Switchables & Other Polymorphous Perverts
SWITCHABLES & OTHER POLYMORPHOUS PERVERTS is for individuals who want to “top” and/or “bottom” either female to male, male to female, female to female, male to male or pal to pal. This is an exciting group and is open to all explorations.The rules are your own to make or break.
SOME FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS:
“Switch — Someone who is adept at both topping and bottoming and enjoys both roles.” [Pat Califia, Sensuous Magic] Some of us like pain or sensation, some of us like to receive it; some like to be in charge, while others live to be dominated. And then, there are those of us who sometimes get off by being on the bottom, and other times get hard or wet wielding the whip. Depending on our mood, we will “switch our keys” from one side to the other (this refers to the old leather bar practice of wearing your keychain on either the left or the right, to indicate that you’re a top or a bottom.) Thus, we’re “switchable”
Nothing could be farther from the truth! While there are some novices among us who’ve decided to consider themselves switches until they discover what they’re into, the rest of us have DECIDED that we want to enjoy multiple, sometimes opposing, and frequently complementary facets of the wonders we all call S/M, B/D, or just plain kink. Greed Is Good.
Only if YOU consider yourself to be one. There are different flavors of topping and bottoming (this writer considers top and bottom to be the most generic terms describing what we do — feel free to disagree.) Some of us, when we top, are into dominance and control, others are sadistic, and yet others get off on the giving of pleasure. Some of us, when bottoming, are submissive or enjoy giving service, while others are pain and sensation junkies. Nor are any of these preferences exclusive of
There are no hard and fast rules for this. It depends on your mood, who you’re with, the time of month, your opportunities, etc. This is where couples, both of whom switch, sometimes get into trouble. What if we’re both itching to swing the whip, or we both want to be “done”? You learn to work it out. When I mentioned “time of month”, I wasn’t kidding, by the way. My own lover, for example, does not like to top when she’s in PMS; she’s afraid of being overly sadistic. When we play at those times, she likes to bottom, in secure bondage that she can fight against.
It does happen a lot, because another switch may more readily understand that you don’t always want to be in charge (or be the one to submit), but it is not necessarily the case. Some of us may even have multiple play partners and/or lovers (which is another subject in itself), some of whom we top, others to whom we bottom, and yet some others with whom we do both. So, I may bottom to somebody who is exclusively a top but understands that I’m not a bottom all of the time. Those of us who switch are just another tasty flavor in the stew that is S/M. Enjoy!
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