TES Online – Understanding Power Exchange: D/s For Everyone March 17 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Power exchange is often touted as the pinnacle of BDSM experiences: elusive, alluring, and hard to get right. It can seem impossible to get started with D/s. How do you know what style or level of power exchange is right for you? How can you find and vet an appropriate partner? How do you navigate negotiations, collars, protocols, contracts, and punishments? We'll cover all those topics and beyond, giving you a solid foundation on which to build your relationship(s). This class is intended for both those who are brand-new to D/s and those who are already on their power exchange journey. Class Objectives: Be able to define what power exchange, D/s, and M/s dynamics are Gain familiarity with your preferred power exchange style and level Learn what to look for in potential partners and what may be red flag behavior Understand various popular consent models and how they apply to D/s Learn how to negotiate a power exchange relationship Understand the truth about collars and alternative marks of ownership Discover how to identify feelings of submission and Dominance in your body Combat stereotypes about what really makes a "good" D/s partner Figure out if punishment/reward dynamics will work for you, and what to do if they don't Understand the role that rules and protocol can play in a dynamic Find out how to construct a beginner-friendly relationship contract you can build on Bio: Evie Lupine is a full-time kink & polyamory educator. She began her journey in 2015, and since that time has been a 24/7 submissive, sadistic bottom, bondage lover, and sensation-seeker. Her compassionate, emotion-focused approach to BDSM has helped thousands of individuals and couples find the play and relationship dynamics they have always wanted. To register: MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
ONLINE – Spring 2026 TES Membership Meeting April 7 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual The TES Semiannual Meeting is your opportunity to take part in official organizational business and help shape the future of our community. Held twice each year, this meeting gives all members in good standing a direct voice in how TES operates. The attendee link will be included in your April issue of The Eulenspiegel Mirror. If you’re a current member who hasn’t received it by then, please email secretary@tes.org for assistance. We’re also seeking new board members! If you’re passionate about the TES mission and interested in contributing to our leadership team, please review the requirements and consider nominating yourself here. Not yet a member or need to renew your membership? Click here to join or renew. Technical Details: No downloads or software installations are required. The meeting platform works on most browsers. If you experience technical issues, try switching browsers, as some settings may interfere with access. The provided link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. Your Comfort and Privacy: You’re welcome to participate at whatever level feels right for you. All cameras and microphones are off by default. You may simply observe or interact via text chat. While TES takes privacy seriously and enforces our Online Meeting Terms of Service, please remember that no online platform is completely secure. We recommend treating all online events as though a third party might record them. For additional safety tips, review our Online Privacy Guide.
ONLINE – TES Board Meeting April 20 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Are you a current TES member? You're invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization. This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only. How to Join All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn't receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org. We Have Board Vacancies! Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you're interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself. Not a Member Yet? If you're interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We'd love to have you!
TES Online – I Got You This…!”: Aftercare & Neurodivergent Love Languages April 28 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Not all aftercare looks like cuddles and snackies—and for neurodivergent folks, traditional ideas of care can feel confusing, overwhelming, or just not quite right. This class explores how neurodivergence can shape our aftercare needs, expressions of affection, and recovery from intense scenes. This class will reframe aftercare as a customizable language of support, one that honors sensory profiles, communication styles, executive function challenges, and the beautifully diverse ways neurodivergent people love and connect. Whether your ideal aftercare is space and silence, a hyper-specific snack, a meme sent three hours later, or a highly curated “I saw this and thought of you” object—this class says: Yes. That counts. Do the thing. Bio: Reed has been a local and traveling queer & poly kink educator since 2021. They have taught at Charmed! 2024 & 2025, TES Fest 2024, CTUmind, and many more events/dungeons in the Tri-State Area. Additionally, they are ConCom for Charmed!, the hypnosis convention; they run the dungeon, and have been a DM since 2021. They are a service dog, switch, heavy masochist, and all-around chaotic cryptid kinkster. They are always looking to expand their skills, specializing in supporting neurodivergence in kink. TO REGISTER: MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
TES In-Person – Summer Fling Energy: Temporary Kink Connections Without Shame May 5 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Power exchange is often touted as the pinnacle of BDSM experiences: elusive, alluring, and hard to get right. It can seem impossible to get started with D/s. How do you know what style or level of power exchange is right for you? How can you find and vet an appropriate partner? How do you navigate negotiations, collars, protocols, contracts, and punishments? We'll cover all those topics and beyond, giving you a solid foundation on which to build your relationship(s). This class is intended for both those who are brand-new to D/s and those who are already on their power exchange journey. Class Objectives: Be able to define what power exchange, D/s, and M/s dynamics are Gain familiarity with your preferred power exchange style and level Learn what to look for in potential partners and what may be red flag behavior Understand various popular consent models and how they apply to D/s Learn how to negotiate a power exchange relationship Understand the truth about collars and alternative marks of ownership Discover how to identify feelings of submission and Dominance in your body Combat stereotypes about what really makes a "good" D/s partner Figure out if punishment/reward dynamics will work for you, and what to do if they don't Understand the role that rules and protocol can play in a dynamic Find out how to construct a beginner-friendly relationship contract you can build on Bio: Sarai311 (she/her) is a BIPOC kink educator, poet, and event organizer with a decade of experience across classroom and community learning spaces. She brings eight years of formal teaching and three years of active kink engagement into her work, blending curriculum design, emotionally grounded facilitation, and embodied pedagogy. A doctoral candidate, her research on identity development and culturally responsive pedagogy directly informs her kink education practice. Within the kink community, she has served as a Dungeon Monitor, demo bottom, and board member for Whippersnappers TNG, and is the founder and lead organizer of BIPOC at Frolicon. She presents across the Southeast at events including Frolicon, ConNooga, and Kink Down South, and has been published twice in Black Leather in Color Magazine. Sarai311 is also the author of What We Could Never Be and Unholy Attachments, and is known for creating spaces where kink, identity, and intentional self-exploration can safely coexist. TO REGISTER MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though they are being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
TES Online – TES Board Meeting May 18 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual Are you a current TES member? You're invited to our monthly board meeting! This is your chance to connect with fellow members, hear what the board is working on, and help shape the future of our organization. This meeting is online only and is open to current TES members only. How to Join All members receive details on how to join the meeting in our monthly newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Mirror, sent on the first of the month. If you are a current member and didn't receive the information, please email us at secretary@tes.org. We Have Board Vacancies! Looking to get more involved? We have several board vacancies and would love for you to join us. If you're interested, you can review the requirements and nominate yourself. Not a Member Yet? If you're interested in becoming a member or need to renew your membership, you can do so here. We'd love to have you!
TES Online – Sweet Talk & Mean Whispers: A Masterclass in Verbal Contrast May 19 @ 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM Virtual They say talk is cheap, but in the bedroom or the dungeon, the right words can be priceless. The most powerful tool in your kit isn’t necessarily a toy or a restraint; it’s your mind, and it’s your voice. Whether you’re looking to deepen emotional intimacy or command a room with a single sentence, this class is designed to help you find and refine your erotic voice. This workshop explores the “Verbal Contrast,” the dynamic interplay between sweetness and severity. Strip away the “script” and learn to build a vocabulary that feels natural to you... and electrifying to your partner. Bonus: These techniques work great in person OR at a distance and can be a great way to maintain your desire when your relationship is virtual or long-distance. We’ll Cover: The Verbal Contract: Navigating safety and consent, including how to negotiate verbal triggers, hard limits, and linguistic aftercare. Overcoming the “Giggle Factor”: Practical exercises to move past the initial awkwardness or “cringe” of dirty talk and find your authentic flow The Anatomy of “The Three Ts”: How to use tone, tempo, and timber to shift the energy in the room before you even touch your partner. Verbal Archetypes: Identifying your natural style… whether you are a poetic romantic, a commanding authority, or a playful teaser The Power of Contrast: Learning how to jump between “Sweet Talk” (validation, adoration, vulnerability) and “Mean Whispers” (commands, assertive language, “trash talk”) to create maximum tension. Bio: xoxoDIVA is a creative, unique and insatiable Domme whose deep passion for kink is matched only by her dedication to teaching it. While embodying authority and command, Diva maintains a friendly and approachable demeanor, and loves doing "mean things" with a smile on her face. She finds joy in the nuanced interplay of being both kind and mean simultaneously — a dynamic she loves to explore in her classes. A dedicated kink educator and seasoned community leader, Diva is driven to share her knowledge. Drawing on her experience, including roles as a Black Rose Emeritus Board Member and Studio 58 staff, she works to empower curious learners to explore their desires and find their authentic selves. Being part of someone’s first steps toward realizing their fantasies is sacred to her, and she takes that obligation very seriously. This commitment is grounded in open communication and a pledge to creating safe, yet growth-focused, spaces where boundaries can be pushed and new depths of intimacy discovered. She is particularly drawn to students who are confident, committed, and eager to learn. Diva offers highly technical and methodical, yet always entertaining, lessons in a wide variety of scene topics. Ethics As a professional kink educator, Diva embraces and upholds the ethical and responsible practices as outlined in the Kink Education Code of Conduct. She has adopted the Kink Education Minimum Standards (KEMS) code of conduct and has nothing to disclose. TO REGISTER: MEMBERS – $5 Create a Member Portal account using the same email address used when you purchased your membership. (Email membership@tes.org if you have forgotten the one you used when registering for TES.) Be sure to respond to the confirmation email & choose a password. After that, log back into the Member Portal. To complete your purchase, click on this link and follow the instructions. Your membership discount will be automatically applied. NON-MEMBERS – $10 /$15 day of event Click here to register for this class. If cost is a barrier to attendance, please email customer-care@tes.org REGISTRATION CLOSES 30 MINUTES BEFORE THE START OF CLASS! ALL QUESTIONS GO TO CUSTOMER-CARE@TES.ORG! YOU WILL RECEIVE THE LOGIN LINK WITH THE CONFIRMATION EMAIL. **Note – if you are seeing an “event ended” screen – try one or more of the following: Refresh Clear cache Try a different browser** The DatingKinky platform is supported by multiple browsers, but if you are having any technical difficulties, please try a different browser, as certain settings may interfere. Note that this link will only be active during scheduled meeting times. You are welcome to participate as actively as you are comfortable. By default, users’ cameras and microphones will be switched off, and you may simply watch passively or participate solely by text in the chat box if you are uncomfortable being seen or heard. Please note that while we have selected this platform to be as private as possible while maintaining sufficient ease of use for participants, no online platform is ever fully secure. While all regular TES rules regarding privacy remain in effect, and anyone caught violating these rules will be subject to consequences (please see our Online Meeting Terms of Service), we advise participants to treat online events as though the event is being recorded by a third party. For more information on protecting your online privacy, please see our online privacy guide.
