TES Online – TES Board Meeting September 21 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Are you a current TES member? You're invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization. This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only. How to Join All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn't receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org. We Have Board Vacancies! Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you're interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself. Not a Member Yet? If you're interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We'd love to have you!
In-Person: Beyond “No Means No”: Consent Negotiation & Safer Play September 24 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States Think you know consent? Let’s level it up. This class goes way beyond “no means no” and gets into the real art of negotiation, communication, and connection in BDSM and intimate play. Learn how to actually say what you want (and what you don’t), set clear boundaries without killing the vibe, and use safewords and check-ins like a pro. We’ll explore tools like the Wheel of Consent to untangle giving vs. receiving (because yes, there’s a difference), plus practice real-life negotiation and in-the-moment communication skills you can take straight into your scenes. Expect interactive exercises, honest conversations, and a supportive space to build confidence, clarity, and better play—for you and your partners. Bio: Goddess Coko (she/her) has been a member of the NYC kink scene for over 20+ years. She is happy and excited to be back serving on the TES Board as Secretary, a role she is familiar with from her earlier time on the Board. Goddess Coko serves as Chair of the Communications and the Promotions Committees, Vice Chair of Community Relations, and volunteers on the POC Committee. Goddess Coko is also a Founding Mother of ONYX PEARLS NY-Northeast and former Co-Head and Web Mistress of ClubFEM NYC. She is a proud member of Goddess House NJ, a FemDom-led Leather family. Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Registration Instructions If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the class registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your Member Portal account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration is NOT available. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
IN-PERSON: TES Monthly Munch October 5 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Skylight Diner 402 West 34th Street, New York, NY, United States We'd love to have you at the TES Monthly Munch! Whether you're new to the scene, an old friend, or just curious, our monthly munch is a great opportunity to meet fellow kinksters in a low-key, low-pressure setting. There’s no need to RSVP, and everyone is welcome—you don’t even have to be a TES member to join us! We gather on the first Monday of every month (if it's a holiday, we'll meet on the following Monday) at an alternative lifestyle-friendly diner in NYC. Our hosts will be there to give you a warm welcome and answer any questions. Attending is free; you just pay for your food, and please remember to tip your server well! We also ask that you wear "vanilla" (non-BDSM) clothes. This is a vanilla event. Respect others' privacy and consent by not displaying any kink activities in this public space. A Note on Safety This event is held at a public diner, and while we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated against COVID-19, we cannot control what the restaurant requires of other patrons. Please assess your own risk and act accordingly. We will have a discreet contact tracing option available, which we encourage you to use. For more information, including a code of conduct for newcomers, please visit our FAQ page. We can't wait to see you there!
In-Person: Rope Bondage 101 October 8 @ 7:30 AM - 10:00 PM LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States This hands-on, introductory course in rope bondage will give participants a thorough grounding in how to safely restrain a partner for the purposes of play and power exchange, with an emphasis on applying simple, secure, sustainable restraint. We will cover: basic negotiation and safety; effective cuffs; anchoring to the body; wrapping and tension; basic tie forms; building scenes; and the art of untying. Requirements: Please bring your own rope, a mat or towel, and either a tying partner or be prepared to self-tie. Bio: Conycatcher has been playing with rope for over 30 years. In addition to exploring bondage as a means to erotic connection, he brings to his craft years of experience working on ropes courses and over a decade as a climber. He first joined TES in the late 90's and later became an active community member of the CSPC in Seattle, where he ran bondage tastings at their "Try It, You'll Like It" events for years. He founded Knitting Circle, a monthly rope jam held in NYC. Conycatcher considers himself a practitioner of the Western style of bondage, seasoned with hints of Shibari. Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Registration Instructions If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the class registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your Member Portal account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration is NOT available. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
ONLINE – Meet The Candidates Night October 13 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Meet the Candidates TES elections are coming up, and your voice belongs in the conversation. Join us for a live, members-only online Town Hall to meet this year’s candidates, ask the questions on your mind, and hear where they stand on the issues shaping TES and the wider kink community. Come curious, come informed, and help make your vote count. Your personal link to join will arrive in your TES member email newsletter closer to the event date. Check your spam and promotions folders—sometimes important mail likes to play hide-and-seek. No link? Contact secretary@tes.org. Easy to Join No downloads or special software required—just open the link in your browser when it’s time to meet. The platform works with several browsers; if you run into technical trouble, try switching browsers, since some settings can interfere with access. The link will be active only during the scheduled meeting time, so plan to join us live. Participate Your Way Whether you want to ask a question, join the chat, or simply listen in, you are welcome. Cameras and microphones are off by default, giving you room to participate at the level that feels right for you. TES selected this platform to balance accessibility and privacy, but no online space is ever completely secure. TES privacy rules apply throughout the event, and violations may have consequences; please review the Online Meeting Terms of Service. For your own protection, treat online events as though a third party could record them, and consult TES’s online privacy guide before joining.
TES Online – TES Board Meeting October 19 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Are you a current TES member? You're invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization. This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only. How to Join All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn't receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org. We Have Board Vacancies! Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you're interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself. Not a Member Yet? If you're interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We'd love to have you!
IN-PERSON: Tarot for Tops October 22 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States Discover how tarot’s symbolism, storytelling, intuition, and imagination can enrich power exchange, inspire creative scenes, and foster deeper communication and connection. In this discussion-based class, you’ll explore the foundations of tarot with a traditional Rider-Waite deck and learn practical ways to use the cards in your kink practice. Together, you’ll consider how tarot can support intentional scene planning, negotiation, reflection, and aftercare—while keeping ethics, agency, and communication at the center. You’ll be invited to engage your Clair-abilities, mind’s eye, and imagination to develop scenes that connect mind, body, and spirit. Through examples and group discussion, you’ll leave with fresh ideas and usable tools for bringing tarot into your relationships and play. This class is open to Tops, bottoms, switches, and anyone curious about the intersection of tarot and BDSM. All experience levels are welcome, whether you are opening a tarot deck for the first time or have been reading for years. No prior tarot experience is needed. Please bring a tarot deck if you have one; extra Rider-Waite decks will be available so everyone can participate with cards in hand. Bio: Billie brings together more than 20 years of experience in the occult with years of lived experience as a professional submissive in the New York and Los Angeles kink communities. A psychic medium and life coach, she approaches power exchange through the lenses of intuition, agency, emotional intelligence, and practical communication. Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Registration Instructions If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the class registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you’ve forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your Member Portal account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration is NOT available. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
ONLINE – 2026 Fall Membership Meeting and Election Night October 27 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual TES Membership Meeting Join the conversation shaping TES! Our Membership Meeting takes place twice each year to conduct official organizational business and give members a direct voice in the process. The fall meeting—held in October—is especially important: TES officers are elected then. All members in good standing are welcome to attend, participate, and make their voices heard. How to Join Your link to join will be included in TES’s October members-only newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror. Be sure to check your spam or promotions folder—important messages occasionally enjoy a little hide-and-seek. These meetings are for TES members only. If you do not receive your link, contact secretary@tes.org. No downloads or special software are needed. Simply use the meeting link in a compatible web browser during the scheduled meeting time. If you have trouble connecting, try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere with access. Please note that the link is active only during the meeting. Participate Your Way Join in as much—or as little—as feels comfortable. Cameras and microphones are off by default, so you can watch quietly, participate through the chat, or speak up when you are ready. TES has selected a platform that balances accessibility and privacy, but no online platform is completely secure. TES privacy rules remain in effect, and violations may result in consequences; please review the Online Meeting Terms of Service. For your own protection, please treat any online event as though it could be recorded by a third party, and review TES’s online privacy guide before attending. What member action would you most like to spotlight in the opening: participating in governance, voting for officers, or helping shape TES’s future?
IN-PERSON: TES Monthly Munch November 2 @ 7:00 PM Skylight Diner 402 West 34th Street, New York, NY, United States We'd love to have you at the TES Monthly Munch! Whether you're new to the scene, an old friend, or just curious, our monthly munch is a great opportunity to meet fellow kinksters in a low-key, low-pressure setting. There’s no need to RSVP, and everyone is welcome—you don’t even have to be a TES member to join us! We gather on the first Monday of every month (if it's a holiday, we'll meet on the following Monday) at an alternative lifestyle-friendly diner in NYC. Our hosts will be there to give you a warm welcome and answer any questions. Attending is free; you just pay for your food, and please remember to tip your server well! We also ask that you wear "vanilla" (non-BDSM) clothes. This is a vanilla event. Respect others' privacy and consent by not displaying any kink activities in this public space. A Note on Safety This event is held at a public diner, and while we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated against COVID-19, we cannot control what the restaurant requires of other patrons. Please assess your own risk and act accordingly. We will have a discreet contact tracing option available, which we encourage you to use. For more information, including a code of conduct for newcomers, please visit our FAQ page. We can't wait to see you there!
IN-PERSON: TES Monthly Munch December 7 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Skylight Diner 402 West 34th Street, New York, NY, United States We'd love to have you at the TES Monthly Munch! Whether you're new to the scene, an old friend, or just curious, our monthly munch is a great opportunity to meet fellow kinksters in a low-key, low-pressure setting. There’s no need to RSVP, and everyone is welcome—you don’t even have to be a TES member to join us! We gather on the first Monday of every month (if it's a holiday, we'll meet on the following Monday) at an alternative lifestyle-friendly diner in NYC. Our hosts will be there to give you a warm welcome and answer any questions. Attending is free; you just pay for your food, and please remember to tip your server well! We also ask that you wear "vanilla" (non-BDSM) clothes. This is a vanilla event. Respect others' privacy and consent by not displaying any kink activities in this public space. A Note on Safety This event is held at a public diner, and while we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated against COVID-19, we cannot control what the restaurant requires of other patrons. Please assess your own risk and act accordingly. We will have a discreet contact tracing option available, which we encourage you to use. For more information, including a code of conduct for newcomers, please visit our FAQ page. We can't wait to see you there!
