Merry Christmas! December 25, 2025 Sleigh bells ring, are you listening? 🎶 The presents are unwrapped and the cocoa is hot. Best time of the year! Tell me your favorite gift you received! 🎁
Happy New Year! January 1 Page one of 365. Our resolution? Resolution #1: Wait until tomorrow to start our resolutions. Happy New Year! What's your simple goal for today? 🥂😉
IN-PERSON: TES Monthly Munch January 5 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Skylight Diner 402 West 34th Street, New York, NY, United States We'd love to have you at the TES Monthly Munch! Whether you're new to the scene, an old friend, or just curious, our monthly munch is a great opportunity to meet fellow kinksters in a low-key, low-pressure setting. There’s no need to RSVP, and everyone is welcome—you don’t even have to be a TES member to join us! We gather on the first Monday of every month (if it's a holiday, we'll meet on the following Monday) at an alternative lifestyle-friendly diner in NYC. Our hosts will be there to give you a warm welcome and answer any questions. Attending is free; you just pay for your food, and please remember to tip your server well! We also ask that you wear "vanilla" (non-BDSM) clothes. This is a vanilla event. Respect others' privacy and consent by not displaying any kink activities in this public space. A Note on Safety This event is held at a public diner, and while we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated against COVID-19, we cannot control what the restaurant requires of other patrons. Please assess your own risk and act accordingly. We will have a discreet contact tracing option available, which we encourage you to use. For more information, including a code of conduct for newcomers, please visit our FAQ page. We can't wait to see you there!
IN-PERSON: Teaching Techniques for Future Educators January 8 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States Want to teach BDSM without making a scene? Let’s get you prepared to lead with knowledge—and maybe a little flair. This session is designed for individuals who are ready to leverage their knowledge and experience to serve the community but are unsure how to begin structuring their material. The workshop will cover the following key topics, offering practical tips and principles to help you develop and deliver effective educational content: Developing a curriculum Structuring the content effectively Key safety and sanitation protocols to include Presentation techniques that ensure maximum attendee engagement Bring your notebook and ideas, and we will work on the rest. Bio: Goddess Narcissa, a native New Yorker, has represented both women and the BIPOC community in the BDSM scene for the last 17 years. Currently a member of the Board of Directors for TES, she has served the community through a variety of mediums, including her work as the Co-Vice Chair of TES Fest, POC event organizer, AANHPI panelist, singletail whip educator, and mentor. Narcissa is also the founder of Mercy Whips, a company dedicated to making her implement of choice affordable and accessible. Mercy Whips by Narcissa is sold at local shops and online at mercywhips.com. Outside of the scene, her passions are riding her bicycle around the city and the culinary arts. Location and Cost Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Registration Instructions If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the class registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you've forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to enter your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited. You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone. The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
ONLINE: Becoming a Dungeon Monitor with Youngscientist January 13 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Do you want to start volunteering as a DM in the scene? Are you a staff member for an organization and need to brush up on safety knowledge in play spaces? Maybe you just really like wearing neon vests at parties? This class will primarily teach community members how to bridge their own scene knowledge, life skills, and critical thinking to facilitate safe play spaces and deal with various situations that may arise as a representative of a BDSM organization. Some subjects that will be covered include, but aren’t limited to, maintaining party rules and etiquette, advanced play and scene limitations, equipment and dungeon safety, methods of communication, risk management, professionalism, consent and negotiation breakdowns, scene intervention, conflict resolution and de-escalation, and critical first aid. All experience levels are welcome to attend, but please note that this class will cover many subjects that are above the novice level. Bio: Youngscientist has been active in many facets of the scene for over 15 years. He’s volunteered and worked staff for at least a dozen organizations throughout that time, including being one of the few Pro-DMs in the NYC area. Knowledge has been one of his main driving forces, which led him to start teaching early on. He’s probably most well known for teaching Wrestling/Grappling classes and hosting Jello and Lube Wrestling events. TO REGISTER: MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org. REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
IN-PERSON: Bondage Basic Training (BBT) January 22 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States Basic training is where every enlistee learns very little of very many topics, very quickly, to straighten out every rookie just enough to survive unit life in the armed services. This class is a similar approach to rope bondage. Participants can expect to run through the basic building blocks of tying somebody up, without the frills. We will cover setting the scene, handling and extending rope, single-column ties, double-column ties, chest harnesses, crotch ropes, how to utilize gags and blindfolds, and a few of the basic positions. It's rope bondage basics with a practical focus, leaving the participant to explore further after this class as they advance in their chosen bondage MOS. Requirements: Attendees to bring their own rope, shears, and a mat/blanket. The rope can be any material, ideally 2-4 lengths of 30-foot pieces and 4-6 lengths of 15-foot pieces. The space has no mats, and participants should bring a blanket or mat to tie on. Bringing a tying partner is strongly recommended; while observers are welcome, not all of the ties will be possible to practice on one’s own. This class will assume a functional understanding of consent, negotiation, and bondage safety, but no rope-specific prerequisites. Bios: Presenter: CadburyBunny has been doing bondage for as long as he cares to remember, batting for both teams as both a rigger and captor, as well as somewhat of a serial bondage captive and damsel in distress at this point. Growing up on a small island about eight hours from Japan, he does appreciate pretty kinbaku and suspension. Still, he is probably more partial to being tied and gagged in any manner that is inescapable and authentic, using anything from rope and steel to tape and torn pieces of clothing. One friend and victim has broadly described his style as being whatever is needed to get the job done, and the subsequent desecrating and violating underway. Demo Subject: LadyPraise serves an important role as the foil and “yes-and” improv partner for CadburyBunny’s whacky shenanigans. She ties with him regularly enough, but there’s no promise as to who ends up on the receiving end any given day, as tends to happen when two switches race for the bottom. CadburyBunny is thankful, all the same, for all the chaos switch energy she brings – and for today, she will be his class demo subject. Location & Cost: Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Registration Instructions If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the class registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you've forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited. You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone. The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
ONLINE – TES Board Meeting January 26 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Are you a current TES member? You're invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization. This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only. How to Join All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn't receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org. We Have Board Vacancies! Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you're interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself. Not a Member Yet? If you're interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We'd love to have you!
ONLINE: Tips & Tricks for Tentative Tops January 27 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual A class focusing on the skills needed to overcome anxiety and embrace your inner sadist. Do you find yourself struggling with impostor syndrome or unsure how hard to play with your partner? Don't know where to start to gain the skills you need to participate in the BDSM lifestyle you crave? Start here, as we explore anxiety, insecurity, and other pitfalls that come with starting your journey as a Top. Skills needed: Basic knowledge of consent and the BDSM lifestyle. CW: Talk of consensual impact play, consensual power exchange, sex/sexy play, talk of CNC, impact toys, personal accountability, general discomforts regarding anxious headspaces, and some consent violation discussion. Bio: Briska (she/her) is a bisexual, polyamorous switch that has been in the scene since 2006. She briefly modeled for several kink sites such as Hard Tied, Infernal Restraints, and Kink.com. Since retiring from modeling in 2010, she has been focusing on tying and creating dynamic scenes for her and her play partners at various events around the country, as well as studying as many aspects of BDSM as she can. During the pandemic, the well-timed purchase of a suspension rig for her home allowed her to fine-tune certain rope skills and dive deeper into personal 24/7 D/s relationships. She runs a large Discord for all NJ Kinksters and recently started her own small leather house, The Moth House, dedicated to Queer joy, community & education. TO REGISTER MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
