TES Online – Are Long Distance Relationships Viable? February 24 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Online What happens when you encounter someone who meets most of your requirements - and the attraction and chemistry are palpable - but they live in another country or state? Consider a Long-Distance Relationship, especially if you don’t want to miss out on friendship (at the very least) or possibly building a viable connection with a potential partner. Bio: Master Lala is a sadistic, yet sensual, dominant with 18 years of Lifestyle experience. She craves control and fully embraces the accompanying responsibility. Master Lala has interacted in person and virtually with men and women who identify as subs or slaves. A certified hypnotist, she harnesses the power of her words and voice (via therapeutic and erotic hypnosis) to empower and train those who serve her. Master Lala serves the BDSM community by volunteering and speaking at conferences, and presenting for various groups. To register: MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
TES Online – Understanding Power Exchange: D/s For Everyone February 25 @ 12:00 AM Power exchange is often touted as the pinnacle of BDSM experiences: elusive, alluring, and hard to get right. It can seem impossible to get started with D/s. How do you know what style or level of power exchange is right for you? How can you find and vet an appropriate partner? How do you navigate negotiations, collars, protocols, contracts, and punishments? We'll cover all those topics and beyond, giving you a solid foundation on which to build your relationship(s). This class is intended for both those who are brand-new to D/s and those who are already on their power exchange journey. Class Objectives: Be able to define what power exchange, D/s, and M/s dynamics are Gain familiarity with your preferred power exchange style and level Learn what to look for in potential partners and what may be red flag behavior Understand various popular consent models and how they apply to D/s Learn how to negotiate a power exchange relationship Understand the truth about collars and alternative marks of ownership Discover how to identify feelings of submission and Dominance in your body Combat stereotypes about what really makes a "good" D/s partner Figure out if punishment/reward dynamics will work for you, and what to do if they don't Understand the role that rules and protocol can play in a dynamic Find out how to construct a beginner-friendly relationship contract you can build on Bio: Evie Lupine is a full-time kink & polyamory educator. She began her journey in 2015, and since that time has been a 24/7 submissive, sadistic bottom, bondage lover, and sensation-seeker. Her compassionate, emotion-focused approach to BDSM has helped thousands of individuals and couples find the play and relationship dynamics they have always wanted. To register: MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
TES IN PERSON – From Nervous Newbie to Intentional Sub: What I’m Actually Learning February 26 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States Ever wonder what happens when curiosity meets kink and nerves turn into nuance? Join a senior submissive member of the community as he dishes the real lessons from his journey—from anxious newbie to confident, intentional sub. Expect laughs, insight, and ah-ha moments as we explore how mindful service transforms “Am I doing this right?” into “This is exactly where I belong. Bios: KoolWise (he/him) began exploring kink back in the 90s—though his journey took a few unconventional turns before truly taking shape. It wasn’t until 2016, when he began visiting a professional Domme, that his curiosity deepened into active discovery. In 2023, meeting his current Domme opened the door to the broader organized kink and BDSM community, where he’s found connection, purpose, and growth. A former schoolteacher, KoolWise brings a natural gift for reflection and storytelling to his kink journey. He’s passionate about sharing his experiences to help others navigate their own paths with openness, respect, and a little bit of wisdom earned from his years of exploration. Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Registration Instructions If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the class registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you've forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited. You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone. The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
IN-PERSON: TES Monthly Munch March 2 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Skylight Diner 402 West 34th Street, New York, NY, United States We'd love to have you at the TES Monthly Munch! Whether you're new to the scene, an old friend, or just curious, our monthly munch is a great opportunity to meet fellow kinksters in a low-key, low-pressure setting. There’s no need to RSVP, and everyone is welcome—you don’t even have to be a TES member to join us! We gather on the first Monday of every month (if it's a holiday, we'll meet on the following Monday) at an alternative lifestyle-friendly diner in NYC. Our hosts will be there to give you a warm welcome and answer any questions. Attending is free; you just pay for your food, and please remember to tip your server well! We also ask that you wear "vanilla" (non-BDSM) clothes. This is a vanilla event. Respect others' privacy and consent by not displaying any kink activities in this public space. A Note on Safety This event is held at a public diner, and while we highly encourage all attendees to be vaccinated against COVID-19, we cannot control what the restaurant requires of other patrons. Please assess your own risk and act accordingly. We will have a discreet contact tracing option available, which we encourage you to use. For more information, including a code of conduct for newcomers, please visit our FAQ page. We can't wait to see you there!
ONLINE – TES Board Meeting March 16 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Are you a current TES member? You're invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization. This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only. How to Join All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn't receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org. We Have Board Vacancies! Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you're interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself. Not a Member Yet? If you're interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We'd love to have you!
TES Online – Understanding Power Exchange: D/s For Everyone March 17 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Power exchange is often touted as the pinnacle of BDSM experiences: elusive, alluring, and hard to get right. It can seem impossible to get started with D/s. How do you know what style or level of power exchange is right for you? How can you find and vet an appropriate partner? How do you navigate negotiations, collars, protocols, contracts, and punishments? We'll cover all those topics and beyond, giving you a solid foundation on which to build your relationship(s). This class is intended for both those who are brand-new to D/s and those who are already on their power exchange journey. Class Objectives: Be able to define what power exchange, D/s, and M/s dynamics are Gain familiarity with your preferred power exchange style and level Learn what to look for in potential partners and what may be red flag behavior Understand various popular consent models and how they apply to D/s Learn how to negotiate a power exchange relationship Understand the truth about collars and alternative marks of ownership Discover how to identify feelings of submission and Dominance in your body Combat stereotypes about what really makes a "good" D/s partner Figure out if punishment/reward dynamics will work for you, and what to do if they don't Understand the role that rules and protocol can play in a dynamic Find out how to construct a beginner-friendly relationship contract you can build on Bio: Evie Lupine is a full-time kink & polyamory educator. She began her journey in 2015, and since that time has been a 24/7 submissive, sadistic bottom, bondage lover, and sensation-seeker. Her compassionate, emotion-focused approach to BDSM has helped thousands of individuals and couples find the play and relationship dynamics they have always wanted. To register: MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
TES IN PERSON – Brat Lab: Approaching Brats for Play March 26 @ 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM LGBT Community Center 208 W 13th St, New York, NY, United States Are you a bottom who likes to push your top’s buttons (consensually) but is trying to understand the potential risks in play? Are you a top who wants to provide ‘funishment’ during your scenes without crossing boundaries? Are you a switch that can’t turn your ‘top brain’ off in play? Come to this discussion-based class with peers and find ways to incorporate approaches that work with your play style. Material will be provided as a launchpad, but feel free to bring your questions/concerns, and we'll solve them together in class. Bio: Lubegirl (she/her) is a Queer White appearing POC Switch and the current facilitator of the NYC chapter of Hitchin' Bitches. Bubbly, personable, and passionate about principles of accessibility, decentralized education, and community building on both sides of the slash since Summer 2015, she uses her platform to encourage kinksters who identify as women to learn the basics of rope while facilitating a safe space for bottoms of all orientations, sizes, and identities. Location: The Center (The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center) 208 West 13th Street, New York, NY 10011 Cost: Members: $10 Non-Members: $25 Registration in advance is strongly encouraged due to limited internet access at the venue. Note: Each attendee will need to have a separate account to register. Registration Instructions If You Already Have an Account Register: Click here to go to the class registration page. Log in: Use your existing account information to log in and register for the class. Your membership discount will be applied automatically. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. If You Need to Create an Account For Members: Create Your Account: Go to the Member Portal and create your account here. Be sure to use the same email address you used when you purchased your TES membership. If you've forgotten it, email membership@tes.org for assistance. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. For Non-Members: Create Your Account: Go to the registration page and create your member portal account here. Confirm Your Email: Check your inbox for a confirmation email and follow the link to set enter your password. Log In and Register: Click this link to log back into the Member Portal and register for the class. Complete Purchase: Follow the instructions to complete your payment. On-Site Registration On-site registration is available, but please be aware that internet access may be limited. You will be able to register by scanning a QR code with your smartphone. The registration process is the same as the advanced registration steps listed above. Cash payments are not accepted at the door.
