• TES Online – Discovering Dominance: A Guide to the Dominant Beginner

    Online

    Many and varied are the guides and resources for those who are new to the submissive lifestyle, but those who are new to the Dominant side appear to have limited avenues to explore. Are the expectations for the Dominant in relationships higher? Should they be? What types of skills are essential? Are they physical skills, like flogging, using the single tail whip, or rope bondage? Is there something deeper, more complicated than that? Sir Guy will discuss the physical, spiritual, and psychological dimensions of Dominance, as well as share his personal journey, mistakes, and all. Topics include the attributes of leadership, command presence, and other poignant aspects using military, religious, and business sources and models to explore and develop Dominance for the beginner. Bio: Sir Guy (He/Him) is a covered Master, Dominant Leatherman, educator, author, and activist. He heads the House of the Black Panther and leads the group, The Dark Lair: a BDSM Education and Support group for People of Color. Sir Guy has been in the lifestyle for 20+ years, has held several organizational leadership roles, and has also held a title. He has judged relationship-based Leather titles, given several keynote addresses, and won awards, including the Master Jack McGeorge Excellence in Education Award, the MAsT International People's Choice Presenter of the Year Award, and the Sir Leon Strange Memorial Award, among others. In addition, He has written several chapters in prominent lifestyle-related books and has spoken at Columbia and Hofstra Universities. Sir Guy is a uniform enthusiast, former police officer, EMS supervisor, and Ground Zero first responder. To register: MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

  • TES IN PERSON – Game Night Social

    LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States

    Ready to make more like-minded friends in a non-judgmental environment? Join us for an exciting evening of fun and board games. Get together with your @TES-NYC friends for a relaxing social. While we will have some popular board games available, feel free to bring some of your favorites. All are welcome. Please register before attending for convenience and more fun! Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members/Non-members: FREE Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Registration Instructions If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the class registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you've forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited. You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone. The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.

  • ONLINE – TES Board Meeting

    Online

    Are you a current TES member? You're invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization. This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only. How to Join All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn't receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org. We Have Board Vacancies! Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you're interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself. Not a Member Yet? If you're interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We'd love to have you!

  • TES Online – Are Long Distance Relationships Viable?

    Online

    What happens when you encounter someone who meets most of your requirements - and the attraction and chemistry are palpable - but they live in another country or state? Consider a Long-Distance Relationship, especially if you don’t want to miss out on friendship (at the very least) or possibly building a viable connection with a potential partner. Bio: Master Lala is a sadistic, yet sensual, dominant with 18 years of Lifestyle experience. She craves control and fully embraces the accompanying responsibility. Master Lala has interacted in person and virtually with men and women who identify as subs or slaves. A certified hypnotist, she harnesses the power of her words and voice (via therapeutic and erotic hypnosis) to empower and train those who serve her. Master Lala serves the BDSM community by volunteering and speaking at conferences, and presenting for various groups. To register: MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.

  • TES IN PERSON – From Nervous Newbie to Intentional Sub: What I’m Actually Learning

    LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States

    Ever wonder what happens when curiosity meets kink and nerves turn into nuance? Join a senior submissive member of the community as he dishes the real lessons from his journey—from anxious newbie to confident, intentional sub. Expect laughs, insight, and ah-ha moments as we explore how mindful service transforms “Am I doing this right?” into “This is exactly where I belong. Bios: KoolWise (he/him) began exploring kink back in the 90s—though his journey took a few unconventional turns before truly taking shape. It wasn’t until 2016, when he began visiting a professional Domme, that his curiosity deepened into active discovery. In 2023, meeting his current Domme opened the door to the broader organized kink and BDSM community, where he’s found connection, purpose, and growth. A former schoolteacher, KoolWise brings a natural gift for reflection and storytelling to his kink journey. He’s passionate about sharing his experiences to help others navigate their own paths with openness, respect, and a little bit of wisdom earned from his years of exploration. Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Registration Instructions If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the class registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you've forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited. You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone. The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.