&M/Edge Play, Primal Play, Femdom, and many other interests with their play partners. TES classes include instruction, Q&A and TES Circle. To register: MEMBERS -$5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $10/$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LINK 10-15 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

This class will teach several ties, from a simple chest harness to a full body harness, where the bottom’s arms are free from ropes. It’s wonderful for those who struggle with nerve issues in their arms or shoulder problems. @Kinbaku_Studio has been practicing the art of rope bondage for over 14 years. They have attended many rope-centric cons, private lessons and intensives worldwide. Susuwatari and Lady Yu have taught at many local, regional and larger conventions for 8 years and been on staff as a rope artist/demonstrator at Adult Cons/Expos for the last 6 years. When they aren’t performing, they use the studio to sell their brand of rope, candles, and other products. They opened The Knotty Spot, a private members club, to create content, make art, offer inclusive classes and a consent focused play space to their local community. They also rent their space to other professionals for them to have a private and secure location for their sessions. He takes pride in being one of the few Asian Americans Kink Business owners. Their focus is on body positive, consensual rope, making it an enjoyable experience for all. TES classes include instruction, Q&A and TES Circle. To register: MEMBERS -$5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link, and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $10/$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LINK 10-15 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Happy New Year! Start off the year right, socializing with some kinky friends! Whether you’re new to the scene, an old friend, or just passing through, we’re excited to see you! We meet every month on the final Wednesday. Come join us! Wednesday, January 31st 7:30pm Skylight Diner 402 W 34th St. (@ 9th Ave) New York, NY 10001 Our hosts will be there to welcome you and answer any questions. There is no cost to attend this event beyond paying for the food you order (and please tip your server well!) The TES Munch is our monthly gathering on the last Wednesday of each month. It’s a great opportunity to meet and hangout with your fellow kinksters in a low-key, low pressure environment. It is open to all members of the community in good standing, and those who are new to the scene are especially encouraged to attend. There is no requirement to RSVP ahead of time, and you do not need to be a TES member to attend. Please note that we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated and up-to-date against Covid. However, this event is hosted at a diner that is open to other patrons, and we cannot control for anything beyond what the restaurant requires. Please assess your own risk profiles and act accordingly. We will be providing a discrete option for contact tracing, which is highly encouraged.

TES is doing our first BIPOC Social and those who identify as BIPOC are invited to join us! The gathering will be taking place on Thursday, February 1 at The Center, located at 208 W 13 St in Manhattan. TES is sponsoring this event so all you need to bring is a smile! If you have any questions in advance of the social, please contact chucky@tes.org!

The Therapeutic Flame! Class is a combination of lecture and demonstration. Topics include: technique planning, torch management, and numerical feedback. The Venn Diagram of Fire, Body-scapes, Application Patterns, Torch Swapping Techniques, Planning Ahead and Efficient use of Burn Cycles, Utilizing Specialized Torches, Creating Mind Fucks, Playing with Pain, Negotiations and Scene Setup. Demonstrations will be done throughout class. Echos Fire LLC is the leader in quality hand made fire play torches. @EchosFire has been involved in the art of fire since 2008 and has traveled all across the United States and up into Canada teaching fire manipulation and safety at all levels. Her innovative torch designs are indicative of her skill and dedication as they are clearly made with efficiency, safety and ease of use in mind. Her style of Fire Manipulation is designed for the kinkster and vanilla alike, coined under the moniker Fire Massage. She is constantly researching, testing, modifying and adding new and exciting techniques to keep every single experience dynamic and fresh. TES classes include instruction, Q&A and TES Circle. To register: MEMBERS -$5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link, and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $10/$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LINK 10-15 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

What's in your emotional first aid kit? First coined by Guy Winch, the term emotional first aid refers to a set of skills used to respond to emotional injuries we ourselves or others may experience. The first responses to a situation can drastically affect the outcome, whether it's responding to your partner losing their job, or someone you know who has experienced a major consent violation. Take moments of pain and turn them into opportunities for connection. In this class, you will learn and practice easy steps for assessing situations, responding appropriately, and the next steps to take; all while protecting yourself from being emotionally injured or further injured. Practical application is discussed for kink communities/dynamics and addresses some of the emotional injuries that are unique to our spaces. Ember Solaris has been active in the BDSM community for about a decade. They are a social scientist, psychologist, neuroscientist, and social worker. They research emotions/emotion regulation, interpersonal relationships, trauma, addictive behaviors, etc. They are also trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR, Interpersonal Therapy, the Gottman Approach, and more, but do not currently practice. They primarily work in academic research. Ember dabbles in professional BDSM. They have a Primal Mate dynamic with their partner, and explore the boundaries of S&M/Edge Play, Primal Play, Femdom, and many other interests with their play partners. TES classes include instruction, Q&A and TES Circle. To register: MEMBERS -$5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link, and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $10/$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LINK 10-15 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

The trials and tribulations of anyone who travels in the field of the fetish world can be very daunting and enlightening. Based on one man’s experience, this is very challenging, yet meaningful in terms of how to handle himself in the throes of BDSM as well as taking those lessons and applying it to regular, vanilla life. Let’s discuss how someone can turn anything into a positive and learning lesson, even in the face of negativism in a place that misleads all into thinking there is solace in its being. Chucky (@houseslave2000), has been a submissive for more than 30 years; most of that time based in NYC. He is a long time TES member, current board member and frequent presenter. Chucky has been a houseboy at almost every known dungeon (The Parthenon, Pandora’s Box, The Den of Iniquity, Arena/Blaze,The Crown/Taillor Group, Nutcracker Suite, etc.) in NYC, while serving some of the most prestigious Dommes (Even having an integral role in the ‘development’ of some) in the scene. He thrives in intense scenes and has been known to be a bit playful while at the mercy of Sadists who only want to see him suffer. When he is not in service, you may see him behind a bar at a fetish event, holding and serving you drinks with a big smile, or behind the scenes helping curate spaces and building community. TES has returned to IN PERSON classes every other Thursday, now at The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center, AKA The Center!!! TES classes include instruction, Q&A and TES Circle. Class length varies. Please bring a legal ID to verify your age, and be prepared to show proof of a primary course of COVID vaccination and proof of having received a booster or wear a KN95 mask while in our class space. TES will supply masks at ops, and anyone requiring help providing the required proof can reach out to customer-care@tes.org for assistance. To register in advance (strongly preferred): If you already have a TES account, CLICK HERE TO REGISTER MEMBERS -$10 / NON-MEMBERS - $25 Create a Member Portal account Members: use the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. Non-members: you will still need to make an account to register . Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on THIS LINK and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. To register on-site: There will be a QR code available to allow you to register on-site following the same process above, but TES will not be able to accept cash at the door. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class.

Energy play is a play provides a way to amplify the sensations you experience with your partner(s) so the focus is on the connection and the flow of energy instead of facilitating a temporary peak of pleasure. This class is designed to cover the flow of energy through rope. Binding ourselves with what beats through our hearts and emotions. Let’s step on journey, and guide our energy through rope. @Beyondnewwmatt (He/Him They/Them) born and raised in New York, is an active community member and kink educator in the South Florida scene. Matt is a Leather, Pansexual, Polyamorous, Queer, LGBTQIA activist, Neurodivergent Switch. Being a lover of rope, education aka A Knowledge Slut 😏, and raising awareness on Neurodivergency and Mental Health in kink are his/their passion. TES classes include instruction, Q&A and TES Circle. To register: MEMBERS -$5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS - $10/$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If you're unable to afford this, contact tes@tes.org & we'll do our best to find a way to help you attend this class. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LINK 10-15 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users' cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

Join the femme dominance group as we tour the Museum of Sex. Goddess_Narcissa will lead a walk through the history and evolution of human sexuality, viewing the uniquely curated exhibits. Meet up at 7pm. Our reserved entry time will be at 7:30pm. Plan to be visually entertained for 2 hours. We are receiving a discounted group price. As with all TES groups, respect and discretion will be expected. Please see the museum's website for code of conduct. https://www.museumofsex.com Note: Because the ticket prices are going to the Museum of Sex, there will be no additional Members discount Please secure your spot and purchase your ticket in advance here

Because of the holiday, the meeting shifts to the 4th Monday this month. Open to all current members. This is a hybrid meeting; held in person in Manhattan and online. Information on how to join is distributed to the membership on Feb 1. If you are a member, would like to join, and did not receive this information, please email secretary@tes.org We have board vacancies! Please click here to find out requirements and consider nominating yourself. Need to renew your membership or join for the first time? Click here.